Hi everyone,
I haven't been here in a while, but I pop in every now and then. I have a problem now and I'm hoping someone can help advise me.
I got separated from my ex ( Genius) 9 years ago. Divorce was a battle and was finalized at the end of 2014.
Genius: serial cheater, double life, secret BDSM/anonymous sex with men and women and groups, formally diagnosed NPD, informally diagnosed sociopath and all-around monster.
We had a six-month child custody evaluation. At the end, the judge called Genius a "man who lied without conscience," and the child custody evaluator said no overnights for him.
But we couldn't use our evidence - longest story ever - and he ended up getting every other weekend and dinner one night a week - with our kids. AS far as I know he has never exposed them to any of his proclivities, and our kids are now young teens and doing well.
I finally have a SO. I've been dating him for three years. Genius has suddenly told me he's going back to court for full custody and support modification. NOTE: My SO has NEVER spent the night at my house, and neither has anyone else since my separation. My SO is a pretty decent, respected guy. We have done NOTHING wrong.
But Genius is revved up. He wants to sue my SO for "badmouthing him" (he did not, which shows a lot of restraint). He wants to go back to family law court with me. And he wants to bring me to small claims court because he never read one of the judge's final motions that says he must pay for half of medical expenses for our kids and claims he does not. So we are fighting over who pays sports team fees - I will not, because he owes me thousands of dollars.
Okay, I didn't need to write this much for a question, but I wanted everyone to know who I'm dealing with here.
Can I ask the judge to pay for his attorney fees if he loses? I don't have the money anymore to fight this guy in court. Plus he is an attorney who never really practiced law, but he represents himself. I of course hire an attorney.
Can I tell him in advance I am going to do this? I'm hoping it might slow down this circus if he knows he might lose.
If anyone read this far, thank you. I'll try to pay it forward and see if I can answer anyone else's questions. Let's just say I've seen it all.