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Oh, man, I would have LOVED to have heard you on the radio. You get wrapped up in people's stories on here, especially when we've all gone through something similar.

Now that stuff with the "Mark" call is straight up weird. I think you might be on to something thinking she might have done it, but for what reason? It doesn't help her case with you one bit.

Puzzling. Keep on soldiering on,man! Hope your holding up okay.

KingofNothing

Oh, man, I would have LOVED to have heard you on the radio. You get wrapped up in people's stories on here, especially when we've all gone through something similar.

If things were more wrapped up I totally would have. It would have been great. Lol.

Now that stuff with the "Mark" call is straight up weird. I think you might be on to something thinking she might have done it, but for what reason? It doesn't help her case with you one bit.

I don't think she did it. I'm thinking the OM might have. The timing is so weird to me.

Puzzling. Keep on soldiering on,man! Hope your holding up okay.

Thanks! I'm actually doing pretty good. I'm antsy as Hell. I just want to get this over with.

If interested take the phone number and reverse engineer it via one of those web services. You should be able to get a name.

Of course, it may not be that important to you.

Just curious, has she resigned herself to the fact that you will not be married for much longer. Is she still seeing the AP? Is she showing signs that she’s ready to move on, or wanting to try to repair (doubtful but thought I’d ask).

Take care.

Stevesn

If interested take the phone number and reverse engineer it via one of those web services. You should be able to get a name.

Of course, it may not be that important to you.

I was concerned that it may have been one of my less mature friends, so I texted him. It wasn't him - but he decided to screw with the person. It appears to have been something random. So my STBXW's stuff got hacked or whatever. Weird timing.

Just curious, has she resigned herself to the fact that you will not be married for much longer. Is she still seeing the AP? Is she showing signs that she’s ready to move on, or wanting to try to repair (doubtful but thought I’d ask).

I think she has resigned herself to that. As to seeing the AP - I haven't even asked. I see her occasionally throughout the day. We talk about who's feeding the kids. Maybe a little else, nothing relationship wise.

She's not really showing signs of anything, to be honest. She's just 'there', if that makes sense.

Take care.

Thanks, you too!

tell your WW that OM brag about the WW that was easy to

bang.

most likely it was someone that learned about your WW

willing reputation to put out from the OM so he went fishing

to see if he would get lucky at having a try with her.

oldtruck

tell your WW that OM brag about the WW that was easy to

bang.

most likely it was someone that learned about your WW

willing reputation to put out from the OM so he went fishing

to see if he would get lucky at having a try with her.

That's a good theory actually. I know that the OM did brag like that back in High School. I doubt he's changed.

Here's an ODD update - this just happened:

Apparently someone texted my STBXW, it was like a cheating text; some dude sent his picture, said:

"hey sexy it's mark"

Asked if she was in bed and said he was horny for her. He mentioned her name specifically. I haven't seen him before and neither has she. She came up crying asking if I had done it or had one of my friends do it.

Just a wild guess, but maybe at some point in time she placed ad(s) on sites like Ashley Madison... or maybe the OM or friends of his are messing with y'all.

thatbpguy

Just a wild guess, but maybe at some point in time she placed ad(s) on sites like Ashley Madison... or maybe the OM or friends of his are messing with y'all.

It could be either of those. I'd say maybe the OM or one of his friends or just something random. I'm not horribly concerned to be frank. It wasn't the one friend of mine that I would have suspected, so I'm good.

This is off topic but it's a downer for me. I realized that the 10 year anniversary of the suicide of my friend is coming up (May 1st). He attempted suicide in 2009 because one girl broke up with him. In 2010 a different girl broke up with him and he committed the act.

I've been thinking about just how powerful relationships can be - and some people (cheaters) abuse it because they are shit people.

Sorry about your friend...

IMO the "hey sexy" thing is a little too random to be random if you know what I mean. Friend of the OM is the most logical but who knows?

Respect brother, not too long.

One day at a time

Buffer

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MickeyBill2016

Sorry about your friend...

Yeah - I need to do something to get out of this mood. I will probably go for a walk.

I was thinking about it - about how big the impact of infidelity could be. I'm glad I didn't spiral down that particular route. I know the emotions are raw and heavy the first few weeks. I can see why people do it. But what a mistake it would be. Jesus, all over a person with garbage principles and morals? No, just no.

IMO the "hey sexy" thing is a little too random to be random if you know what I mean. Friend of the OM is the most logical but who knows?

I kinda agree but I'm not horribly concerned anyway.

Buffer

Respect brother, not to long.

One day at a time

Buffer

Thanks man.

Do you monitor her cell phone bill? If so and she knows you do it could have been a cover for someone she is communicating with that wasn't supposed to text email her at that number/address. Just a thought.

It could be a friend of OM fishing as well, just seems REALLY fishy.

RubixCubed

Do you monitor her cell phone bill? If so and she knows you do it could have been a cover for someone she is communicating with that wasn't supposed to text email her at that number/address. Just a thought.

It could be a friend of OM fishing as well, just seems REALLY fishy.

No, I don't - she pays for her own phone bill so I never see it.

It is really fishy. The OM is a scumbag so it could just be him or a friend of his. It could also just be a random thing.

TLO:

Don't give the text more head space than it deserves.

Not your circus, not your monkeys.

farsidejunky

TLO:

Don't give the text more head space than it deserves.

Not your circus, not your monkeys.

That's kind of where I'm at. I have too much other shit going on.

On another note, my friend who was screwing with the text person actually reached out to one of our old classmates recently. Him, my STBXW, and I all went to the same High School.

Anyway, he's talking to her - he's divorced, as is she, and they were just commiserating. He brings up my situation and this old classmate said that she ran into my STBXW's AP a few times over the years. Said he always came off as slimy and hitting on her and shit.

I'm not surprised at all. My friend wants me to reach out to the old classmate. I might, just to catch up - I actually went all the way from elementary school to high school with her.

Hey, TLO, just got an email from Elite Shooting sports. The range is opening up soon. I may head over there and bust some caps some time in May. Just thought you'd want to know.

KingofNothing

Hey, TLO, just got an email from Elite Shooting sports. The range is opening up soon. I may head over there and bust some caps some time in May. Just thought you'd want to know.

Thanks man! I actually would like to know that stuff.

Do you know if they have any ammo restrictions? Blue Ridge won't let me fire steel tipped bullets. So I can't use the 98k.

As for the smoking has your father tried Chantix?? That's how I quit. And after multiple attempts for years. The nicotine patch is good but not nearly as effective IMO.

I don't think he has. I'll run it past him though.

I'm seriously getting antsy with regard to the mediator. I realize it's a legal document and all but it should be fairly boiler plate, I think.

Guess what came a few minutes ago?!

The first fucking draft of the separation document. I have to go through it. My STBXW and I will make edits and then submit.

Justice boner popped.

That said, it's 37 pages long. Damn.