NeverTwice
Lost - your love for your children leaps off the page. You are a good father and were a good husband too.
Thank you, I appreciate it. Looking back on it, I can't fathom how she did what she did in light of the family/kids. This wasn't a quick one-night thing. This built for her over a period of years.
And let me offer you some encouragement. There are a lot of women out there that would jump at the chance to be your partner. Would love how you love your children. And love you for you strength of character.
Send them my way. :-)
Lol.
I appreciate those words of encouragement.
And, after the absolute worst betrayal of my life, I found the absolute love of mine. Sadly, I lost him this year to cancer, but I had 32 years of joy with him and two wonderful children.
I am both glad to hear that and I'm sorry to hear that. I'm kind of curious what a relationship is going to be like with someone who has principles/morals....
There is happiness and healing for you, but this is going to take Father Time. I would advise you to avoid a rebound relationship - they almost always go terribly wrong. Enjoy being single, love your kids and, when you are ready, put yourself out there again.
I agree with you. I've already been feeling the flip-flop of I want to get back out there and the 'I just want to be alone'. It's a whole other type of roller coaster.
Stay strong friend.
Thank you.
NoOptTo
If you truly want minimal contact with her. You both get a parenting app such as parent wizard. You communicate only through there. A phone call is only in case of emergency for your kids.
Right now the only way for her to reach me is through my phone/texts. I've blocked her elsewhere. If it becomes too much then I'll block that too. I already told her that we're going to co-parent and that's it.
Set up your boundaries. Your weeks are yours and hers are hers. If you havent read any of user ATG100. I recommend you read his second thread where he was coming out of infidelity and learning how to deal with a narc of an XWW. It may help you with dealing with yours. Wish you the best tbus weekend with the kiddos.
That's not a bad idea. I will check into that. I have a few books on narcissists that I plan on reading - eh, listening to.
Update: So all Friday, basically, I was moving. I got settled in and I have the kids. Got the paperwork notarized. So everything is basically set. I have a few other things to do but they don't require contact from her. Stuff like cancel my insurance, shut down a bank account, set up auto-pay, etc.
I'm trying to have fun with the kids this weekend. They're playing a lot on the new computer. I've just taken it over for a bit, while I transfer some data and create this post. I'm transferring all the screenshots I have to an external harddrive. I've been meaning to do this for a while, but I'm now just getting around to it. I'm keeping them because I don't ever want to forget what this shit person has done. I can envision a time in the future (say two years or whatever) and she comes around trying to be my friend or whatever. I don't want to forget all the horrendous shit she did.
Gyms are open, but at 30%. So I'm going to have to figure out how to transfer gyms. I'm sure it's not a huge deal, but that will help me.
I'm kind of melancholy right now. I know it's just because of the huge change going on. Knowing that helps me deal with it.