My sister (47) is obtaining a divorce (married 8 years, two children ages 6 and 8, stbexh age 52) due to her ex verbally abusing her and throwing things and pushing the kids. CPS got involved briefly then closed the case, deeming no actual violence occurred.
She paid for him to move out three months ago. She is now dating someone who is a 180 from her own personal and political views, and within a week of meeting him, met his 15 month old love child. He was on his second marriage (20 years), then met a young AP and impregnated her. My sister has him over to her house, puts the 15 month old baby to sleep while they have adult fun.
Three months after she had her Soon to be ex move out. She has filed but it is not even pending at this point.
I think this is cheating. I hated her ex. He was a bad guy. This guy is pretty awful on paper as well. Very different than everything she has ever said she wanted, and he is an ex cheater with a love child with a woman 30 years his junior.
I called her on all of this. And unfortunately, her soon to be ex husband was watching her texts on her old iPad and came across this crap. So she screwed up her divorce. Ugh. Her ex came across her texts to Mr Wonderful for 3 weeks, not mine.
When I say I called her on it, I pointed out the irrational decisions she is making. I also pointed out some hurtful stuff she was doing. She absolutely lacks insight.
She is giving the usual excuses cheaters give. "I’ve sacrificed everything for everyone else, I just want to be happy and he makes me happy." They have known each other 3 weeks. I told her she should get an arm brace because her arm is gonna get tired with all the times she puts her wrist to her forehead. It’s pure Scarlett OHara.
Wtf.
When is having sex after you separate ok? This concerns me because it feels like cheating to me. And I just don’t want a part in that at all.
Like yuck. Let the sheets cool down. Did you even wash them between dudes?
I know she had trauma from exhole, but three months?!?!? This is weird right? Or am I old fashioned?!?!
[This message edited by 3yrsout at 7:10 PM, Monday, November 22nd]