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freetogonow (original poster member #57821) posted at 1:52 AM on Friday, April 9th, 2021
Ex is blocked on facebook. the only, ONLY reason he isn't blocked on my phone is that our divorce is finally filed and until that's wrapped up, I'm going to allow him to still text for divorce business only because I don't want any excuses which will delay that. (I don't take his calls, I let them go to voicemail and if he texts about anything other than the divorce, I don't respond).
Long story short, he wants me back. Not in a million fucking years, dude. I don't love him, I don't hate him, I don't feel anything. I don't care if he's happy, I don't care if he's unhappy, I don't care if he had a bad day or broke his leg or won the lottery. I. Don't. Care.
He's a guy who was only ever as faithful as his options, so, vaya con Dios, motherfucker!
There's a song by Randy Travis called "Is It Still Over" that I listen to and just laugh and laugh. "Is it still over, are we still through, since my phone still ain't ringin', I assume it still ain't you...."
He tries and tries and tries to get me to engage. Once my divorce is final, I'm sending his AP girlfriend all these texts which clearly show it's a one way valve of regret from him to me.
homewrecked2011 ( member #34678) posted at 2:42 AM on Friday, April 9th, 2021
Sometimes He calms the storm. Sometimes He lets the storm rage, but calms His child. Dday 12/19/11I went to an attorney and had him served. Shocked the hell out of him, with D papers, I'm proud to say!D final10/30/2012Me-55
thatbpguy ( member #58540) posted at 3:39 AM on Friday, April 9th, 2021
He's a guy who was only ever as faithful as his options, so, vaya con Dios, motherfucker!
OK, this is quality stuff.
ME: BH Her: WW DDay 1, R; DDay 2, R; DDay 3, I left; Divorced Remarried to a wonderful woman
"There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind." C.S. Lewis
As a dog returns to his vomit, so a fool repeats his folly...
LadyG ( member #74337) posted at 3:48 AM on Friday, April 9th, 2021
Keep a screenshot of all those messages from him. With time and date stamped.
When Stbxwh was harassing me to reconcile after I moved out of our family home I ignored his messages.
After Dday it was another story altogether. His exit A was abruptly ended and I threaten to expose him to the exAP if he continued to harass me.
Stupid AP was waiting in the wings to take him back after I rejected him once again.
Some of WH texts to me were very sexually explicit. Disgusting really. I thought that maybe AP helped him write a few and they sent them to me for a laugh. But apparently not. AP was as much in the dark about me.
I never sent the exAP anything but I still have most of the messages.
September 26 1987 I married a monster. Slowly healing from Complex PTSD. I Need Peace. Fiat Lux. Buddha’s Love Saves Me 🙏🏼
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 12:52 PM on Friday, April 9th, 2021
He only wants what he can not have. It’s a stupid game people play.
I guarantee that if you decided to get back with him, he would be cheating soon thereafter.
Not that you aren’t the best thing he ever had, it that he’s too stupid to really know that and cherish it.
Good for you for getting to the point of really not caring about him. Great place to be.
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
Chaos ( member #61031) posted at 2:40 PM on Friday, April 9th, 2021
vaya con Dios, motherfucker!
This needs to be on a coffee mug.
BS-me/WH-4.5yrLTA Married 2+ decades-2 adult children. Multiple DDays w/same LAP until I told OBS 2018- Cease & Desist sent spring 2021 "Hello–My name is Chaos–You f***ed my husband-Prepare to Die!"
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 3:02 PM on Friday, April 9th, 2021
Excellent!
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
fareast ( Moderator #61555) posted at 3:50 PM on Friday, April 9th, 2021
Love this! Excellent!
Perhaps a Snagglepuss reference is appropriate:
To WH:
Exit stage left motherfucker!
Never bother with things in your rearview mirror. Your best days are on the road in front of you.
rugswept ( member #48084) posted at 9:04 AM on Saturday, April 10th, 2021
I see.
Now when you don't call, he'll know it's you.
And, besides, how are you going to miss him if he won't go away.
R'd (rug swept everything) decades ago.
I'm big on R. Very happy marriage but can never forget.
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