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The Simplified 180

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heartbroken_kk ( Member #22722) posted at 6:58 PM on Friday, June 15th, 2018

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FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.

posts: 2540   ·   registered: Feb. 3rd, 2009   ·   location: California
id 8187369
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sisoon ( Guide #31240) posted at 11:42 PM on Thursday, June 28th, 2018

bump

fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

posts: 26010   ·   registered: Feb. 18th, 2011   ·   location: Illinois
id 8196452
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Skan ( Member #35812) posted at 7:41 PM on Wednesday, July 4th, 2018

bump

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012


posts: 11513   ·   registered: Jun. 11th, 2012   ·   location: So California
id 8200003
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BrokenSpirit50 ( Member #34485) posted at 6:33 AM on Tuesday, July 10th, 2018

Bumping this since I need it bad tonight.

Married 32 years, together for 40
DDay Dec. 17, 2011
No R, D June 21, 2012

Me BS 58
Him WH 59

Now with WBF 3 yrs. DD#2 June 5, 2018

Truth is like surgery, it hurts but heals. A Lie is like a painkiller. It gives instant relief but has si

posts: 303   ·   registered: Jan. 10th, 2012   ·   location: Midwest
id 8202987
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Phoenix1 ( Moderator #38928) posted at 5:37 PM on Saturday, July 14th, 2018

Bump

fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!

You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~

posts: 8992   ·   registered: Apr. 9th, 2013   ·   location: Land of Indifference
id 8206591
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sisoon ( Guide #31240) posted at 6:52 PM on Tuesday, July 24th, 2018

yet again

fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

posts: 26010   ·   registered: Feb. 18th, 2011   ·   location: Illinois
id 8214051
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leesi4321 ( Member #65538) posted at 2:42 AM on Thursday, July 26th, 2018

Finally understanding this after a month of reading obsessively (and a finding a great therapist). Feels good!

Me: BS (30)
Him: WH (33)
D-Day 6/24/18
2 small children
In limbo

posts: 80   ·   registered: Jul. 21st, 2018   ·   location: NY
id 8215238
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BearlyBreathing ( Member #55075) posted at 7:55 PM on Sunday, August 12th, 2018

Bump

Me: BS 54 (49 on d-day)Him: WH. 64D-Day 8/15/2016 LTAKinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

posts: 4211   ·   registered: Sep. 10th, 2016   ·   location: Northern CA
id 8227617
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Wool94 ( Member #53300) posted at 9:23 AM on Tuesday, August 14th, 2018

Bump

D-Day #1: April 7, 2016
D-Day #2: May 21, 2016
D-Day #3: June 7, 2016
Me: 1975
Her:WW (amn8r) 1981
Son 2006
Daughter 2009
"God not only loves you, but He actually likes you. "-Stephen Hooks

"My faith is mine now."

posts: 3800   ·   registered: May. 19th, 2016   ·   location: Roll Tide Country 🇺🇸
id 8228730
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BearlyBreathing ( Member #55075) posted at 5:06 PM on Thursday, August 23rd, 2018

Bump

Me: BS 54 (49 on d-day)Him: WH. 64D-Day 8/15/2016 LTAKinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

posts: 4211   ·   registered: Sep. 10th, 2016   ·   location: Northern CA
id 8234806
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Jw4269 ( New Member #64242) posted at 5:13 PM on Thursday, August 23rd, 2018

I was afraid to do the 180 because I felt it would push him away even more but, I NEED to for my own sanity and well if he continues to move further and further away from our family then so be it we can get through this together.

posts: 45   ·   registered: Jun. 23rd, 2018
id 8234811
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heartbroken_kk ( Member #22722) posted at 1:19 AM on Saturday, August 25th, 2018

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FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.

posts: 2540   ·   registered: Feb. 3rd, 2009   ·   location: California
id 8235683
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heartbroken_kk ( Member #22722) posted at 6:09 PM on Thursday, September 13th, 2018

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FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.

posts: 2540   ·   registered: Feb. 3rd, 2009   ·   location: California
id 8247023
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sisoon ( Guide #31240) posted at 4:01 PM on Monday, September 24th, 2018

bump

fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

posts: 26010   ·   registered: Feb. 18th, 2011   ·   location: Illinois
id 8253009
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Pinkypeach ( Member #65880) posted at 10:37 PM on Monday, September 24th, 2018

I am trying it. The 180.

It's not going to be easy but I can try my hardest to stick to this rather than obsess about what ifs

posts: 189   ·   registered: Aug. 18th, 2018   ·   location: UK
id 8253293
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minusone ( Member #50175) posted at 7:57 PM on Sunday, November 4th, 2018

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"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

posts: 8353   ·   registered: Nov. 2nd, 2015   ·   location: USA
id 8279383
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ktf5496 ( New Member #67576) posted at 2:50 AM on Monday, November 5th, 2018

Very helpful....thank you for sharing!!!

posts: 1   ·   registered: Oct. 21st, 2018   ·   location: TX
id 8279496
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sisoon ( Guide #31240) posted at 10:22 PM on Tuesday, November 13th, 2018

bump

fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

posts: 26010   ·   registered: Feb. 18th, 2011   ·   location: Illinois
id 8284114
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Carissima ( Member #66330) posted at 8:23 AM on Saturday, November 24th, 2018

Bump

posts: 939   ·   registered: Sep. 29th, 2018
id 8288704
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heartbroken_kk ( Member #22722) posted at 9:12 PM on Friday, December 21st, 2018

bump

FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.

posts: 2540   ·   registered: Feb. 3rd, 2009   ·   location: California
id 8302774
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