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Was going to Tredjack the conversation, but don't have to since Incarnate brought up booze

One of my hobbies is growing peppers and making my own spices. The other night, I had a batch of habaneros sitting around, and a fresh bottle of Tito's...see where this is going? Coincidence, I have a water jug that has an insert for infusing lemons or limes or whatever you want so I filled it with Tito's, sliced up about 10 habaneros, and stuffed the infuser with them. Put it in the fridge and forgot about it for a day. After happy hour at the golf club, my wife reminded me to check the vodka - one shot later I deemed it almost too damn hot for me. Almost. Grabbed a mango, pureed it with some simple sugars, and made a habanero vodka mango cocktail. It. Didn't Suck.

So gents, what would you pair with jalapenos, cayenne, serrano, or red Caribbean?

And happy Friday Menz!

So gents, what would you pair with jalapenos, cayenne, serrano, or red Caribbean?

I would pair some distance from it, lol. I don't do hot stuff. I am the streotypical white dude; "Yeah, I like it spicy, I add mayo to my chicken sandwiches."

I'm a scotch, whiskey, and rum kind of guy. I like my scotch peaty, my whiskey smokey, and my rum spiced. Though, a good white rum or 151 is nice too.

I'm also a fan of cocktails. I like Whiskey/Amaretto sours, etc.

Ha! Tred, that is great. I once infused some tequila with habaneros, and made some habanero peach margaritas. They did not suck...

So gents, what would you pair with jalapenos, cayenne, serrano, or red Caribbean?

Tred, my first inclination would be to google "honey pepper bbq sauce raichlen", and substitute plenty of those peppers for the one jalapeno that the recipe calls for. It makes for an awesome sauce. If you've got a smoker, and make smoked meat... perfect accompaniment. Especially for brisket and pork.

I like my scotch peaty

Do you do Ardbeg, Incarnate?

Happy Friday, Gents!

My go-to scotch is a Glenlivet 12 (or preferably 18), but my favorite so far was a Laphroaig. I can't remember which one, but it was nice. Never had Ardbeg.

My go-to for whiskeys in general is Crown Royal Black, though I'll settle for standard crown if I have to. Rums are almost always Captain Morgan or Bacardi... I tried Kraken once and almost dumped out the bottle. I ended up giving it to a less discerning friend of mine.

Ah, dude... if you like Laphroaig, there is a good chance you'll like Ardbeg. Very peaty and good stuff. Laphroaig and Ardbeg have some very similar, yet different qualities. Ardbeg Ten is a great start, but if you get your hands on Ardbeg Uigeadail, you might fall in love with it. Such a great dram.

As far as whiskey goes, I'm very fond of rye. Not a big rum drinker, but that Kraken is really good in hot cocoa after shoveling the driveway in the winter! Based upon your location, I'm guessing you don't deal with a lot of snow, though.

Was going to Tredjack the conversation

Feels like old times around here!

You guys have exotic tastes in alcohol. I keep it pretty simple. Beer (it varies, depending on the mood - I'm into Guinness Extra Stout right now but wouldn't turn down a Miller Lite if you offered one), and either Jack Daniels or tequila shots. I'll have red wine when the occasion calls for it, either a Merlot or Pinot Noir. Other than an occasional Bloody Mary on the golf course, that's about it.

Having said that, if I ever get a chance to try Tred's Habanero Vodka Mango cocktail or Losfer's Hot Cocoa with Kraken, I'd do it just for the good company.

Cheers! Happy Friday gents.

Definitely feels like old times, Sal!

You guys have exotic tastes in alcohol. I keep it pretty simple.

I'm a Colorado boy, and keep Coors Banquet in the fridge for after cutting the grass.

Having said that, if I ever get a chance to try Tred's Habanero Vodka Mango cocktail

I'm willing to go there as well, but wondering if there will be consequences the next morning!

Losfer, I traveled to Colorado for the first time in my life this June. It’s probably not somewhere I’d want to be in the winter, but it is indescribably beautiful. Pictures don’t do the Rocky Mountains State Park justice. So much prettier in real life. And temps in the 60s in the middle of summer felt like heaven. What a place to live.

Yaknow, I tried beer. I really tried. All of my friends, much of my family, they'd all look so satisfied chilling around a fire or a barbecue with a beer, and...

It always just tasted like bitter, stagnant rot water to me, no matter what it was. I even went to our local, award winning microbrewery here (Lost Coast Brewery) to celebrate a friend's birthday, and when I said I didn't like beer, they brought me a sampler of EVERYTHING they made, about 20 or 25 samples of different beers, ales, etc.

Now, I was a little tipsy after all that, but I didn't like a single one of them. Meanwhile, it's hard for me to find a whiskey that I can't tolerate. When I can't, I make my opinion known (Beam's 8 Star, I'm looking at you, you bucket of trash).

Incarnate, your hell sounds like my heaven.

I only drink beer. Well, I drink other things, too, but only beer where alcohol is concerned. I used to drink some whisky and rum but I drank it too fast (didn't savour it). The end result of that was not pleasant.

I did drink a 6 pack of Radler a couple of summers ago. Came close to losing my man card. I think it was Jduff that was coming for me.

Have a good weekend, gents.

Just got back in about an hour ago. Left at 8:30 PM, stayed out until 4:00 AM. Had copious amounts of alcohol. Had McDonald's. Had Denny's. Was offered a LOT of weed (it's legal in California, so no legality problems; I didn't partake because I'm just not super into being high). Chatted with a few ladies, but nothing really came of it.

There was one young lady at a hipster bar that was sitting next to where I was ordering for a friend and I. She kept looking over and turning back to glance at me, and so I looked at what she was doing.

She had drawn a medieval fantasy scene with romanesque pillars and trees, and various patrons of the bar dressed up as courtesans, etc etc. It was unfinished, but really good, especially for freehanding it. I told her I loved the pillar designs and the level of detail she put into the shading, and she started pointing out the people she drew inspiration from. She was super, super shy, and I could tell that she kept wanting to talk to me, but then she would turn away and scribble a little more, start to turn back, then away.

I considered engaging her, because, tbh, she was super cute, but she seemed barely old enough to be in there (MAYBE 21, 22) and so incredibly shy and anxious. Now, I know what I am personally looking for (someone comfortable with a NSA/ONS) if I am even looking for someone (not really sure I am yet, I'm just enjoying being out by myself or with friends), and I weighed it out. I figured that the safest bet would be to let her approach me if she wanted to, because I know I have a very forceful personality and I didn't want her to get any regrets. I complimented her artwork one more time, she thanked me, and I brought the drinks to my friend. We sat back and drank them, and she eventually packed up her art stuff and left.

Part of me wishes that she had approached me, part of me wishes that I had approached her, but part of me is glad that nothing happened. I don't think she would be the kind of person that would be super good for me right now, and I don't think I would have been good for her, based on what little I was able to read.

But godDAMN she was cute. I guess I have a type, and she was it. Petite, dark hair, fair skin, big eyes, soft voice. Dressed in a cornflower blue dress with white lace and black, high lace-up shoes.

Our college town is known to be rather eccentric... our hipsters are hyper-hipster.

Losfer, I traveled to Colorado for the first time in my life this June. It’s probably not somewhere I’d want to be in the winter, but it is indescribably beautiful. Pictures don’t do the Rocky Mountains State Park justice. So much prettier in real life. And temps in the 60s in the middle of summer felt like heaven. What a place to live.

Sal - RMNP is truly a magical place. There's no place like it. I'm glad you got to experience it. Did you do the drive up Trail Ridge Road? The scenery on that drive is amazing, but I get vertigo every single time. I live more on the front range, right in front of the mountains. We are in the high 80's today, but at least it is a dry heat. I'm ready for fall and winter.

Incarnate - It's good to see you getting out and about. Shortly after I left, I made it a point to get out and socialize. I did the dating site thing for awhile, and that's some crazy shit right there. Ultimately I decided that I am enjoying being single and having the freedom of being single at the moment. If I end up stumbling across someone that I click with in the meantime, so be it. It's just good to have room to breathe.

I hear you about the weed. It's legal in my state as well, but I just have no tolerance for it. I'll either sit there and talk about trees for 6-7 hours, or I'll pass out in my chair for a few hours and wake up in desperate need of Cheetos.

I did drink a 6 pack of Radler a couple of summers ago. Came close to losing my man card.

Steady - There is a raspberry beer out of Denver that I like called "Princess Yum Yum". I don't care. I have no shame. Great beer for fishing trips.

Shortly after I left, I made it a point to get out and socialize. I did the dating site thing for awhile, and that's some crazy shit right there. Ultimately I decided that I am enjoying being single and having the freedom of being single at the moment. If I end up stumbling across someone that I click with in the meantime, so be it. It's just good to have room to breathe.

I hear you about the weed. It's legal in my state as well, but I just have no tolerance for it. I'll either sit there and talk about trees for 6-7 hours, or I'll pass out in my chair for a few hours and wake up in desperate need of Cheetos.

That's pretty much where I am with it too. I'm not really actively looking for a partner, but if something falls into my lap, I'm not gonna kick it out of bed. I've never been single before, not since I was 17, so it's like, alright, wtf is that like?

Well apparently it's like being hung over and depressed, lol

And yeah, if I'm gonna get high, I prefer to do it at home, with just one or two hits, maybe three or four times a year. I preferred to smoke with my ex, but now, well, that's not really an option or a desire, so it's not my bag. I would either wanna watch a movie and fall asleep or stay in bed with the ex all night. Now I have no interest in watching movies by myself, and I've got nobody to stay in bed with, so what's the point?

Sounds like your head is on straight, Incarnate. Yeah, there will be some depressing and hungover times, but also some fun times as well! I tend to gravitate towards brew pubs, because I'm a bit of a beer geek, and there always seems to be someone to talk to. Sometimes it will be an attractive female, sometimes it will be some grizzly dude that looks kind of like me and we will talk about how much the Broncos suck. It sounds like you are finding your niche of where you like to hang out and meet the type of people you enjoy talking to.

I had gotten together with my wife at 22, and we split when I was 44, so half my life. I can understand a bit about it taking some adjustments to being single. I saw your other thread in off topic, and you are obviously a guy with a lot of hobbies/interests/passions in life. Those will all work in your favor for filling in the empty spaces.

The experiences I described with me experimenting with weed was when I only had one or two hits. Like I said, I'm a real lightweight when it comes to that! I've tried it out a few times over the course of my lifetime, and it's just not for me. I do have some funny stories because of it, though. There was that one time I found myself lost in the middle of a cemetery 10 miles from my apartment at 2:00 in the morning...

Quick update. Spent the evening chatting with the lady I spoke to at the bar over messenger while at game night with my brother (nursing a long distance hangover, lol). We have a tentative date set up. Turns out she loves the movie Anchorman, and I can quote it just about verbatim. Neither of us have seen it in a while, so we're gonna watch it. I'll be bringing buffalo wings. I'll also offer to meet elsewhere and have a drink or something, so she can feel me out and see whether or not she wants to invite me to her home instead of just the presumption that comes with that.

When she said she had to go to bed, her last message was "It was great talking to you. You seem like a cool dude. Talk soon maybe?"

And I'm a little wondering if that might be a slightly distancy/friendzony sort of message, because I know that we dudes are, in general, bad at spotting those. On the other hand, we're also notoriously bad at spotting the "come hither" statements as well, so I don't know. I am going to approach it just as me, genuine, honest, as I always have been. No fronts, no airs, no expectations.

Maybe she'll meet me at the bar and not feel it. Maybe we'll go to her house, eat buffalo wings and watch a movie and I'll go home. Maybe I'll stay over. I'm leaving it entirely open and up to her. I just hope she's not the kind of gal that needs her partner to make the first move, because I don't think I can really make a first move right now. It was a stretch to message her in the first place.

I'd say try not to put too much thought/stress into it, and just enjoy the moment without any expectations. If there is chemistry there, you will both feel it. That didn't sound like a friendzone statement to me, but I can be pretty obtuse with that. The last time I got friendzoned, she said, "You're like a big brother to me." That one was pretty obvious, and stung a little. I ended up actually becoming really good friends with her, and we wouldn't have been compatible as anything other than friends, so no loss there.

ETA: You might find some good feedback on this type of question in "New Beginnings" section. Might not hurt to get some feedback from the womenz on the site as well.

[This message edited by LosferWords at 9:42 AM, September 22nd (Sunday)]

I have been posting on the "I wanna get laid, sorry if tmi" thread. The ladies there are pretty supportive if they respond to my posts. I dunno, I feel weird asking for interpretation from people that a) don't really know me or her, and b) have SO MUCH of their own shit going on.

But, I mean, that is more or less why we're here. I know it's just my predisposition towards going it alone that's being a hangup.

But damn, being able to wrap my arm around someone, hold them close, feel their heartbeat and warmth and watch a dumb movie just sounds... really, really nice. Even if I don't stay over, even if nothing else happens, just to have a calm, quiet, relaxing dinner and movie, no expectations, no pressure, no baggage, no hurt feelings or tension, letting it go where it goes.

Even just typing those words down makes me realize exactly how starved for that I am.

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[This message edited by Incarnate at 11:20 AM, September 22nd (Sunday)]

I don't think that was necessarily friendzony. I think it was an invitation to find out if you 2 are in the friend zone or not.

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Man, I spent months thinking I was in W2b's friend zone. I have few regrets in life, but I think waiting so long before I tried my luck with her is the biggest one.

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We went out to hear and see some Flamenco music and dancing last night.

The lead guitarist was fantastic. (He was backed up by a rhythm guitar, electric bass guitar, and percussion.) The dancer was OK. The music was wonderful, moving all over from tranquil to exciting and back again.