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Guess who got to tell off the crazy ex MIL! That’s right, this girl. It felt great. She is Satan’s sidekick and some may remember she is NPD and just a witch. Her life revolves around drama and lies. It truly does make me feel bad for the man I married because I know deep down in my heart that she is a large reason for his behavior. I am not excusing that he didn’t figure it out, but he didn’t exactly have a best start with that woman. He does not even talk to her. However, he learned from her. She decided to call me and with her holier than thou attitude tell me how I am going to bring the kids to see her and how we are going to become friends now so she can continue to interject yourself and hurt her son. I had two words: F Y

Then she went off. She still holds that knife behind the back. I’m not blind and the cycle stops here. I am pretty sure I can still hear her screaming from two hours away I had her number blocked, but I upgraded my phone when he destroyed it a while back so I think I need to re-block her.

[This message edited by deena04 at 11:04 PM, May 2nd (Wednesday)]

Fuck that bitch!!

Stay completely no contact with her. He can manage his relationship with her. I’ve been nc for almost 4 years with my mil. It has changed the relationship between her and my wh because I’m no longer in the triangle. They have to deal with their shit and I’m not there to blame. It’s shown my wh that the I was never the problem in the triangle at all. I never had it out with her because it would accomplish nothing - she’s never wrong, I’m clearly unstable, and she always changes the story so she can control her image. She will never apologize to me because she has never made a mistake. And she’s a fucking therapist.

My mil doesn’t care about me, genuinely not a care about me - hard to accept after 30 years of her telling me she loves me and me believing it - and what’s killing her now is that I have all the control because I care the least. I have only been a trinket she trots out when she needs to look a certain way, then I get stuffed back in a drawer. Do not get sucked back into anything with her, no more conflict or fighting or name calling. Act like she’s a stranger you pass on the street. Any emotion from you will give her satisfaction. You cannot lose your shit again, it shows her you’re the cuckoo one, no wonder her poor son had to cheat! Now you need to have a lot of self control in not reacting at all. Try to not even bitch about her behind her back. Breathe and think about something else. Your life is about to get calmer without her in it.

Good for you, deena. Keep her away from your children for their sake. Bet it did feel good. Power. Boundaries.

Its amazing the power the proper use of those two words are, right?

She is deserving of this...she chooses to continue the drama....

stay away....she may not be done..

Just FYI.... Therapist dont become therapist because they are healthy people.

Oh it was a great feeling. We had been NC for a few years. This woman had harassed my older kids while they were in school, lied about us, lied to us, and threatened to take my kids years ago. She can rot. There is a special place...,

When she called, I didn’t even recognize the number. Once she started, I listened. Literally the only two words I said once she took a breath were F*** You, then she spun into screaming because it’s always about her wants, and I started laughing because I’d waited a long time to do that. Then I hung up after she was ranting a bit. Reblocked number. Ahhh!

[This message edited by deena04 at 12:36 PM, May 3rd (Thursday)]

Oh icthus, ain’t it the truth. She’s effectively avoided all her own problems by distracting herself with other people’s. Which makes her superhuman of course. I am of course the damaged party in our relationship, she flashes her MSW, shakes her head and it becomes gospel.

When every interaction with a person makes your chest tighten and makes you walk away feeling confused or angry or nauseous, the only solution is no contact.

Deena darling, you done good!

Glad you got the satisfaction. If she truly is crazy, doubtful anything will stick. At least that is the way my MIL is. But as long as you weren't toxic, but assertive and clear I think it at least shows that you have a spine.

My in-laws are pretty toxic. They have twisted things so my wife's straying is my fault, and she was just a poor victim who reacted like anyone would have. I wrote them a semi-NC letter specifying boundaries of our interactions until they change. They were offended, but I've stuck to it.

Good! I did the same a while back, but it was more of a I'm sorry but you're wrong email. She wouldn't stop contacting me about how she'll always be a mother to me and cares about me and wants my happiness. I basically told her she is selfish and he learned it from her and to leave me alone, in the most polite way possible. I basically said we have fundamentally different upbringings where her family believes in finding self satisfaction at any cost, and my family believes in loyalty and honor bringing you happiness.

I do wish I could really send a big FU as well, but I'm still trying to be a "better person," whatever that means...