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I'm doing better, and i can hardly believe it.

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 99problems (original poster member #59373) posted at 3:43 AM on Tuesday, June 29th, 2021

Hey y'all, just checking in.

I am doing so much better. I won't pretend that every day is sunshine and unicorn farts, but every day that goes by finds me settling into this life of being a single parent, and learning how i do that and find my happy place.

I've been into podcasts lately (lol 10 years later than everyone else) because i drive for work hours daily, and got really tired of my inner monologue. It has been a game changer, and I'm sure a lot of you are shaking their heads at that, but it just goes to show you how we each need a very individual method of coping with shit.

So many posts on this site are "how do i deal with this?" And the answer is, "only you can know."

It makes infidelity and divorce infinitely more lonely and depressing in a way. Yet i can say that once you find out your thing, that you feel even better discovering it on your own than you would have if someone would have spoon-fed it to you online.

Anyway, just my weird ramblings, hope you all are finding your own peace in your own weird ways.

Also i got a kitten, he's fucking awesome and his name is Shadow.

Got me a new forum name!<BR />Formerly Idiotmcstupid.<BR />I am divorced, so not as much of an idiot now- 4/15/21,

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beb252 ( member #78948) posted at 11:20 AM on Tuesday, June 29th, 2021

Good job! You're healing up pretty well!

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Shehawk ( member #68741) posted at 6:48 PM on Tuesday, June 29th, 2021

So glad you gave an update! Shadow huh? That's a great name!

"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!

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EllieKMAS ( member #68900) posted at 7:07 PM on Tuesday, June 29th, 2021

Pets help SO much. I ended up getting custody of my xwh's cat in the D, and The Stig has helped me so so much with everything.

99P, I am very happy that you're doing better these days. Amazing how much life improves once you're free of the cheater's BS, yeah?

"No, it's you mothafucka, here's a list of reasons why." – Iliza Schlesinger

"The love that you lost isn't worth what it cost and in time you'll be glad that it's gone." – Linkin Park

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leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 10:55 PM on Wednesday, June 30th, 2021

Glad for the positive update. Things are better once out of the grip of the narc.

BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21

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Shehawk ( member #68741) posted at 3:02 AM on Monday, July 26th, 2021

Shadow sounds like a cool guy!

"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!

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J707 ( member #63778) posted at 4:05 AM on Monday, July 26th, 2021

Good for you man! I found singing along to songs I want to play on guitar on my commute fun. 5am drivers are like "wtf?" I don't care. Podcasts are cool though. I need to get back into that.

While this whole thing is a process, there is a sense of peace and calm after. Almost unknown. Healing is a trip after the shit storm that was laid upon us. You're doing great! Shadow sounds awesome! Enjoy the little kittie!

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stubbornft ( member #49614) posted at 3:51 PM on Tuesday, July 27th, 2021

99problems such a great update! Man pets are the best!!!! Can you share any podcast recommendations? I listen to them while I work (still working from home, since COVID) and I am getting burned out on my regulars.

Me: BS 40 Him: WS 51 He cheated with massage parlor sex workersDday 01/19/2021
Kicked him out in 2021 - life is better on the other side. Moved on with the help of a wonderful therapist.

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