Thanks to SI member drowninginsorrow for starting this thread and mom of 2 for continuing it! Now, it's my turn. Please read the following:
Many thanks to Deeply Scared for reminding us all we need to exercise caution and good judgment when sending private messages to people on this list. I'll repeat what she has said:
DO NOT EXCHANGE PERSONAL INFO WITH ANYONE (info such as email address, home address, phone number, etc.). SEND PRIVATE MESSAGES ONLY. KEEP YOUR REQUESTS GENERAL AND ANONYMOUS.
Having said that, I sense tremendous camaraderie among this group. We've all shared an aspect of infidelity and we know the pain it causes. If someone asked me to private message them the license plate numbers off the cars at such and such an address, I'd do it in a heartbeat. Everyone on this list would. We unfortunately share a common bond and we all have a strong desire to lend a helping hand to those on the road to recovery. But again -
DO NOT REVEAL YOUR PERSONAL INFORMATION TO ANYONE. USE PRIVATE MESSAGES ONLY. KEEP YOUR REQUESTS GENERAL AND ANONYMOUS.
To send a private message to a volunteer snooper, go to your profile (hit the [My Profile] link at the top of most pages). Then use the Search Profiles feature to find your snooper by name. Then send that snooper a private message.
So now you know how to send a PM to a particular person on this list. But what do you say? Send a "greeting" message first and wait for a response. Your first private message should say something like "Hi - I saw your name on the snooping list and I'd like your help. Please write me back if you are available to help."
One of three things will happen next:
1) The person won't read the message because they don't come here anymore
2) The person will read it but will not help because they may be too busy.
3) The person will read it and write you back with an enthusiastic "Yes - I'd love to help."
If you get a "YES" response then you must think carefully about what you want to share with this person. Keep in mind you are talking to a stranger. It's best to keep things in general terms and leave out specific information as much as possible.
For example, ask someone to drive by such and such an address at such and such a time and write down the license plate numbers of all the cars nearby. Do not explain why this address is of interest to you and do not explain whose car you expect to find or not find there.
Another example - please call this phone number and ask for <name> or simply hang up after someone answers and write me back to tell me was it a man or a woman's voice.
Does anyone else have general examples of how to use this list? Thanks.
Lastly - this is an all volunteer organization. User's of this list don't pay to use it and snoopers on this list don't get paid to snoop. If this list doesn't work for you, you can have a full refund.
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LIST UPDATED 10/03/11
State - City or Area - Snooper
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ALABAMA
- Birmingham and surrounding area - NeedingGodsHelp
- Huntsville/Decatur/Madison - lisaloo
- North - iswt2
- Northeast - vtach
ALASKA
- Anchorage - Lucky
ARIZONA
- Bullhead City/Lake Havasu/Grand Canyon - dreamer1
- Chandler/Tempe/Ahwatukee - browniegirl
- Chandler/Tempe/Ahwatukee/South Scottsdale (near old town)/Gilbert - Jayne Doe
- East Phoenix/Chandler/Gilbert/Tempe/Mesa/Scottsdale - TwoHearts
- Gilbert - Basic_Guy
- North Phoenix/Glendale - TruthorGoodbye
- North Phoenix/North Scottsdale - Grinder
- Peoria/Glendale/Surprise area - ntgvngup218
- Phoenix - rolfasaurus
- Phoenix area/Gilbert/Chandler/Mesa - oldtimer97
- Tucson/Sierra Vista - StillLivin
ARKANSAS
- Central - LostJim
- Northwest - eyesnowopen
CALIFORNIA
- Central CA - isthismynewlife
- Central Valley - Rollercoaster
- Fresno/Yosemite to Sacramento - silencesoloud
- Inland Empire area of Southern CA - brokenk
- LA -beachbunny
- LA - lostinlove4ever
- LA/Burbank/Valley/Hollywood/Pasadena - TryingToBreathe
- LA/Orange Cty border - crumbled cookie
- Los Angeles/valley - lilbebe
- Los Angeles/West/Beach cities/Santa Monica - stilluvhim
- Los Angeles/West - paulb
- Los Angeles/SFV/SCV/Eastside/Westside/down to Long Beach - DejaVuu
- Monterey County - letting_go
- Orange Cnty & surrounding areas - Wildride
- Pasadena/San Gabriel Valley - SierraGrace
- Sacramento - StillAmazed
- San Diego - cryinginside
- San Diego - usedtobeme
- San Diego County - Skan
- San Francisco - TortillaChip
- San Francisco Bay area - fraeuken
- San Gabriel Valley/Inland Empire (specifically between Pomona and Rancho Cucamonga), and maybe surrounding cities - claudiasometimes
- San Jose/Morgan Hill/Gilroy - gma56
- Silicon Valley area - Shauna
- Southern - hurtbuttrying
COLORADO
- Colorado Springs - sadscrant
- Colorado Spring, Pueblo, southeastern CO - Lostly
- Denver metro area - CrushedinDenver
- Denver northern suburbs - Where2Now
- Denver proper & Southwest suburbs - ImNellNow
- tamarack - Denver southern suburbs
- Northern - beenthere2?
- Pikes Peak region - wewillsurvive
CONNECTICUT
- Greater Danbury area - dealbreaker
- Northeast corner - completeshock
- Western - riverflow
DELAWARE
FLORIDA
- Central - larac123
- Central - scout
- Central/Hillsborough County - notasaint
- Central - Orlando/Winter Park/Maitland - TheHardWay
- East Orlando/Seminole Co/Sanford area - jrc1963
- Jacksonville - ruinedandbroken
- Lake County (NW of Orlando) - Kajem
- Lee County (SW FL) - atsenaotie
- Miami - Jessy1501
- Northeast - NoTriangles
- Northeast/Jacksonville/Orange Park area - imstillangry
- Northwest (pm for specific city) - will get by
- Northwest - Summerlyn
- Palm Beach County - wantmore
- Palm Beach County - hardtimesinlife
- Panhandle/Tallahassee - brokeninfl
- Pinellas County (W. Central FL) - LostinSadness
- Polk county - italianfireball
- SW - SweetheartVixen
- Treasure Coast - Tresemme
GEORGIA
- Atlanta - midtown/Southside - (Newnan/Peachtree City area) - HIDINGFROMCRAZY
- Atlanta - N suburbs - jenny22
- Atlanta - N suburbs/Suwanee/Sugar Hill/Buford/Dacula/Braselton - sad&scared
- Atlanta - NW suburbs - Devastated104
- Atlanta - W suburbs - Dazed In Dixie
-Columbus/Fort Benning -sad12008
- Middle GA-- Warner Robins area - lilflower1000
- Savannah - DragonflyJ
- Savannah - making it
- Savannah - exsailor66
- Savannah - father of 4
- Savannah - Victorian area near downtown - FormerDimwit
HAWAII
- Big Island (mainly Kona side but perhaps other areas) - CheaterMagnet
- Honolulu - LAFA
IDAHO
- Boise - On_The_Mend
ILLINOIS
- Chicago area - twisted_angel
- Chicago/north & northwest suburbs - mainlyinpain
- Chicago/south suburbs - dghen
- Chicago/southwest suburbs - blindsided68
- Chicago/western suburbs - latebloomer45
- Lake County, Illinois (Northern suburbs of Chicago) - tiredandhurt
- Southern - pitiful
- Southern Illinois, just east of St Louis, MO - hurting2much
INDIANA
- central/east central - confused615
- Indianapolis - Onedayatatime
- Northeast - Weatherly
- Northeast (in summer, 6 mo) - SweetheartVixen
- Northeast - girlie114
- Northeast/Ft. Wayne area - Mama_of_3_Kids
- Southern - brohl5
- Southern - geethemom
- West Central - postitnotes
IOWA
- Eastern - nowiknow23
- Central - slippedhalo
- Western - sadtoo
KANSAS
- Kansas City - meaniemouse
- Northeast - sadtoo
KENTUCKY
- Ft. Campbell - welcome14
- Lexington - putonahappyface
- Louisville - geethemom
- Owensboro/BowlingGreen - brainless twit
- Western - brohl5
- Western - Abby
- Western - OnlyOne
LOUISIANA
- Central - hope4now
- Central/North - austindunn
- Lafayette- veritas
- Northshore, New Orleans to Morgan City - AlwaysWaiting
MAINE
- Portland - Nouveau
- Southern coast - neverbelieve
- southwestern - painfulpast
MARYLAND
- Anne Arundel - HurtJoby
- Baltimore area - Fireball72
- Central Region - 5yrsout
- DC area - Fireball72
- DC area - Beyond
- Outside DC - Sodown
- White Marsh area - yme816
MASSACHUSETTS
- Boston/Metro area - mr-misunderstood
- Boston/South - Catwoman
- Boston and north on 95 - painfulpast
- Bristol and Plymouth Counties - cryingdaily
- Bristol and Norfolk Counties ( Pawtucket R.I.) - karmahappens
- CapeCod, Barnstable - aquamarine
- Metrowest Boston - risingfromashes
- Metrowest - healingmyself
- Norfolk, Sufolk,Plymouth,Bristol,Middlesex - Eric
- North Shore - ShatteredAndDone
- Northern (Essex or Rockingham county) - momofliketriplet
- Northeastern/North Shore/ North suburbs of Boston - sadnews
- Southeast and central - completeshock
- Southeastern - mkr543
- South Shore - wasafriend
- Western Massachusetts - purplefinch
MICHIGAN
- Ann Arbor-myrriad
- Detroit/Metro/Tri-county area - Rise And Shine
- Detroit Area - WarehouseGuy
- Flint - Myheartstillhurt
- Northern Lower MI - covergirl20
- Southeast - itsjustnotfiar
- Southeast - wifehad5
- Southeast - Snapdragon
MINNESOTA
- Minneapolis - Trailrider
- Northwest - Secondbestiguess
- Southeast/Rochester - GrievingMommy
- Southern Twin Cities - mom22kids
- Twin Cities - Eight13
- Twin Cities - capri
- Upper - thewifey
MISSISSIPPI
- Central Mississippi - BrokenLadyInMs
MISSOURI
- Kansas City Metro Area - EasyDoesIt
- Kansas City Metro Area - meaniemouse
- Northern - sadtoo
- St. Louis - Chili
- St. Louis - Ironjawed Woman
- St. Louis - Troi
- St. Louis metro area, particularly west of the MO River - hurting2much
- St. Louis area, especially the western suburbs (possibly more in MO) - BlueinStLou
- St. Louis area - 1Faith
MONTANA
- Great Falls - phoenix_vs
NEBRASKA
- Eastern - Brokeninside1592
- Eastern - phoenix-rising
- Eastern - sadtoo
NEVADA
- Las Vegas - crymsn
- Laughlin/Grand Canyon - dreamer1
- Northern/Elko, Spring Creek areas - DrtBoss
- Reno - dreamlife
NEW HAMPSHIRE
- coastal areas - painfulpast
- Southeastern - neverbelieve
- Southern - ShatteredAndDone
- Southern - momofliketriplet
NEW JERSEY
- Bayonne/Jersey City/Hoboken - Elecin
- Central - jo2love
- Central - worriedNow
- North (Bergen County) - td40
- North/South/Central - HurtYetHealing
- Northern/Central NJ - 2yrs+recovering
- Northwest/Morris/Sussex county area - kajsa
- northwest NJ - ckss4
- Philadelphia/Montgomery/Camden - no mor surprises
- Sussex/Morris counties - 1moretess
- Trenton, Hamilton, Ewing areas - UR_AN_IDIOT
NEW MEXICO
- Albuquerque (occasionally Los Lunas or Belen) - notinsane
- south central up to Albuquerque - icantgetoverit
NEW YORK
- Albany - andyd1950
- Albany/Troy & east into MA/VT - Sad in AZ
- Buffalo - Kamkim
- Buffalo - ragingpain
- Buffalo - childofcheater
- Buffalo - sparkysable
- Central - sharonons
- Long Island/Suffolk & Nassau County - trying2deal
- Long Island/Nassau & Suffolk - NoLongerWantHim
- Long Island/NYC - KGT_123
- Long Island/NYC - stillstinging
- Montgomery County - Pansy Moss
- New York City - romanticidiot
- New York City - going2surviveit
- New York City metro area - Surviving_This
- Orange County & Ulster County - still confounded
- Saratoga - sadtobehere
- Staten Island & Brooklyn - Coma
- Suffolk County - wanttofeelwhole
- Upper Westchester - dealbreaker
- Upstate/Syracuse/Utica/Rome - ImStillwaiting
- Western - Buffalo/Niagara Falls - BeyondConfused
NORTH CAROLINA
- Durham, Chapel Hill - Husburned
- KhristinaC
- Fayetteville - 10yearsgone
- Fort Bragg and the surrounding communities - Spitfire77
- Raleigh - GreatRoleModel
- Robbinsville - forever.haunted
NORTH DAKOTA
- Fargo, ND and Moorhead MN - JadedMusicWidow
OHIO
- Cincinnati - wwnomore
- Cincinnati - dontknowwhyme
- Cleveland - fossilburner
- Cleveland - toolong
- Cleveland/Akron/Canton - gmc276
- Columbus - Bobcap29
- Columbus - Mochagurl
- Dayton - womanfromohio
- Trumbull Mahoning County (& perhaps Ashtabula) - stillhere09
- Wellington - IWILLSOAR
OKLAHOMA
- Broken Arrow & Tulsa - Rollarcoastermom
- OK City metro area - ittybittya
- Oklahoma City metro - twisted
- Oklahoma City, Del City, Midwest City, Moore, Yukon areas of Oklahoma - devotedman
- North East - stillpissed
- Southeast - major misfit
- Southwest/Texoma - booger bear
- Tulsa - Balancing Act
- Tulsa/OKC - greeneyedlass
OREGON
- Coast region - Hurtnstill
- Northeastern/East - deadinside08
- Portland - glad2Bfree
- Portland - gemini_june_20
- Salem - hope2142
- Willamette Valley - budapest
PENNSYLVANIA
- Central (specifically State College/Univ. Park area) - ISPIFFD
- Lower Bucks County - UR_AN_IDIOT
- NW PA - TiredOfTears
- Philadelphia - LostOnVineStreet
- Philadelphia - Tracer
- Philadelphia- woundedgirl
- Philadelphia/Delaware Valley area - Fireball72
- Philly and surrounding area - numb and scared
- Pittsburgh - philly172
- Pittsburgh area - hurtbad2505
- Pocono area - somorelove
- South Central - Tonehua
- Southeast - RKT429SS
- Southwestern - travels
- Southwestern - sportsfan
RHODE ISLAND
- completeshock
- Providence - risingfromashes
- Providence - mkr543
- Providence - Catwoman
- Providence/Kent/Bristol/Newport Counties - cryingdaily
SOUTH CAROLINA
- Camden (with access to Columbia, Sumter, Florence) - ScaredtoLove
- Charleston, Summerville, Mt. Pleasant, and Goose Creek - painpaingoaway
- Greenville - insearchof
- Myrtle Beach area - SMSA925
- Spartanburg - homewrecked2011
SOUTH DAKOTA
- sweetvoice
TENNESSEE
- KhristinaC
- Chattanooga - GeminiDream
- Chattanooga - Wasted me
- Clarksville - welcome14
- Eastern/Knoxville - forever.haunted
- Knoxville - realgood2u
- Knoxville - newnormal
- Memphis - footballdad
- Memphis - willowiris
- Middle TN area - copout
- Nashville/Smyrna/Murfreesboro - SummerBlues
- Nashville/Franklin/Columbia/Springhill - lovinggrace
TEXAS
- Amarillo - worried_lady
- Arlington/Dallas/Ft Worth/surrounding areas - openedupmyeyes
Austin - goodbye_virginia
- Central-Temple/Killeen/Fort Hood/Gatesville - Hissy Fit
- Dallas/Ft Worth - Truthseekholly
- Dallas/Ft. Worth/Arlington and surrounding areas - bitchboots
- Houston - victory
- Houston - moveon?
- Houston - What2do
- Houston-East Side/Baytown - ibmovingon
- Houston-NE Quad - annb
- North Dallas - faith5
- Lubbock & West Texas - purplejacket4
- NW Houston - twistedupinside
- Southeast - deb3129
- Wichita Falls - bufffalo
UTAH
- Salt Lake City - DrtBoss
- Salt Lake City - mamabekay
- Salt Lake City - pbjkiki
- Salt Lake City Metro area - Bellatrix
- Salt Lake City (West) - 1Bite2Shy
VERMONT
-South central Vermont - MWCM
VIRGINIA
- psychowife
- Central/Northern/Charlottesville/surrounding areas to DC - shwankie
- Dulles/Leesburg/Ashburn - Keepbreathing5
- Fredericksburg/Spotsylvania/Stafford and surrounding areas - healingwife
- Norfolk - Issaquah
- Northern - Fireball72
- Northern - Beyond
- Northern/Leesburg/Dulles/DC - PerpleNerple
- Northern from Prince William north up to Falls Church & Arlington - SabinatheOwl
-Northern/PrinceWilliam/Stafford/Arlington (Crystal City)- Retrans
- Northern/Shenandoah Valley area - achingheart
- Northern VA/Prince William County/Fairfax County - SoLostStillNumb
- Richmond - Want2Run
- Richmond - bluestar
WASHINGTON
- Bellevue - AlwaysSomething
- Bremerton/Gig Harbor - mc2010
- Eastern - deadinside08
- Northwestern - Tal
- Seattle - 1SadDude
- Tacoma/Dupont/Ft Lewis/Lacey area - armynurse
- Thurston County - running*on*empty
- Yakima/Tri-Cities area - ArialRose
WEST VIRGINIA
- Beckley area - JustPatty
- Charleston - KeepingDarkness
WISCONSIN
- Central WI - Polly4
- Milwaukee County - BrokenButStrong
- Greater Milwaukee - Land of the Lost
- Northwest - rottenkitty
- Racine - melbourne
- SE - k9lover1
- Southeastern - ajsmom
- Upper - thewifey
WYOMING
- quedagh
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AUSTRALIA
- Anywhere; can't add my exact location as I live in a small town. Can make calls etc - Laura28
- Sydney - inink
CANADA
- AB - Calgary/Southern Alberta - 2EffedUp
- AB - South Calgary - Blackhair
- AB - Edmonton - Librasrock
- AB - Edmonton - ohpuhlease
- AB - Red Deer - trebleclef
- BC - Vancouver - Lighthouse Heart
- Manitoba - closertofine
- ON - Hamilton - lost_in_toronto
- London - sarahm49
- ON - Oakville -Ariel73
- ON - Niagara Region - naive and stupid
- ON - Toronto - lynnm1947
- ON - Toronto - Broken1Again
- ON - Toronto area - uddup
- ON - Toronto area - lied2
- ON - Toronto -brokenandfedup
- ON - general Toronto area - Peaches
- ON - Ottawa - bestbecameworst
- ON - Windsor - kluelesskat
- ON - Windsor - survivor1977
- QC - Montreal - conti
- QC - Montreal & Southwestern Quebec (Town of Chateauguay & valley all the way to US border) - Knowing
- QC - West of Montreal to Ottawa, ON - FightingBack
ENGLAND
- Birmingham & Surrounding area, West Midlands - sadness60
- Southwest - Diva0702
- Northampton to Cambridge, that includes RAF Molesworth, RAF Alconbury, RAF Mildenhall, RAF Lakenheath - RedRaven6500
EUROPE
- Edie
- jolene
FRANCE
- jolene
- south France - onestepforward
GERMANY
- Grafenwoehr / Vilseck - frigidfire86
HUNGARY
- Budapest - budapest
IRELAND
- bestrongforyou
SWEDEN
-(can also do number searches in Norway and Denmark) - IKnowNow
UNITED KINGDOM
- Edie
- howcouldhe1
- England (Southwest) - gulliblelass
- England (Southwest)/London - weimylady
- Midlands - captiva
- Scotland - 32years2day
- UK/Northwest - footies
- Wales (Shropshire, Powys, Ceridigion, and Gwynedd counties. Also possibly Cheshire) - Jomarion
It may be possible for some members to access public records information for various states. You can pm smalltowngirl for more info.
Please send me a pm or post if you want to be added to or deleted from this list and I will update. Thank you and take care.
[This message edited by Sad in AZ at 11:10 AM, November 1st (Sunday)]
