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Now I know why she doens't want me to do Lawyer. She doens't want all her hidden accounts and dirty stuff she is doing out in the open. ALso the affair too.

Ask your PI and your attorney about this, they may have tools to discover them or recommend a forensic accountant who specializes exactly in this type of hidden accounts and/or hidden investments.

Great job!!!

Let the professionals deal with her and her lawyer. From now on. When she approaches you and says she wants to talk about the divorce or settlement, just say to her, “unless you are going to tell me that you completely accept my last offer, please have your lawyers call mine. That is what I am paying mine to do.”

180/ghost her as much as possible. Obviously it won’t be total NC as you have kids, but do it as much as possible. The more thoroughly you do it, the faster you will feel better. Trust me on this!

If she continues to push, let her know that your lawyer plans on deposing her lover. It doesn’t matter if it is true, just the fact that you know his name and will get drawn into a potentially long and embarrassing legal battle, will put her back on her heels. But before you do this, run it by your lawyer.

You are doing just fine. Keep it up.

You now know who and what she really is.

AND, most importantly, you know what she was going to do!!!!!

SHE WAS GOING TO BLEED YOU DRY and then RUN OFF WITH HER LOVER!!!!!!

There are no words to accurately describe her and what she was going to do to you!!!!! You owe her nothing but your contempt!!!!!

She obviously doesn’t love you or respect you! And you have zero reason to trust her!! These are the three foundations on which a marriage is based upon. Your marriage is missing all three!!!

Remain strong and do what you know you must and should do!!!

Do you know when she is being served?

[This message edited by Newlifeisgreat at 3:16 PM, August 25th (Tuesday)]

she should be getting served today or tomorrow

Excellent.

Von, you should hire a forensic accountant. With an optometry practice, she has ways to hide her money. You would be well served to get one hired, and your attorney can point you to one.

As the others have said, good job on filing. Now you need to shut up and go no contact with her.

What have you told the kids, and how are you preparing to tell them? You need to have a plan for the kids.

[This message edited by Vonbock at 9:15 PM, March 11th (Thursday)]

Good job.

Now I suggest you get and keep a VAR in your shirt pocket at all times, as she might go crazy after being served. You don’t want your good name and reputation soiled, or worse, your license put in danger by a false domestic violence claim.

What was the reason you out for the divorce? Adultery? Irreconcilable differences?

Do you know anyone that is or has a relative in FBI? Lol. That would be like hitting the lottery!

[This message edited by Newlifeisgreat at 5:14 PM, August 25th (Tuesday)]

they are having a tough time finding her, she is probably at bf house

Too bad you can’t trace her by her phone

How are you feeling about all this right now?

they are having a tough time finding her, she is probably at bf house

Has your PI started working on your case yet ? if not do it now, also you might want to tell her you want to bring that check and see if they really mean it, tell her to bring it to you or that you can meet her somewhere, have the serving officer standing by, then you tell her you changed your mind about the check.

Von- exchanging checks for cash is absolutely a laundering scheme and especially in those amounts. It would be different if it was $300, but $250k, you'd set yourself up to be part of that scheme.

Keep a Var with you like the others have said. She is sounding more shifty by the minute. Let the PI do the work, he may find financial fraud in your favor as the divorce moves ahead. Do not talk to her anymore in person. If she ask you to exchange cash for money, make sure you do it by text or email. Better yet, ask her in a text, so that you have that type of information in a format you can share with the family judge.

Right now, you want the advantage of the best divorce settlement and custody settlement for you and your kids.

Confirm this with your attorney but if you go to court (rather than settle) your wife & you will be issued court orders to disclose all property interests as well as cash, bank or other accounts.

People go to jail for lying to a Judge (and lose their license to practice).

It sounds like your wife wants to avoid disclosing all her property, cash etc.

Maybe your PI can find evidence of a secret account (or a safe deposit box full of cash that you don't know about).

She was asking about doing this about 3 months ago go. Putting the pieces together, she was starting her master plan. Get to exchange cash for check. Asking me to move out of house. Trying to buy a house, now knowing it is near her bf house, far away from our practices. I said no so she said we can invest in an llc and buy rental homes. I kept wandering why is she wanting to buy rental homes when we are working to see if marriage will continue. Then once I move to new house, get all the money out of me, then say sorry lets go ahead and divorce. I willl have to move up there to be near the kids while boyfriend moves in. Then no lawyer involved, she just wants me and her to draw up divorce without using lawyers. My lawyer says he has seen this before

[This message edited by Vonbock at 7:17 PM, August 25th (Tuesday)]

So predictable, once you take off the rose tinted glasses.

Now you know who and what you are dealing with, you are able to defend yourself.

Was she served today?

Do you have a VAR readily available with new batteries in it for immediate use?

[This message edited by Newlifeisgreat at 7:36 PM, August 25th (Tuesday)]

Let the professional handle everything, step back, big boy pants, go for full custody. If she is assisting in laundering money, then she isn't of good character, possible supervised visits for a period of time.

Property, high cash flow, deception at every turn.

Man you got a full plate. Don't be intimidated by her family or cohorts. Carry a VAR at all times from now on!

One day at a time.

Buffer

Your lawyer has seen this before? How sad.

Your lawyer sounds like a pro!👍🏻

I can't believe people can be this evil.

I am not playing be nice to her because she is mother of your children.

She didn't play nice to me knowing I am father of her children.

My ex was furious when I decided to get a lawyer instead of doing the mediation route. It was because he was hiding things and wanted to avoid court and any and all financial discovery. Once I realized I couldn’t trust him, I knew I needed to protect myself. And, man, my ex was hiding A LOT.

Check your state laws, but if you’re on the title of your wife’s car, you may be able to put a GPS tracker on it.

Your wife really is evil. I can relate to a lot of what you’re going through. I was lucky that my son was already a young adult when I had my first d-day because I had no custody issues. But I did have enough extra information from my PI to get an advantage in negotiating the divorce. These cheaters have no conscience and the only thing they care about it saving their own asses.

[This message edited by Pandora16 at 10:01 PM, August 25th (Tuesday)]

tell me about it. I have friends who say don't go after her so hard she is mother of your child. You will have to get along later. It Bhuddist Zen that you are paying each other. She was scared and frightened on how to satisfy what she she was lacking in the marriage, so she had to cheat,

I don't believe in those lines. If she is mother of your child , then she didn't think of the father of the child and children when she had the affair and hurt everybody. I feel like people on this board. Nail her. These dang cheaters take advantage of your niceness, respect, and lie to you . They think you are stupid.

In my case I want to her give her a gift of

of exposing hidden bank accounts and money laundering investigation