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I know. I would just love to know if my husband's name is on there. I don't think it is. His phone number and all email addresses are not showing up, but since it is out there it just would be nice to know. Wish I had jumped on it while the information was easier to find. OH, well. I have discussed it with him and he says it is not and I tend to believe him, but it would be nice to verify. OH, well.

I searched for friends and family. Now I'm pissed off. I'm surround by parasites and selfish dicks.

Which is exactly why I won't look.

Some of us, including me, were BS's looking for our WS. So please don't assume anything based on searching everyone you know.

Just wanted to add that the junk email address I used is now INUDATED with similar cheater site ads, and also sex sites in general. This is truly a junk email, I get maybe 2 sex ads a week, since I searched, over 100. Trustify keeps asking me to pay $199 for further evidence or to remove evidence, which isn't possible. So the people who are giving you access to this data...aren't that clean themselves. Just FYI.

Posted: 1:32 PM, August 19th (Wednesday), 2015

Their servers are probably overloaded right now. There will probably be a lot more sites popping up in the near future. As a public service announcement please be careful which sites you post information too, as I'm sure there will be phishing sites popping up hoping to collect some e-mail addresses, phone numbers, or credit card information.

Still my advice. Be careful and if you don't know what you are doing, it's worse now than when I posted that. Problem is, hard to know which are the trusted sites and which are honey pots looking to lure suckers into giving up money. If they are asking for money of any amount, they aren't legit. The hackers and community that are spreading this information didn't do it for monetary gain.

I am on the list... I made a profile in 2004 5 years before getting married and while single. 57% of AM users were married, the rest single or "other".

The profile dump which I personally reviewed (ie, nor through a service) indicates I updated my profile on 10/15/2011 but I think that must be something AM did on their servers bc thousands of very old profiles all list the last updated date as a 10/15 or 10/16 (of 2011) timestamp.

Unfortunately the CC dump lists me as paying as recently as 2013. I probably did. I have no real memory at all.

I was married by that point.

I have hugged my family extra tight this week every night thinking it will be the last time we are happy and together.

Sigh.

Oh, also, AM really wasn't a hot bed of adultery at all.

http://gizmodo.com/almost-none-of-the-women-in-the-ashley-madison-database-1725558944

Don't take my word for it... see the link.

Anyway - not making excuses. Too me personally the truth is the fantasy of porn has always been hotter if it seemed like the people were real.

AM promised very real women. I shudder if all the old porn sites I visited (not illegal just personal) suddenly get published. Hell, I had a membership to a cuckold porn site but didn't mean I wanted to actively see that happen in real life.

Not making excuses whatsoever, just the reality that Google knows every search I have ever done, FB knows every gossip I messaged, and these porn sites every fantasy.

The Internet knows more of the real me than my spouse kids or parents. It basically recorded my thoughts for a decade and now I am gonna pay, my wife is gonna be crushed, and my kids don't deserve this. I failed

Unfortunately Oneuponanintern, actions have consequences. Our past choices very often deeply impact our future.

So when you were a single guy, you went on AM to try to sleep with another's man's wife? or cyber chat with another's man's wife about sex? or look at pics of another's man wife as fantasy porn? You don't think there is anything wrong with that??

I'm sorry your chickens have come home roost. They always do.

You haven't checked your credit cards charges in 11 years?

Want some advice? Confess before she finds out or worse someone else tells her. Be prepared she won't believe you, heck I don't really believe you. Maybe if you confess to being on there and paying for it all these years, maybe she'll want to try to R. Trying to hide is futile. Evenutally she is going to find out.

I checked one of the sites. X WH is not on there (I was convinced he was and he admitted photo was of him but now it looks like it wasn't?!?), but of course my fake email I created to check was. Just f'ing beautiful :(

I was so completely over this and had moved on and now I've been a mess for days. I have enough drama dealing with X and all of the current shit he is pulling

Oh, also, AM really wasn't a hot bed of adultery at all.

http://gizmodo.com/almost-none-of-the-women-in-the-ashley-madison-database-1725558944

Don't take my word for it... see the link.

Patently false, Gizmodo is not looking in the right places. The CC transactions show a different story, also so many CC transactions are anon, it is hard to prove otherwise. Most women on AM used male accounts. Most women paid the minimum and took the relationship off AM which is why there is little to no activity. Most women could not us use female accounts very effectively because of the bombardment of penis pictures and ever overflowing inboxes.

Don't fool yourselves, AM lasted as long because it did work. I know more women than men that used the site successfully.

Adult Friend Finder is the same way, women safeguard themselves far better with false info and using male accounts.

Actually staying on these board long enough and other infidelity boards, numerically speaking of affairs generated from online would suggest otherwise.

Since it's start, countless articles of undercover journalists reporting on successful meet ups as well.

Believe in the male hype at your own peril.

[This message edited by atreides at 12:21 AM, August 27th (Thursday)]

Atreifes and Normoredeceit -

Sorry if you mistook what I wrote - I was saying I don't recall why I went on the site in 2005. If I had to guess it was to jack-off to pics but that is speculation. Just a guess based on how I spend my time on sex sites.

And yes I am totally prepared for the consequences bit that does not excite me about them. Kinda sucks it is going to involve the whole world and not just my spouse / family, but what are ya gonna do. Shrug. Not on my control the distribution at this point.

Oh as for the CC - I do check them - I believe I probably did pay for it that one time. I wasn't trying to claim hackimg. Just that I don't recall. Like if suddenly all your grocery history from your discount card going back to 2005 was made public and on one of those receipts there was a charge for having purchased some random item. It isn't that you don't believe the history as shown - just the chances of remembering "Oh yeah in 2011 I do remember that specific purchase" are iffy.

I did fail at marriage. Maybe or maybe not in the way you guys think exactly but I did. I admit it.

[This message edited by onceuponanintern at 6:19 AM, August 27th (Thursday)]

I sent the two profiles from allaboutashley.cr to my fWH and he started singing like a canary...

He had two profiles because he removed the first one and system told him it would unavailable to him. He didnt pay to delete and couldnt get into first profile after this. He used AM nust before and during time with CL whore. He created a new profile six weeks before our DD. He deleted the two secret emails before our DD.

His profiles said possible transactions and he said he bought 2 international money orders for 49 each and mailed to AM in Canada. He was intent on staying anonymous.

He said the site lets you buy say 100 ctedits per 49 as he recalls. Th men get collect emails from sposed women. To open the email costs say 5 credits and to send a response costs say another 5. After that the emails are free with those profiles. But Instant messaging cost credits and isnt free. Men can send emails out for 5 credits each but I think they have to pay another 5 to read it before that email exchange be omes free. This was the 49 charge service.

So the men who show high cc charges probably either communicated a lot or paid for higher level of service?

His status was 2 which my guess is indicates his membership type.

Ive read AM different levels of service with the high end guaranteeing results or money back.

He said over 90% of women contacted him collect. He now thinks these were likely mostly fake profiles set up to get him to pay.

I told him to make sure he has given me the accurate dollar amt because it may be exposed.

[This message edited by whattheh at 6:57 AM, August 27th (Thursday)]

Crushed. Got an anonymous call, then a call from a friend.

Told to check AM lists. Sure....

Name is there. CC data is there.

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[This message edited by SI Staff at 11:33 AM, August 27th (Thursday)]

THIS MAN IS THE SCUM OF THE EARTH, A DEVICE OF THE DEVIL -- DUPLICITY, SAYS HE NEVER CHEATED ON HIS WIFE BUT...hack says different -- this is just ridiculous -- http://nypost.com/2015/08/27/ashley-madison-ceo-gets-caught-in-ashley-madison-hack/

so his wife said last year in an interview:

"devastated if I ever found out my husband was having sex outside of their marriage"

So your husband is a pimp and you think he won't do it to you -- what?!?!?!?!? so your lavish lifestyle is funding by this but you'd be devastated? I'm obviously an alien from another planet. I claim no association to the human race

The YOLO sight didn't give any info. It said details were not available for privacy reasons.

Destiny777 -

Priceless about the CEO!!!!

here comes Karma

Mrs. B SI Member #50000

[This message edited by totallywounded at 12:51 PM, August 27th (Thursday)]

ya know the thing I cannot figure out is what the hell kind of people dreamed up the AM site (and others like it) in the first place?

At some meeting, bunch of stuffed shirts sitting around a table and one says Hey I know, let's put up a website for married people only where they can arrange hook-ups and have affairs. We can charge a fortune and people will pay" And what the hell kind of people work there? No morals, no ethics, promoting this?

I read somewhere in all these articles since the dump came out there are over 4000 dating websites on the internet. Not all this like AM but man that is a huge number. Wonder if that is based on fact?

Does this look accurate in regards to the data dump? I'm still working through it but so far it seems legit:

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[This message edited by SI Staff at 6:07 PM, August 27th (Thursday)]

Not available or does not exist?

ya know the thing I cannot figure out is what the hell kind of people dreamed up the AM site (and others like it) in the first place?

At some meeting, bunch of stuffed shirts sitting around a table and one says Hey I know, let's put up a website for married people only where they can arrange hook-ups and have affairs. We can charge a fortune and people will pay" And what the hell kind of people work there? No morals, no ethics, promoting this?

Guilty of this, most of my knowledge like females using male accounts comes from almost starting a site like that. Way back there was AFF and others and many were using eHarmoney and such to actually cheat which slowly got harder. There was a market for it, the swinging culture has quite a few sites as well. AM had the best $$ model and at first kept it legit as in not as many fake accounts, bots and then the $20 scrub your account crap.

If you look at it as in $$ it's easy to dream up, but as you say ethics and my wife did not like the idea very much, although she would have supported it had i carried it though. I would not have been as crass as "life is short, have an affair" though.

It was amazing what people would do and what i learned, i created many accounts on several sites to learn the ins and outs at first, it is a big business and even after this fallout there will always be AFF, Fling and if AM does not survive another will take its place. Supply meets demand.

Noel Biderman's wife is an idiot. Of course, he's going to have affairs all throughout their marriage. Couldn't she tell he's selling something he believes in?? He's on record saying he believes the Ten Commandments are outdated. Seriously, what morals can someone like this have? However, I wouldn't be surprised if she's having affairs also. They may even have an open marriage. It's just sickening their kids are exposed to the lies and are tainted by it all.

Hope this entire ordeal breaks their bank.