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OW, I am not at all surprised to hear that you are doing well. You grabbed the bull by the horns, addressed your pain head on and advocated for what you wanted. That was the key for me as well.

You and your wife have done a lot of hard work to get here and I’m glad that it has paid off.

You have always been an empathetic and balanced voice at SI and I’m so happy that people here are still hearing your thoughts and experiences.

Hello Oldwounds

I haven't posted on SI other than a brief foray into the Just Found Out forum shortly after my D Day.

But I read here all the time. Your story has resonated with me for a number of reasons.

I'd like you to know how much your posts have helped me.

They have helped me frame what I want from reconciliation, what I want from my wife, but more importantly, what I want FOR me.

I think your words have made a miserably difficult journey, a little less difficult for me.

And I just wanted to thank you for that.

Hey Riddle67,

Anything that makes this pain a little less difficult for someone makes it very worth the time to share my story. Of course, the many members who helped me and share their stories really helped get me to a point where I can use the word "happy" again.

Thanks a bunch for the kind words.

Keep reading, keep healing, I wish you as good a recovery from this Hell as is possible.

You and your wife have done a lot of hard work to get here and I’m glad that it has paid off.

So nice to ‘hear’ from the mighty SB — thanks very kindly!

Your last update was awesome to read, I hope your life is going as well for you and yours.

Thanks for the great update and all the encouragement you give here. You have definitely helped me through the journey.

Thanks Tanner.

The "journey" we are on is something I have I have renamed, "Hiking through Hell."

I’m mostly on the other side of it, but Hellish scenery does pop up now and again.

A great message as always, and am happy to see the peace growing and growing for you!

A great message as always, and am happy to see the peace growing and growing for you!

Hey Hiking -

Ah yes, peace.

I’m glad you read that in there, I probably should have mentioned it anyway, since so many new members here fear they will never find any kind of peace.

At peace with ourselves and the person we are with was always the dream, it is nice to finally be here.

I hope things are going well with you and yours and the continuing adventures.

If you do choose R, it only works if your spouse wants it as much as you do.

So true, it takes 2 to tango.

So true, it takes 2…

It sounds simple and obvious, yet, in response to others here over the years, I think I have written, "We can’t do R by ourselves," 1,000 times here.

Usually, my annual update includes the massive effort by wife to get our M back online. Updates can make it sound too easy sometimes, but there was a ton of work done by her and her effort everyday still makes a difference in our rebuild.

Oldwounds, thank you for the update and for all of your hard-earned wisdom. You've been a lighthouse for me over the last 18 months (along with others on this thread).

Things in life are most certainly not black and white, and people can change. Those realizations have been key to my R thus far.

All the best to you and your wife...

Onward1-

Thanks for the kind words, and "hard-earned wisdom" is unfortunately, part of the deal for all of us.

I hope you are healing up and you and yours are doing better.