gmc94 (original poster member #62810) posted at 12:31 AM on Friday, July 16th, 2021
Anyone read this? My (trauma experienced) IC recommended it.
I'm only a few pages in, but wow!
One tidbit was basically that if the powers that be were to recognize CPTSD, the DSM would go from an encyclopedia to a pamphlet (which is similar to some of Van der Kolk's stances).
It's kind of blowing my mind... and ... there's something that feels a little "off" that I can't quite put my finger on.
M >25yrs/grown kids
DD1 1994 ONS prostitute
DD2 2018 exGF1 10+yrEA & 10yrPA... + exGF2 EA forever & "made out" 2017
9/18 WH hung himself- died but revived
It's rude to say "I love you" with a mouthful of lies
crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 11:57 PM on Friday, July 16th, 2021
I will check this out. I have been diagnosed with C-PTSD and have read "The Body Keeps the Score."
fBS/fWS (me):48 Mad-hattered after DD1
XWS:50 Serial Cheater, NPD tendencies
Together 24 years, Married 19
DD1 (2008) COW, DD2 (2012) MOW, False R (2014) Same MOW. DD3 (2019) Webcam girl
Chaos ( member #61031) posted at 1:52 PM on Friday, July 30th, 2021
Will have to check this out. Also have PTSD diagnosis due to the LTA and multiple DDays and LTAP cyber stalking trying to duplicate our lives.
BS-me/WH-4.5yrLTA Married 2+ decadesChildren (1 still at home)Multiple DDays w/same AP until I told OBSBrandishing a sword, channeling my inner Inigo Montoya and saying "Hello–My name is Chaos–You f***ed my husband-Prepare to Die!"
ladyphoenix ( member #72766) posted at 1:00 PM on Sunday, September 12th, 2021
thanks for this recommend. I listened to this in audiobook. It is very interesting. I will have to listen to it again to make sure I understand it completely. My memory hasn't been great since I found out so I need more than one exposure to retain information. I may also need to take notes next time.
I see how the trauma from our childhood can lead to the flashbacks and ways of managing conflicts in our lives. I thought the part about the four fs was interesting Flight, fight, freeze, or faun. Faun was a new one to me and I will explore this further for sure.
It actually made me think about how my own mother experienced relational trauma in her life and subsequently passed that on to her own children. The generational trauma is a huge roadblock to overcome. I have been able to start conversations with her about traumatic events in her life because of this book.
It will be interesting to see what I get out of a second read of this one. It's definitely worth a second read/listen.
M 23 years, together 29. DD1 Feb 2019, DD2(TT) June 2019, DD3 (TT) July 2019, (TT) March 2020, (TT) Sept 2020We have 3 children: 22,18, 13 and a grandson April 2019. We work daily on R and building a stronger relationship.