Not sure if I’m being too much or too sensitive, but my sister who happened to be coming to my house arrived at the same time that my ex-husband dropped my children off home. She knows everything, my devastation, what I’m still going through, how he’s discarded me. I caught him cheating on me for a second time - first time with an ex-girlfriend, second time with his coworker and then told me he was leaving. It’s been a few years since the incident and I’m still grieving it and feel so betrayed as I do this life alone. He’s now with another coworker and has just recently moved in with her. We’re not on talking terms. I feel so disgusted and hurt at the same time with what he has chosen. She knows he’s also taking me to court next week to try taking away my spousal support and lowering my child support. My communication with him is extremely minimal and only regards the children because I have no choice. I don’t say a word to him otherwise. We don’t acknowledge one another at all, our eyes are always on our daughters during drop offs.
As she was walking to my door, I heard the first thing she said was hi to him and how he was doing. She then walked over to him and started having a whole conversation. Asking him about work, what’s new..his car, then proceeding to update him on what’s new in her life. I was completely taken aback. I could hear it all from inside my house. When she came in, I asked her after everything he’s put me through, why does she have to engage with him in that manner? I was hoping that if she chose to acknowledge his presence, it would be with a quick wave and that would be the end of it. She was over by him for 5 minutes, just chatting and it honestly hurt me. When I approached her about it, she said it’s not a big deal, it’s just "small talk", but I feel she’s not looking at the overall picture. To me, if feels like it sends a message to him, that it’s ok what you did to my sister and I will still talk to you the way I always have. My father does the same as well — if he ever happened to see him while dropping my kids off, he embraces him with a hug, calls him by a term of endearment still and has never acknowledged to him that he was disappointed in what he has done. I’ve asked him as well why he talks to him and opens his arms to him like nothing ever happened and the answer I’ve gotten was, "I’m not going to be bitter, he’ll always be my son in law." "Your problems with him have nothing to do with me and my relationship with him." I feel so hurt by this all and also have wondered if he in some distorted way feels a bond to him since he was a cheater himself and even had another baby with someone while with my mother. My mother on the other hand would never carry a conversation with my ex again and has no desire to even look his way after everything she sees I’ve endured. I feel like it also makes me look stupid that I could never bring myself to talk to him in a light hearted, friendly manner, but my own family does with no hesitation. It makes me feel so unsupported and minimized.
I’m curious to know what peoples opinions are..
Thanks for listening.
