Great topic. Music has always been the biggest part of my personality and of course I used it all the time, and specially now after the infidelity.
For my XWW and me the swedish band Opeth was OUR band! And after the infidelity and divorce now I have mixed feeling when I listen to their music, now it have a lot of emotional baggage.
I will recommend you guys to listen to the song Sorcerees it become for me a kind of anthem after my wife cheated.
Here's an exceprt of the lyrics:
Can you confess that you thrive in chaos?
You're a sorceress and your eye is on the lost
But you're dying
It's in your eyes
You're a charlatan
You get everything you wish
You're a harlot
Carry poison in your kiss
Beg forgiveness
With a dagger in your hand
When I'm sad I listen to sad music, it's a powerful validation of our feelings.
These past days I had a bit of nostalgia for the past and for the things that didn't happened and I've been listening to a lot of Nick Drake and Steven Wilson/Porcupine Tree.
A few months after my divorce I started to feel great for some time and a song that really really helped me was On Track by Tame Impala, it's a great uplifting song. Here's the full lyrics, that I will dedicate to all of you my friends:
I close my front door and turn on the light
I let out a breath and hold in a sigh
Ain't nothin' new, ain't that much inside
And if I'm counting days
Dream fruition ain't what it's looking like
But strictly speaking, I'm still on track
Strictly speaking, I'm holding on
One other minor setback
But strictly speaking, I'm still on track
And all of my dreams are still in sight
Strictly speaking, I've got my whole life
I lost a wheel a while back
But strictly speaking, I'm still on track
Trouble keeps falling in my lap
Strung out again, but still on track
I know it's unrealistic, over-optimistic
I know I tried before this, I know it's nearly August
I know I can't ignore this, looking forward to all this
Sayin', "Babe, I just adore this"
And "Babe, can we afford this?"
I know it's been a slow year, nothin' much to show here
I didn't really go for it, so not a lot to show for it
The hardest part is over, adjusting makes it slower
So glad you're coming over, I want to bring us closer
The world ain't waitin' for ya', nothin' to lose it over
We're just a shooting over, the rest comes easy
The rest comes easy
But strictly speaking, I'm still on track
Strictly speaking, I'm holding back
Troubles keep falling in my lap
Yeah, but strictly speaking, I'm still on track
So tell everyone I'll be alright
'Cause, strictly speaking, I've got my whole life
One other major setback
But strictly speaking, I'm still on track
Yeah!
The hardest part is over, adjusting makes it slower
So glad you're coming over, I want to bring us closer
The world ain't waitin' for ya', nothin' to lose it over
I just kept getting older, the rest gets easy
The rest gets easy