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Xwh and ow arguing :)

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 Brokenheart29 (original poster member #51827) posted at 8:55 AM on Saturday, November 21st, 2020

Hi guys!

Not posted here in a long while. My xwh and ow bought a huge expensive house in March that they can’t afford. It’s been 4 years since dday but it still stung. My dd refuses to have anything to do with her dad. He’s been pretty awful to her and has always put ow first. My ds sleeps at his dads once a week. My ds is 4 (my xwh was cheating while I was pregnant )

Ow was awful to me when it all came out. It was a horrendous time in my life when I should have been enjoying a newborn.

My ds told me last night that he was woken up last weekend with them screaming at each other. He said they didn’t know they had woken him up (he’s a real deep sleeper so it must of been a huge screaming match) he said they were shouting they were going to sell the house. It’s nice to know that the grass isn’t greener and karma is about. Imagine what goes on that I don’t know

Me 33, xwh POS had a pa while I was pregnant. My kids, DD 10 DS 4.They will see me through this trauma.
Dday January 2016
Divorced finally January 2017

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homewrecked2011 ( member #34678) posted at 1:09 PM on Saturday, November 21st, 2020

Get the popcorn 🍿 popping!

BTW, I know exactly how you feel!!!!!

My children came home from a shortened Father’s Day visit saying the OW and XWH were yelling and fighting. OW was hitting their Dad and locked him out of the house!!!!! My kids left (they could drive by then) and they rarely visit Dad anymore. AND OW own son moved in with his own Dad after a couple of years of the fighting.

Sorry our children have to hear this. However my friend told me she was brought up with 2 distinctly different households, and when she grew up she knew exactly which type of home she wanted to recreate!

[This message edited by homewrecked2011 at 7:10 AM, November 21st (Saturday)]

Sometimes He calms the storm. Sometimes He lets the storm rage, but calms His child. Dday 12/19/11I went to an attorney and had him served. Shocked the hell out of him, with D papers, I'm proud to say!D final10/30/2012Me-55

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The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 2:15 PM on Saturday, November 21st, 2020

Thanks for sharing.

I say this so many times to so many BS — just because they end up together does not mean it’s all roses and sunshine.

Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 11 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.

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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 7:12 PM on Saturday, November 21st, 2020

So predictable. Sorry your DS had to witness that mess.

Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

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 Brokenheart29 (original poster member #51827) posted at 11:03 AM on Sunday, November 22nd, 2020

Homewrecked2011 wow, that is pretty crazy! I think that my xwh and ow will be super similar. Staying together but being miserable. It’s what they both deserve. Soul mates etc etc

The1stwife it’s why I wanted to post this. I remember in the beginning being devastated that my xwh and ow stayed together when so many people told me it wouldn’t last. I just want others to know that behind closed doors that it isn’t as nice and perfect as they want you to believe. My xwh still tells me he regrets his decisions everyday. I tend to not listen now as he stayed with her therefore he can’t be that regretful. But knowing that ow is experiencing how shit a partner he is and vice versa with money problems thrown in it just helps me feel a small bit better about everything.

Barelybreathing I know I feel so sorry for ds having to listen to them screaming and knowing he was probably anxious about it

Me 33, xwh POS had a pa while I was pregnant. My kids, DD 10 DS 4.They will see me through this trauma.
Dday January 2016
Divorced finally January 2017

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OwningItNow ( member #52288) posted at 11:09 AM on Sunday, November 22nd, 2020

Your stupid exWH brought his same dumb self and issues to the next R like everyone does. He shouldn't have been a coward and run away from his brokenness because--wherever you go, there you are! This is why they always look back at their cheating and leaving with regret, whether they ever admit it or not.

me: BS/WS h: WS/BS

Reject the rejector. Do not reject yourself.

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Gottagetthrough ( member #27325) posted at 5:54 PM on Sunday, November 22nd, 2020

When wh left ow 1 and i asked about their relationship (thinking it was wonderful) he laughed and said no way! We had so many screaming matches! So loud that the dogs got scared and would hide... later learned he cheated on ow 1 many times...

It took ten years and another ow to learn that he was cheating on ow 1 left and right... and i thought they had a great relationship and were happy

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ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 8:58 AM on Monday, November 23rd, 2020

Aww, poor widdle asswipe - let me go find my teeny weeny viowiiiiiiiiiiiinnnnnn.........

Couldn't happen to a nicer douchebag!!

BEEP BEEP!!!!!

ps, save me some popcorn......

Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now

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