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 freetogonow (original poster Member #57821) posted at 8:19 AM on Tuesday, September 14th, 2021

The only reason he isn't blocked is because divorce is pending and I need his cooperation on a couple things, so while I don't mind tormenting him by ignoring him, I also don't want to actively seek to provoke him.

He is desperate and getting more desperate as our divorce date gets closer.

Me: Pocket dials him by mistake

Me: Immediately texts and says, "sorry, pocket dial." I know good and well that he got that text.

20 minutes later, he's blowing up my phone and I know he's not gonna stop so I just figure I'll answer and tell him verbally what he already knows: "Yeah as the text said (LOL), that was a pocket dial, sorry." Him: "oh I was worried, I saw I had a missed call, I just wanted to be sure you were ok" yadda yadda.


Discussion with my hairdresser today.

Me: Apparently the grass wasn't greener.

Her: No, the grass is dying.

We laughed our asses off.

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The1stWife ( Member #58832) posted at 3:35 PM on Tuesday, September 14th, 2021

馃槀馃槅馃槀馃槅

Every betrayed should read this. Just more proof the AP is not the answer to whatever problems the cheater was trying to solve.

No affair or AP or anything like that will magically erase the issues. It just becomes one more thing to add to the pool of crap the cheater has to deal with.

[This message edited by The1stWife at 8:27 AM, Friday, September 17th]

Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled.

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Sofarsogood ( Member #71991) posted at 4:45 PM on Tuesday, September 14th, 2021

It's too bad that actions have consequences eh? Wouldn't It be great if people were able to take a minute and think about what their decisions might entail? I'm not saying that some aren't redeemable, but they could've saved others a lot of heartache, had they thought things through.

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crazyblindsided ( Member #35215) posted at 8:21 PM on Tuesday, September 14th, 2021

laugh laugh

No, the grass is dying.

This part laugh laugh laugh

fBS/fWS (me):48 Mad-hattered after DD1
XWS:50 Serial Cheater, NPD tendencies
Together 24 years, Married 19
DD(18) DS(15)
DD1 (2008) COW, DD2 (2012) MOW, False R (2014) Same MOW. DD3 (2019) Webcam girl

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99problems ( Member #59373) posted at 3:01 AM on Friday, September 17th, 2021

Turns out it wasn't grass at all, but a field of poison ivy and nettles.

Shucks.

Got me a new forum name!<BR />Formerly Idiotmcstupid.<BR />I am divorced, so not as much of an idiot now- 4/15/21,

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99problems ( Member #59373) posted at 3:01 AM on Friday, September 17th, 2021

Double post

[This message edited by 99problems at 9:02 PM, September 16th, 2021 (Thursday)]

Got me a new forum name!<BR />Formerly Idiotmcstupid.<BR />I am divorced, so not as much of an idiot now- 4/15/21,

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The1stWife ( Member #58832) posted at 8:29 AM on Friday, September 17th, 2021

This bolsters my theory that for some people, "you want what you can鈥檛 have" holds true.

Why is he now remorseful? Because he cannot get you back and he realizes it now.

[This message edited by The1stWife at 7:16 PM, Monday, September 20th]

Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled.

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HalfTime2017 ( Member #64366) posted at 6:43 PM on Monday, September 20th, 2021

The1stWife is so right on with this.

No affair or AP or anything like that will magically erase the issues. It just becomes one more thing to add to the pool of crap the cheater has to deal with.

Cheating builds on a whole new set of problems. I know in my case, and many of the other BS, their wives had some self esteem issues. Or are in need of a lot of positive affirmations. HOW the HELL does cheating get you this in the long run? I think they add on more issues to their already fragile self. Sooner or later, will implode and I don't want to be there to see their rock bottom.

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