Cookies are required for login or registration. Please read and agree to our cookie policy to continue.

Newest Member: Traumatizedforever

I Can Relate :
Betrayed Menz Thread-Part 33

Topic is Sleeping.
default

SaddestDad ( member #69800) posted at 1:07 AM on Wednesday, March 13th, 2019

Lol that's amazing. On that note, maybe that rumor he mentioned isn't so inconceivable after all...

Life is a wheel. Sooner or later everything you'd left behind comes around again. For good or ill, it comes around again.

For what profit is to a man if he gains the world but loses his own soul?

BH 32
WW 34 Change4thebetter

Working hard

posts: 603   ·   registered: Feb. 17th, 2019   ·   location: NY
id 8343459
default

Notthevictem ( member #44389) posted at 2:15 AM on Wednesday, March 13th, 2019

Yup, tubing on slow moving river, no rapids. Totally relaxing. First 5 mins you feel like you should be doing something then 5 min's later it's a relax decompression fest.

[This message edited by Notthevictem at 6:41 AM, March 14th (Thursday)]

BH
DDAY Mar 2014
Widowed 2022 - breast cancer

posts: 13534   ·   registered: Aug. 5th, 2014   ·   location: Washington State
id 8343486
default

Butforthegrace ( member #63264) posted at 8:31 PM on Friday, March 15th, 2019

Okay, gents, it's Friday. In my frozen tundra part of the nation, a couple of days of warm gentle rain, followed by a day of warm sunshine, has the roads all cleared up, and the roof too. Lots of wet basements in the area, but gratefully mine is not among them. Fixing to enjoy some of our area's amazing craft brews tonight, and, if lucky, a roll with the wife.

"The wicked man flees when no one chases."

posts: 4180   ·   registered: Mar. 31st, 2018   ·   location: Midwest
id 8345249
default

steadychevy ( member #42608) posted at 11:48 PM on Friday, March 15th, 2019

Happy Friday, gents. No beer for me. I don't have any in the house and it's too far to go get some. Hope Friday is a lucky night for BFTG.

BH(me)72(now); XWW 64; M 42 yrsDDay1-01/09/13;DDay2-26/10/13;DDay3-19/12/13;DDay4-21/01/14LTA-09/02-06/06? OM - COW 4 years; "dates" w/3 lovers post engagement;ONS w/stranger post commitment, lies, lies, liesSeparated 23/09/2017; D 16/03/2020

posts: 4719   ·   registered: Feb. 27th, 2014   ·   location: Canada
id 8345380
default

Cephastion ( member #51990) posted at 3:58 AM on Saturday, March 16th, 2019

I'm reading and lurking,I guess but not really posting much content on here tonight. I just read a couple of things that got posted on here today and I also looked back at some posts from a year ago...

If this is progress, I think I liked it better when i was still back behind where I've "advanced" and gotten to by now in some ways...

Back THEN I was still looking for answers...

Now I can say that I have gotten a very great deal of answers, to certain things at LEAST, so that's not the issue...

I'm just not sure what to actually DO with some of what all I now know i guess...

BH-me / WW-(Pyrite)
Left Thanksgiving 2019 w/ unresolved childhood trauma and other general selfishness issues that she refuses to honestly address, resolve,& heal from.--"For where your wealth/treasure is, there will your heart be also."--Yeshua

posts: 2323   ·   registered: Feb. 25th, 2016
id 8345523
default

Notthevictem ( member #44389) posted at 12:57 AM on Sunday, March 17th, 2019

You could...

write a book?

Get a degree in psychology?

Become a hitman and hunt down cheating spouses in your spare time to keep your skills sharp?

Compose music?

Write and sell cards?

BH
DDAY Mar 2014
Widowed 2022 - breast cancer

posts: 13534   ·   registered: Aug. 5th, 2014   ·   location: Washington State
id 8345859
default

Notthevictem ( member #44389) posted at 12:59 AM on Sunday, March 17th, 2019

I guess I don't understand why you feel you NEED to do anything with the knowledge.

I mean I KNOW how to hit the water when I take a piss, but I haven't used that knowledge purposely in decades.

[This message edited by Notthevictem at 6:59 PM, March 16th (Saturday)]

BH
DDAY Mar 2014
Widowed 2022 - breast cancer

posts: 13534   ·   registered: Aug. 5th, 2014   ·   location: Washington State
id 8345860
default

Cephastion ( member #51990) posted at 1:27 AM on Sunday, March 17th, 2019

I kinda like how Marty McFly confronted his 1950's "Dad" to get him to get past himself and do what he should have done all along.

I also wish that his "dad" would have performed a brass knuckles "skillet lobotomy" or castration on Bif.

If that would be a legal occupation...then yeah, I think I would be seriously into that.

Why don't superheroes ever fight THAT kind of crime, anyway?

The closest I can think of was the third Iron Man installment when he went after his fiance's newfound "flame" and also kinda saved her from herself. And they weren't even married in that one.

I wouldn't mind being a Christian kind of non-lethal "Punisher" that specializes in putting wrong things right somehow...

BH-me / WW-(Pyrite)
Left Thanksgiving 2019 w/ unresolved childhood trauma and other general selfishness issues that she refuses to honestly address, resolve,& heal from.--"For where your wealth/treasure is, there will your heart be also."--Yeshua

posts: 2323   ·   registered: Feb. 25th, 2016
id 8345865
default

stolenyears ( member #65758) posted at 2:37 AM on Sunday, March 17th, 2019

I hope the Friday night luck was successful BFTG! We celebrated March 14 in fine fashion, and my wife even got the steaks and had the marinating when I got home. Hope that holiday gets more widespread, especially for all of us on this thread.

Gorgeous day here for some spring yard work. Went to Total Wine and sampled wine and spirits and caught a buzz...yikes! Maybe I should eat before I go...

Me: BH
Her: fWW
Married: 30 years, kids 26, 23 and 16
DDay: 5-24-17, multiple APs
Current status: In Recovery

posts: 165   ·   registered: Aug. 8th, 2018
id 8345873
default

Tred ( member #34086) posted at 7:13 PM on Thursday, March 21st, 2019

I'd be looking for somewhere with a lazy river.

We did that down the Shenandoah once. 6 hour trip with a cooler of beer in it's own tube. It was amazing, 6 hours of drinking and no one had to pee.

We just went down to New Orleans for my son's spring break, did some fishing and site seeing. On the way down we stopped in Chattanooga to break up the trip and got some excellent Ole Smoky Mango Habanero whiskey. That shit is good. Had to buy several more bottles on the way back as they don't sell it in the Virginia ABC stores. Now I'll have to find more reasons to make the drive down to Tennessee...

Married: 27 years (14 @JFO) D-Day: 11/09/11"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

posts: 5883   ·   registered: Dec. 2nd, 2011
id 8348476
default

tbkjcn ( member #44744) posted at 6:46 PM on Thursday, March 28th, 2019

Well, I guess I won't need to explain that the water around here is WAY too cold for tubing..... Maybe it's up to 40, but thats iffy.... not even in my dry suit. My little jaunt is off, the pictures speak for themselves.

Last night, about 3 blocks from the parking garage, a kid half a car length in front of me, on my right, decided he really really needed to cut across my lane to make a left turn abut 10 feet from the intersection.

The front wheel is only still attached to the car by the brake caliper. The fender and bumper are obviously trashed, I just hope it didn't get into the frame, or if it did, it's only the front sub-frame. It's at my preferred body shop, although SF wanted me to take it to "one of their preferred, local, certified, no-hassle" body shops. I made them tow it 35 miles back home, where there is a most excellent craftsman who will restore it to it's original perfection (minus the body panel VIN tags, which will cost me about 4 grand in resale value, if I ever sell it (not bloody likely)). But he can't touch it until SF comes to look at it, and their entire computer system is apparently down and they can't enter any claims this morning.

Me: BH 49 (then)
Her: WW 48 (then)
D-Day 8-30-14 3 yr LTA and 1 ONS (9-1-14 the rest of the story, she can't remember how many men)
Divorce filed 1/14/15, final 4/7/15
Married 23 years together 28

posts: 667   ·   registered: Sep. 3rd, 2014   ·   location: IL
id 8352428
default

Gettingoveritall ( member #46722) posted at 6:52 PM on Thursday, March 28th, 2019

Ouch! That sucks tbk!

I hope you get it back soon.

Me: BH
Her: WW

posts: 703   ·   registered: Feb. 9th, 2015   ·   location: United States
id 8352432
default

Notthevictem ( member #44389) posted at 1:46 PM on Friday, March 29th, 2019

That's what you get for not driving a tank. Shoulda bought a M1 Abrams.

BH
DDAY Mar 2014
Widowed 2022 - breast cancer

posts: 13534   ·   registered: Aug. 5th, 2014   ·   location: Washington State
id 8352936
default

tbkjcn ( member #44744) posted at 5:15 PM on Friday, March 29th, 2019

That's what you get for not driving a tank

That's not my every day car. My regular car may not be a tank, but it's a nice generic CRV. Which happened to have developed an annoying problem with one of the door locks that stripped a plastic gear and makes a horrible grinding noise as it tries over and over to lock the back door. A problem which means I have to disassemble the door to remove and replace the latch mechanism. Which has to wait for a nice weekend to tear into. A problem which caused me to say to myself "Hey, its a nice day, you just got the S out from under its winter cover last weekend. You know, you could drive that today and not have to listen to that screeching noise from behind your head every time you pull away from a stop light....."

Still waiting on the adjuster to make it to the body shop and give them the go ahead to start taking it apart. At least the owner did offer to make room in his shop to store it inside instead of on his lot, "so it doesn't have to sit in the rain."

*Sigh*

Me: BH 49 (then)
Her: WW 48 (then)
D-Day 8-30-14 3 yr LTA and 1 ONS (9-1-14 the rest of the story, she can't remember how many men)
Divorce filed 1/14/15, final 4/7/15
Married 23 years together 28

posts: 667   ·   registered: Sep. 3rd, 2014   ·   location: IL
id 8353124
default

Notthevictem ( member #44389) posted at 5:21 PM on Friday, March 29th, 2019

Well I guess I can't be too upset about you not buying a tank what with the crv and all.

BH
DDAY Mar 2014
Widowed 2022 - breast cancer

posts: 13534   ·   registered: Aug. 5th, 2014   ·   location: Washington State
id 8353130
default

WornDown ( member #37977) posted at 8:20 AM on Saturday, March 30th, 2019

Ugh. That sucks.

I hope you're able to put it all back together.

Me: BH (50); exW (49): Way too many guys to count. Three kids (D, D, S, all >20)Together 25 years, married 18; Divorced (July 2015)

I divorced a narc. Separate everything. NC as much as humanly possible and absolutely no phone calls. - Ch

posts: 3359   ·   registered: Jan. 2nd, 2013   ·   location: Around the Block a few times
id 8353636
default

sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 10:17 PM on Saturday, March 30th, 2019

Sorry that happened, tbkjcn. I'm also sorry you've had enough experience with this sort of thing to know a craftsman.

Nothing much going on here. I just got a new phone that I fear isn't as loud as my old one. That may make me send it back.

fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

posts: 30556   ·   registered: Feb. 18th, 2011   ·   location: Illinois
id 8353886
default

tbkjcn ( member #44744) posted at 3:03 AM on Sunday, March 31st, 2019

sorry you've had enough experience with this sort of thing to know a craftsman

It's pretty rural down here, sisoon. It's not a question of if you're going to hit a deer, but when and how many. One of my fellow "Old Guyz with Convertiblz" who hunts says "at least the ones I get with the truck don't cost me a tag."

As for the "Craftsman", the first time I used this small body shop was back in the early 90's. My first car of my adult money-making life was a POS Dodge Omni, silver over grey. Rear ended a girl on the interstate in the rain when someone merged in front of her and I hydroplaned into the back of her boat-a-matic. Took it thereon a co-workers recommendation and because it was 6 blocks from where I worked as a code monkey at the time. Stopped by one day to find him getting ready to paint the new body panels. But first he took the old ones into the paint booth and masked off successive stripes and painted them, adjusting his paint mixture to match the faded paint on the old panels. For a POS Omni. Gone back there ever since when I've needed metal fixed.

I hope you're able to put it all back together.

I am pretty sure it will be. I just hope the insurance adjuster makes it out there Monday. Both the shop owner and I are getting antsy. I think the chances of it being totaled are less than 10%. Based on a quick search the only comparable S around here is a yellow one (not my style) in Chicago thats 2 years older and $2K more than I paid three years ago. I would challenge the adjuster to find another low-milage 08 in a four state radius thats selling for less than what I paid -- values are going up. Saw one on auction on Bring a Trailer. A 01 or 02, I forget, with like 10k miles. It went for $70,000. Thats just crazy money. The sad thing is it will probably never see any more miles.

ETA: I see theres a blue '08 listed in downers grove for not a bad price, not sure how I feel about the color. But its had mods and that pretty much crosses it off my list.

[This message edited by tbkjcn at 9:10 PM, March 30th (Saturday)]

Me: BH 49 (then)
Her: WW 48 (then)
D-Day 8-30-14 3 yr LTA and 1 ONS (9-1-14 the rest of the story, she can't remember how many men)
Divorce filed 1/14/15, final 4/7/15
Married 23 years together 28

posts: 667   ·   registered: Sep. 3rd, 2014   ·   location: IL
id 8354017
default

Tred ( member #34086) posted at 7:43 PM on Sunday, March 31st, 2019

Those S2k's are sweet. My mid life crisis is a clearwater blue 2012 XLE Camry hybrid. Gets 40 miles to the gallon. Chicks dig it.

Married: 27 years (14 @JFO) D-Day: 11/09/11"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

posts: 5883   ·   registered: Dec. 2nd, 2011
id 8354257
default

Notthevictem ( member #44389) posted at 4:04 PM on Thursday, April 4th, 2019

If I want a trans am, is that a midlife crisis?

BH
DDAY Mar 2014
Widowed 2022 - breast cancer

posts: 13534   ·   registered: Aug. 5th, 2014   ·   location: Washington State
id 8356540
Topic is Sleeping.
Cookies on SurvivingInfidelity.com®

SurvivingInfidelity.com® uses cookies to enhance your visit to our website. This is a requirement for participants to login, post and use other features. Visitors may opt out, but the website will be less functional for you.

v.1.001.20241206b 2002-2024 SurvivingInfidelity.com® All Rights Reserved. • Privacy Policy