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It's been a very rough day.

There is no way it couldn't or wouldn't be. One step closer to getting out of infidelity.

Mourn, be sad, and know you are going to be okay.

We are here and we care.

(((36))) you sound in need of a hug... so here's a cyber hug !

And when you're ready there are 60000+ people ready to listen and lend a shoulder if you need it ... you WILL get through this rough day... because, God knows, you have been through worse !!

I have been at this place ((((36years)))) Sending thoughts and prayers.

Keep moving forward. This is what helped me along the way. I hope it is helpful to you.

Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV)

5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart

and lean not on your own understanding

6 in all your ways submit to him,

and he will make your paths straight.

Peace and blessings.

Just to be clear, I am divorced and very happy.

dude, reach out to us. We knew it would be rough but keep in command. You are doing great. Further, stand your ground and update us

You are the man !!

How is your investigation going ?

I hope you are well 36.

(((hugs)))

I've slept on and off most of the day. Just woke up and turned my phone on. My voice mail box is full. I have dozens of text messages, lots of new emails. Haven't checked any of them out.

[This message edited by 36yearsgone at 8:25 PM, October 19th (Thursday)]

Do not get pulled back in.

Stay NC.

If you need to deal with something, have your attorney deal with it.

Do contact your kids.

even with a burner phone.

You can do this.

Hang tough 36yearsgone. You are just doing what has to be done. Like pulling a rotten tooth.

Go somewhere you don't have cell service to listen to the messages if you feel like you will reply/make contact. Whatever you do just stay NO CONTACT.

We're here for you if you need us.

Are any of the messages not from her?

Stay strong 36 !

Please don't listen, read or reply to any form of communication from your wife ... but make sure your children know you are safe, unharmed and choosing no contact with their mother.

((36)) it will get easier. ..

((hugs)) and full steam ahead! I'm glad you got some sleep yesterday. The best way to recharge and take care of yourself.

How are you doing this morning, 36?

Cat

You're doing great 36. I've always been interested in Flagstaff. It seems like a more comfortable Tucson.

Hang in there!

Yesterday was a long day and last night even longer. For the most part I stayed in bed nearly all day. Last night I went for a long walk and ended up at a restaurant/ lounge. I sat at the bar and drank club sodas for a couple of hours. Chatted with a woman sitting a couple seats away from me. Turns out her husband is having an affair. We talked about the situations for a good hour and then I started feeling uncomfortable so I wished her luck and said goodbye.

I turned on my phone when I got back to the room and messages were still pouring in. I deleted everything without listening to or reading any of it.

I went to bed around 2:00 AM, woke up at 5 and had another large batch of texts and a bunch of missed calls. Out of curiosity I read all of them. Anger, sadness, bitterness, disbelief…they ran the gamut. Most of them were “How could I do this” to her or “God has forgiven me why can’t you?”

Then there were several “Where the f^ck are you? Why don’t you come home? We need to talk. We can work this out.”

My favorite one was, “This is very upsetting. You are causing me a lot of anxiety. Stop thinking about yourself. You need to start thinking about us!!!”

I’m skipping breakfast and probably going to stay in bed for another hour. I think I am going to send out resumes to employers out of state.

It’s a new day. A new beginning. A new life. So why do I feel like there is no floor below me and no sky above?

[This message edited by 36yearsgone at 10:00 AM, October 20th (Friday)]

Good job. Anything from the kids ?

Good job. Anything from the kids ?

Nothing this morning. Maybe last night, but I deleted everything, so I don't know.

With regards to relocation, while it may seem attractive (and I do understand the attraction, trust me), I would wait before making any huge decisions of that nature. But hey, doesn't hurt to send out resumes and "kick the tires" so to speak. I just would caution you not to make a large decision of that nature while your emotions are high and variable.

“This is very upsetting. You are causing me a lot of anxiety. Stop thinking about yourself. You need to start thinking about us!!!”

Okaaaaay, and how much thinking about "us" was she doing while she was having an affair, and how much anxiety has her behavior caused you.

Typical unremorseful WS thinking.

Cat

36,

The content of her messages is unbelievable. So full of entitlement and delusion about what she has done. Every statement could be shredded, and the contradictions highlighted. Essentially, her attitude seems to be why can't she have yet another free pass to bring infidelity and dishonesty into the relationship. "Where the f*ck are you?" indicates how annoyed she is that you are out of her control.

"You are causing me a lot of anxiety"...That is just staggering.

All of which proves why you are right to be making the break with her, and also why it is good you are elsewhere.

As for your feeling of disorientation, that is natural for the process you are going through. You are skipping breakfast, but please do make sure you eat later, keep yourself hydrated, and continue to not respond to the barrage of nonsense being fired at you.

It’s a new day. A new beginning. A new life.

And it will get better for you, 36. That may be hard to see right now, and everything is so new that it is hard to adjust to, but your life will be so much better without all of this drama, lies, and infidelity clouding it.

[This message edited by M1965 at 11:20 AM, October 20th (Friday)]