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Finally got on that alternate link that someone offered - none of my WH's emails were there - not the ones i know of anyway.

That Dugger kid was outed? Nice.

Hugs to all of you who are finding out more than you wanted to know.

Yep, my expoopsmear is on there. No big surprise.

I checked the email one and no surprise my WH email is on there. I wasn't shocked, I found him using it 3 years ago & then he tried to cancel it but didn't pay for them to get rid of his info. Dumbass.

Anyone have a current link that hasn't been shut down? There is so much internet noise over this, and fake links it is hard to find. Not sure I want to dive into the dark side of the internet just now - anyone willing to share legit file via dropbox or some other source?

[This message edited by n0stalgic at 10:39 PM, August 19th (Wednesday)]

This leak is certain to break the Internet., My FWH was listed, of course. I really didn't need to look, but I couldn't help myself.

My WH wasn't on this, he said he never signed up, he hooked up "for free" with an old h.s. friend on Facebook BUT guess who was on it...his h.s. friend, aka MOW!!! Hahahahahahahahahah

I think, considering all the locked AM posts, that the mods want us to keep all AM shit on this thread.

But..I'd really like to know..

How many of us, who are years out from dday, checked to see if our WS was on AM? Im not talking about those who already knew, I mean those of us who are R'd, have "no reason" to think our WS was on AM..but we looked anyway?

I admit...I was scared...I had to look.

I was doing some read about the data dump.

Please tell me if I understand this correctly:

The data dump was put up on the dark web (deep web). The deep web dump is where you can search by name/username, etc.

However, on the "regular" web, we have available to us databases that will allow us to search by email address.

Is this correct? We shouldn't be expecting to see a place where we can search by name unless we know a techy with access to the deep web?

I found MY regular email account! AND my work email!!! At one point I did create a new email to "search" all those kind of sites for H, including AM, and I do remember in all the craziness forgetting my logon and/or password, so I guess I could have been desperate/crazy enough in a moment of panic to sign up again using my real email but I can't IMAGINE ever using my work email! Could I really have done that!? Honestly, I really was mentally and emotionally and physically messed up for awhile - Drs, tests, meds, off work, the whole deal, so I guess it's possible I did something that stupid. I'm totally freaked. Infidelity...the gift that keeps on giving. I'm more upset with my H now than I have been in months

FIASCO -- It's like turning on the light and watching roaches scatter and look for cover.

This is so big. I didn't know it was global. From government and military officials to corporate executives to joeshmo around the corner. The ramifications are enormous.

Honestly, I am thoroughly enjoying the hypocrisy unmasked. No spouse deserves infidelity and a marriage that is being held together by lies - to me is criminal.

So they thought they were safe?

The depth of deceit that feeds adultery is mind boggling and they thought no one would find out. woooow. That's pure insanity.

Honestly, can such behavior go unnoticed or unpunished? A financial empire solely based on deceit and infidelity.

Well the cat is out of the bag.

My heart goes out to the unsuspecting wives and husbands that are waking up to a nightmare. I hope they find healing.

Right now the best way to stay current on this is to google: Ashley Madison hack database

Wired Magazine has two comprehensive articles plus where to check email addys in their article that google highlights as: How to Check if You Were Exposed in Ashley Madison Hack.

The only thing available to search for right now on available sites is by email address. Kind of a shame because phone numbers & last 4 numbers of credit card given were also listed & I know if I were searching, the phone number would provide a better search.

And necrob, you're correct, the original listed was downloaded to the deepweb..that's where all the secret secret stuff is. Probably an encrypted playground for hackers but definitely child pedophile stuff...truly the dark side of the internet.

FYI, without giving a lot of details I worked for DoD [EDIT], involved with NSA, the works. You may be happy to know that the DoD in the US has their own separate system of which I'm 99.999% sure the likes of hackers from enemies could never come close to. Any DoD breaches you might read about would be little ones that intermingle with the "regular" internet. Over the years & disability retirement I wondered just how safe the US was & lets just say Edward Snowden let me know those standards being set from over 30 years ago hadn't been misplaced. Sorry, a bit sidetracked there hehe.

Edited to remove guideline violation.

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[This message edited by SI Staff at 9:54 AM, August 20th (Thursday)]

But..I'd really like to know..

How many of us, who are years out from dday, checked to see if our WS was on AM? Im not talking about those who already knew, I mean those of us who are R'd, have "no reason" to think our WS was on AM..but we looked anyway?

I admit...I was scared...I had to look.

Well, I was checking for MY email since I was trying to find WH back then...not sure if I would have even been trying otherwise. My WH is naive about many Internet things despite a genius IQ.

He did not show up. Whew.

So my WH cheated using AM this Spring, but created an email account to use with it that didn't include his name. When D day happened, I set up an account to check up on him, and see what the shitty experience is. So, guess who's email address showed up in the data leak (mine) and guess who didn't? (cheating husband).

Unbelievable....

Two of my WH emails came up in the search. Neither are used anymore. Guess that explains why he was so anxious to be rid of that gmail account. It's been a few years since he had that account. But still, he sure never told me that part. And just drives home that he was actively looking to have affairs. He just got lucky and found someone he already knew.

Of course, he could have had more I don't know about. At this point, it doesn't matter. My heart broke a long time ago and it pretty much feels like there is nothing left.

I sent a text to my FWH yesterday, telling him about the hack, and that there was a link to check email addresses, phone numbers, and names. I asked him if I would find him on there..he said he had "never heard of AM..and no."

And, as I said, I didn't find him.

However, a few hours later, he was on his lunch break, and we were exchanging texts. I hadn't said any more about the link, and he didn't ask. I took the dogs out, and while out there, checked the mail, picked up a bit, etc. I missed 4 of his texts...I hadn't replied...which is not unusual at all. BUT...after me not responding for 6 minutes, he called me...wanting to know why I was ignoring him.

Um..Im not..wth??

He sounded a bit..odd. Overly cheerful.

He sounded like he was worried that I had found something..and he thought I was ignoring him because I was pissed...and he was checking to see what I knew.

So NOW Im worried. I know my F(?)WH. Me missing a few texts..and not responding for SIX minutes...is not usual. Him calling me because of it..very unusual.

Damn. It's been a long time since I've had to investigate anything. But something feels off...sooo..

Yep, I found my WHs email on the site. I'm not surprised. Day was only 3.5 months ago and this is consistent with the behavior I found then. So, I'm just be curious to find out when he started, how long, and how active he was.

He was also acting a bit unusual last night. Watching my every move asking questions like "What's wrong?" "Why aren't you making eye contact?" and being more affectionate than usual. I didn't want to tip my hand, and it was all I could do not to cringe when he touched me. So i just imagined he was being stabbed repeatedly as I said "Oh that's sweet, honey".

If the (F)WH is acting strange it could just be because you are also acting strange. But in the case of confused, I feel for you. That was very shady what you described.

SAFWH had little trouble finding cheaper ways, and women, to cheat.

But I checked anyway. Nada.

Scremnmsl,

Point taken. I AM probably acting strange. Unfortunately, strange is my new normal.

NEW INFO: I signed up to the twitter account of the person who made the website we have cited on page 1. Good news! The person said on Twitter that they are outside the boundaries of the DMCA laws, so the site should stay up for awhile. Ashley Madison is trying to strongarm these sites to take them down. The funny thing is, there's an article out there that says AM is probably incorrect to try to use this law since it really was created for the entertainment industry...you know distribution of movies, songs etc. & that AM might actually be able to be countersued, should it all play out.

IDEA: For all of you that used your own email addys, say at your workplace or wherever, why not startup and try to get the first class-action going? I think the first 10 or whatever qualifies are the people who actually get the big bucks (besides the lawyers of course) hehe.