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minusone ( Member #50175) posted at 12:53 PM on Friday, February 3rd, 2017

"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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 SerJR (original poster Member #14993) posted at 1:14 AM on Sunday, February 5th, 2017

Bump for loveable

Me: BH - Happily remarried.
Hope is never lost. It exists within you - it is real. It is not a force in and of itself - it is something that you create with every thought, action, and choice you make. It is a gift that you create for yourself.

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Thinkingtoomuch ( Member #31765) posted at 2:49 PM on Sunday, February 5th, 2017

It's been 6 years since my ordeal, obviously I still come here every so many months to support what I've been thru and survived in life (of course I did read SI religiously every day then for quite a long time).

I printed those babies out --the full 180-- my first week back then and read them before I went to sleep. Hah! They were my bible.

Altho "we" ( older couple and engaged 7+ yrs. and cohabitated) split for good, pretty much right away (he really didn't want to do the work), I was devastated at the time, and could not have done it without the 180 and SI.

It helped keep my dignity and integrity.

And, just yesterday, 6 yrs. later, another lightbulb moment--another item-- the X actually was involved a full 2 yrs. prior to Dday. I remembered another incident where I couldn't reach him, came to mind, an incident I had dismissed. Haven't had a lightbulb moment for a long time....

I do not think of X or that past life often, but the mind does what the mind does to process such sneaky things. And I do still live in the same home and town, so there are still memories at hand.

The 2-5 yr. timeframe is true. It affects so much of our life at the time. A type of PTSD.

But, the 180 (and the Tactical Primer and NC)works!

[This message edited by Thinkingtoomuch at 9:24 AM, February 5th (Sunday)]

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minusone ( Member #50175) posted at 7:18 PM on Tuesday, February 7th, 2017

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"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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annb ( Member #22386) posted at 2:20 PM on Wednesday, February 8th, 2017

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minusone ( Member #50175) posted at 1:23 AM on Friday, February 10th, 2017

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"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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minusone ( Member #50175) posted at 1:44 PM on Saturday, February 18th, 2017

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"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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UKgirl ( Member #17062) posted at 1:13 PM on Friday, February 24th, 2017

Bump

Affair1: Dday 30/07/06 LTA: 5yrs ex-fiancee Affair2: Dday 04/09/20 9mths another XHSgf.
Me/BS, still young. Him/WS, old. 4 grown boys
Having an affair because you are unhappy is like eating Ex-lax because you are hungry - unfound's mom

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MadOldBat ( Member #44146) posted at 10:21 AM on Monday, February 27th, 2017

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Keeping my chin(s) up whilst getting divorced.

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MadOldBat ( Member #44146) posted at 9:22 AM on Wednesday, March 1st, 2017

Back to the top.

Stay strong everyone, and be true to you.

Keeping my chin(s) up whilst getting divorced.

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minusone ( Member #50175) posted at 1:26 PM on Saturday, March 11th, 2017

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"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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minusone ( Member #50175) posted at 12:17 PM on Friday, March 24th, 2017

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"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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Heart ( Member #56144) posted at 1:20 AM on Sunday, March 26th, 2017

Thank you for sharing these great steps.

Happily Free Now
Me.... former betrayed wife


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minusone ( Member #50175) posted at 12:27 PM on Monday, April 3rd, 2017

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"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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sisoon ( Guide #31240) posted at 5:34 PM on Wednesday, April 12th, 2017

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fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

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minusone ( Member #50175) posted at 1:35 PM on Sunday, April 23rd, 2017

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"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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Brookeeg1 ( Member #58293) posted at 9:23 PM on Tuesday, April 25th, 2017

Just bumping this back to the front

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minusone ( Member #50175) posted at 12:52 PM on Tuesday, May 2nd, 2017

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"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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janewilliams ( New Member #58546) posted at 1:43 PM on Tuesday, May 2nd, 2017

No soliciting.

[This message edited by SI Staff at 8:01 AM, May 2nd (Tuesday)]

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minusone ( Member #50175) posted at 12:05 PM on Thursday, May 25th, 2017

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"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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