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The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body...

number4 posted 2/24/2020 22:07 PM

Was wondering if anyone has read this book by Bessel A. van der Kolk? Thoughts? WH is reading it right now, but he's reading it from a different perspective than I am (BW). I have very early childhood (infant, toddler) medical trauma, as well as affair trauma. His trauma is parents who were alcoholics.

TheLostOne2020 posted 2/25/2020 07:59 AM

My wife is reading this. She hasn't said much about it, other than she wants to get to the part where it tells you how to fix things.

She's had significant childhood trauma (her whole family has) from her father, who was majorly abusive.

devotedman posted 2/25/2020 08:50 AM

CSA survivor here. Amazing book.

Fantayworld posted 2/25/2020 09:58 AM

I'm reading it now. It's excellent and explains so much related to trauma but in a somewhat scientific way. I'm just getting to the part about how to fix things and get in touch with the body where the trauma is stored. I highly recommend this book!

burninghouse posted 2/25/2020 11:18 AM

Excellent book. One of the best Iíve found dealing with trauma. Highly recommended.

crazyblindsided posted 2/25/2020 13:57 PM

This book was eye-opening for me. Helped me understand myself better than I could. I am also a survivor of childhood sexual abuse.

number4 posted 2/25/2020 14:51 PM

Just curious - does he offer what kinds of events constitute trauma? Or give a definition of PTSD? Am wondering if he suggests anywhere that betrayal trauma leads to PTSD? Not that I need anyone to tell me I have PTSD, but I wouldn't want to read a book if the author posits that betrayal trauma is not associated with PTSD.

[This message edited by number4 at 2:51 PM, February 25th (Tuesday)]

gmc94 posted 2/26/2020 22:36 PM

I do not recall that he speak specifically to relational betrayal trauma and PTSD. Itís an excellent book, Iíve read it more than once in the last 18 months.

He does a lot of delving into the common symptoms of PTSD, the politics of getting C-PTSD into the DSM, etc. I donít think he ever implies or says that relational betrayal could not constitute PTSD, but I do not believe he specifically says it does either. To me, TBKTS is absolutely worthwhile WRT healing from trauma - regardless of the origin(s).

If you want information on relational betrayal trauma and PTSD, I would listen to the Marnie Breecker 2-part interview on The Addicted Mind podcast and Helping Couples Heal Podcasts.

[This message edited by gmc94 at 10:40 PM, February 26th, 2020 (Wednesday)]

sunwillshine posted 2/29/2020 18:07 PM

This book saved my life. Made me understand that time alone would not help my PTSD. Convinced me to seek the help and treatment I needed. There are cures for PTSD. Be talks about them in his book. Today after various treatments, I have not had a dissociative episode in 2 and a half years.

Okokok posted 3/5/2020 13:54 PM

Today after various treatments, I have not had a dissociative episode in 2 and a half years.

Can you say more about this? If you're comfortable. I'm very interested to learn what worked for you.

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