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Divorce/Separation :
My stbxww is brain dead


 Justsomeguy (original poster member #65583) posted at 2:41 AM on Wednesday, October 20th, 2021

Okay, I haven't posted a thread in a while. Still getting used to the new site. Old dog, new tricks and all of that. Well, I had to update you on my divorce proceedings. Things are progressing slowly, as my STBXWW is slower than a shit through a long dog, but movement there is...

So I get a text from STBXWW asking if she can call me to clarify some tax stuff. You know, information that I had already sent her. Once on the phone, I told her that she already had it, and would you believe it? Yup, found it right away. So before I hang up, I ask if that's all? Funny I should ask...

She asks me if the party room in my complex is open?

No, I respond. Still closed due to covid.

Oh, she says.

Why, I ask? Stupid, stupid me!

Turns out, my STBXWW needs a venue to host her boyfriend's birthday party, and because they are antivaxxers, they need to show proof of vaccination to rent a public space, plus are limited to 50 people. If I was drinking, I would have spit my drink out.

That's too bad I respond. Yup, she says, it's a big birthday, his 60th... Oh, I respond. I Didnt realize your boyfriend was that old... cover mouthpiece and chortle.

Not age shaming, just that I'm certain that my STBXWW imagined a single life where beefy 30 year old men would be orbiting her like the moons of Jupiter, that life would be some never ending adventure because, well she's so hot and deserves it. Reality, not so much. I mean, the market value for a 52 year old serial cheater is slightly more limited than she expected. Cue Karma bus.

Now, no disrespect to older guys, as I am one and past my best before date. I'm just pointing out the disconnect between her imagined single life and her real one. But what really got me was that she was actually asking her STBXBH if he could host a birthday party for her new boyfriend and 48 of his closest unvaccinated friends.

Sorry, I said.

Thanks, but if you think of anything, can you let me know.

Yeah, you bet.... rolleyes

Me:53STBXWW:51DD#1: false confession of EA Dec. 2016. False R for a year.DD#2: confessed to year long PA Dec. 2 2017 (was about to be outed)Called it off.Denied having an affair in court papers.

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FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 4:17 AM on Wednesday, October 20th, 2021

Holy flaming shitballs that one takes the cake. duh NO is a complete sentence. You did good.

ETA: The universe is shrinking around these nutjobs as the other 90% of us are getting on with our lives. They've painted themselves into a corner and the only thing in it is an overflowing porta-potty. laugh

[This message edited by FaithFool at 4:20 AM, Wednesday, October 20th]

DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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rambler ( member #43747) posted at 4:19 AM on Wednesday, October 20th, 2021

She has two 30's in one. That takes a lot of guts, not much brains guts.

making it through

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bluewater ( member #9297) posted at 4:20 AM on Wednesday, October 20th, 2021

After all the years I have been here I can still count on some wayward or ex- to every so often surprise me.

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Marz ( member #60895) posted at 6:05 AM on Wednesday, October 20th, 2021

She wants to be your friend now. 😂🤡

This is why no contact is your best friend.

[This message edited by Marz at 7:50 PM, Friday, October 22nd]

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Bigger ( Guide #8354) posted at 2:55 PM on Wednesday, October 20th, 2021

Depending on the resentment and how far along in healing I was in…
I would be tempted to provide a party room for 50 anti-vaxers if my ex and OM were amongst them.
50 people not respecting social distancing and not impeding their freedoms by wearing a mask crammed into a small room with limited ventilation… blush

"If, therefore, any be unhappy, let him remember that he is unhappy by reason of himself alone." Epictetus

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humantrampoline ( member #61458) posted at 4:25 PM on Wednesday, October 20th, 2021

Ok Bigger, that's pretty funny.

I thought this was going to be a sad story about how she was in an accident and actually physically brain dead. I don't know which story would be more tragic though. She is a clueless person.

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DevastatedDee ( member #59873) posted at 5:54 PM on Wednesday, October 20th, 2021

Ha ha ha Bigger! grin

Justsomeguy, damn. I thought I had a stupid one, but you win. My XWH became a jobless crack addict living with his mom and threatened to take me to court for custody of our dog. I have a good job, own my own home, name on all the vet bills, and work part-time with the Humane Society. I kinda wished he would try it at the time just for the humor aspect. But no, yours wins hands down. laugh

[This message edited by DevastatedDee at 5:55 PM, Wednesday, October 20th]

DDay: 06/07/2017
MH - RA on DDay.
Divorced a serial cheater (prostitutes and lord only knows who and what else).

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rugswept ( member #48084) posted at 6:32 PM on Wednesday, October 20th, 2021

It's time to think of this woman as just some person you don't know and have never heard of.
Just open any directory (i would have said "phone book") and choose a name in the list....
Who's that? ... oh, you don't know. Oh, it's your XWW. No more STBXWW since she doesn't exist anymore, at all.
We all send her and beau our best.

R'd (rug swept everything) decades ago.
I'm big on R. Very happy marriage but can never forget.

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Tigersrule77 ( member #47339) posted at 9:06 PM on Wednesday, October 20th, 2021

That's a facepalm if I ever heard one. Some WS's have no clue. She is one.

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Thumos ( member #69668) posted at 11:12 PM on Wednesday, October 20th, 2021

On the upside, she just showed you exactly who she is yet again.

"True character is revealed in the choices a human being makes under pressure. The greater the pressure, the deeper the revelation, the truer the choice to the character's essential nature."

BH: 50, WW: 49 Wed: Feb.'96 DDAY1: 12.20.16 DDAY2: 12.23.19

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Trust55 ( member #60672) posted at 1:18 AM on Thursday, October 21st, 2021

I'm still laughing.....

Me - BS - D Day 03.19.2017 ( 2 days before our 31 wedding anniversary)False R Divorce in progress FILED JUNE 2017, BREAKING NEWS: TRIAL JUNE 2022!

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66charger ( member #69471) posted at 3:32 AM on Thursday, October 21st, 2021

Oh, I respond. I Didnt realize your boyfriend was that old... cover mouthpiece and chortle

Sitting at my spot, watching the Dodgers get crushed and almost blew my beer.

As a follow up, you could send her a list of a few senior citizens centers. They may have an opening, however they may not take kindly to the unvaxxed.

A shot and a beer for justsomeguy.

[This message edited by 66charger at 3:34 AM, Thursday, October 21st]

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99problems ( member #59373) posted at 4:00 AM on Wednesday, October 27th, 2021

Holy shit, man.

Maybe she's been mainlining horse dewormer or something... :)

I fully expect something similar from x at some point, new shiny is a antivaxxer, flatearther, (insert every other crazy conspiracy here).

*Shrugs* i guess it just reaffirms my great and amazing decision to never look back.

Got me a new forum name!<BR />Formerly Idiotmcstupid.<BR />I am divorced, so not as much of an idiot now- 4/15/21,

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Gottagetthrough ( member #27325) posted at 6:04 AM on Wednesday, October 27th, 2021

I get the age thing! I am older NOW than OW1 was at the time of the affair. (She was 38 when she was with WH and I am now 42)

But I still make fun of how old she was. laugh She was 7 years older than me, so I was 31 when this all started and she was 38. I was shocked WH would go for a woman almost 40.

His joke was always that he was going to get some 20 year old girl friend. When I asked if he was cheating with OW1, he said, "No! You know Id go for a 20 year old, not a 40 year old!"

I was asked to do them a favor and pick the kids up early from a weekend once, because her dogs were being put down. I said both?? Yes. One had cancer, and the other had to be put down bc he would sad his dog friend was gone. duh

I was happy to do them that favor- i always wanted the kids so picking them up early was no problem- but I get the audacity. No man, we aren’t cool. Youre not my buddy. duh

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