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Divorce/Separation :
Not doing well

Topic is Sleeping.

 Workwife (original poster member #63477) posted at 7:12 PM on Sunday, November 13th, 2022

Separated and experiencing first data and nights in my new house. Separated again after finding out he was still amicably chatting with AP and lying to me about having no contact except for the unavoidable work related conversations. He finally would leave his job and this conversations come to light. He was never going to tell me about them. This renewed betrayal is too much. I now have a beautiful home but I am so very sad. I shouldn’t be sad about what I lost because there was nothing to work with. But my body is hurting all over and I’m feeling depressed. Do not want to be around the kids, I don’t want them to see me like this. Just having a pity ‘ ‘party’, I guess.

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Helena67 ( member #80506) posted at 8:00 PM on Sunday, November 13th, 2022

I’m so sorry for your pain. Sending you strength! You are moving to a new and better life! Believe that!

BS (me) 55 years; WS 54 years. Divorcing.

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ZDZD ( new member #80814) posted at 8:43 PM on Sunday, November 13th, 2022

This is very painful, sorry you are experiencing this.

I moved out in January and was numb about separation for 2 months until it hit me. Until July, I missed family life tremendously, then it subsided. Divorce is sad and heartbreaking but honest and straightforward. Infidelity is what really messes the mind for so much longer.

I know the feeling about kids and not being able to fully be there for them. Explain what you feel to them, they will understand and feel safer than if you are just snapping or can't get out of bed.

Me: the BH
Her: the xWW
Married for 10y, 2 children
AP, OBS close friends of many years
Currently divorcing.

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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 4:57 AM on Monday, November 14th, 2022

The sadness is normal. You have to grieve what you lost. Over time you will feel better, slowly .
It hurts, and I am sorry you are going through this. But it really does get better.

Me: BS 55 (49 on d-day)Him: WH. 64. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

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Topic is Sleeping.
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