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lilies21 (original poster member #35833) posted at 4:23 PM on Friday, September 28th, 2018
ETA: see? So nervous I couldn't get the title right. Obviously should be why did I do this.
I participated in a speed dating event for mom friends a couple of weeks ago. A Facebook group was created for all the attendees to keep in touch and plan other events. The only other meet ups so far have been stay-at-home-moms meeting at parks during the day but I'm hosting a get together tomorrow night 
. It was a moment of insanity and now I'm more nervous than I ever was for any date!
I just offered a simple night of wine, girl talk, and Cards Against Humanity for anyone who might like to come and so far SIX have said they're definitely coming. I've cleaned my place top to bottom, I have to go buy more wine glasses tonight because right now I have a grand total of four. Oh, I guess I have to buy more wine and other drinks too. I made it potluck so I didn't have to do a lot of cooking. I'm just still...nervous. Tips for an introvert attempting to be an extrovert for an evening?
[This message edited by lilies21 at 10:27 AM, September 28th (Friday)]
Me: BS, 30s.
One son.
Many D-Days for excessive porn, Craigslist ads, and EAs/PAs.
Happily divorced since September 2015.
Catwoman ( member #1330) posted at 4:32 PM on Friday, September 28th, 2018
Relax and have fun!
Seriously, this sounds like a blast. I'd do it in a heartbeat.
Good for you.
Cat
FBS: Married 20 years, 2 daughters 27 and 24. Divorced by the grace of GOD.
D-Days: 2/23/93; 10/11/97; 3/5/03
Ex & OW Broke up 12-10
"An erection does not count as personal growth."
nutmegkitty ( member #33882) posted at 5:52 PM on Friday, September 28th, 2018
I totally sounds like a fun night!
But, I also totally get your anxiety about it. From my experience (and YMMV of course), most times it's not as bad as we work it up in our heads to be.
Report back!!!
Me - happy!
2 DDs
Very happily divorced from an NPD since 2013.
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 6:13 PM on Friday, September 28th, 2018
That sounds like a blast! It will be great!!
Relax and enjoy! Everyone going is going to have fun— so you don’t need to “win over” this crowd— they want to be there and they are going to arrive ready to have a great evening.
Keep some spot cleaner on hand, though: red wine + Cards Against Humanity wine snorted out nose onto carpet!!
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Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
Vogel ( member #47493) posted at 11:58 AM on Saturday, September 29th, 2018
What a great idea!! I’m sure you’ll have a fun night with lots of nice women. Wine, food and Cards Against Humanity - what could possibly go wrong? I’d love to come over but since that isn’t possible I might host an evening myself. My youngest daughter just started school and this would be a great way to get to know some of the other moms. Relax and enjoy and let us know how it went.
Twinsmom ( member #60303) posted at 3:18 PM on Saturday, September 29th, 2018
This is a great idea!! Relax, have fun and enjoy new friends! Can't wait to hear how it goes!!
Me: BS, 49 Him: WS, 52
3 Children
Married 26 yrs; DDay 7/4/17
LTA, Divorced 5/8/19
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 4:15 PM on Saturday, September 29th, 2018
Have fun at your party. What a great way to make some new friends. And yeah for you for stepping outside of your comfort zone. 
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
little turtle ( member #15584) posted at 5:51 PM on Saturday, September 29th, 2018
I'm so happy for you!!! Can't wait to hear all about it.
Failure is success if we learn from it.
barcher144 ( member #54935) posted at 8:51 PM on Saturday, September 29th, 2018
Tips for an introvert attempting to be an extrovert for an evening?
First, be yourself.
Second, that's what the wine is for, silly!
Me: Crap, I'm 50 years old. D-Day: August 30, 2016. Two years of false reconciliation. Divorce final: Feb 1, 2021. Re-married: December 3, 2022.
Marz ( member #60895) posted at 9:26 PM on Saturday, September 29th, 2018
Low cut blouse 
cancuncrushed ( member #28156) posted at 9:58 PM on Saturday, September 29th, 2018
I wish I was there....
I went out last night...NOt out out...but out.. 
I got dressed up, makeup and went to a restaurant... had a couple beers, and Mexican...and enjoyed leaving this dark house...
It felt odd...IT was all couples, except me...very low key...I wanted to see what being single felt like...I have no idea what direction to take...I was married 35 years...in fact, yesterday was 35 anniv...I refused to sit at home..I wasn't crazy...just refuse to do the same thing...
I did notice a couple of uncomfortable couples...their husbands looked...and the wives noticed and felt badly.. 
Its so common...I felt bad...Im so not ready to be single.
I would be glad to attend a party like yours, instead.
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thatbpguy ( member #58540) posted at 6:03 AM on Sunday, September 30th, 2018
Think, Dance Revolution...
ME: BH Her: WW DDay 1, R; DDay 2, R; DDay 3, I left; Divorced Remarried to a wonderful woman
"There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind." C.S. Lewis
As a dog returns to his vomit, so a fool repeats his folly...
better4me ( member #30341) posted at 1:17 AM on Monday, October 1st, 2018
What a great plan for a get together! How did it go lilies??
DDay 11/17/2010 BW:58
Happily remarried!
josiep ( member #58593) posted at 3:17 PM on Monday, October 1st, 2018
Yes, how did it go?
Plus I've been meaning to tell you, Lilies, that there's nothing wrong with being an introvert. I LOVE introverts cuz they let me do a lot of the talking. :)
BW, was 67; now 74; M 45 yrs., T 49 yrs.DDay#1, 1982; DDay#2, May, 2017. D July, 2017
lilies21 (original poster member #35833) posted at 6:18 PM on Tuesday, October 2nd, 2018
Thanks, everyone! It was a lot of fun! It went really well and I won, of course. I'm kind of a master at that game 
. It was awkward for me at first (of course) but a little wine helped! They all thanked me for being the first to throw something together and we hope to do something similar at least once a month. I'm looking forward to it. Even if a deep friendship doesn't form with anyone, it will be nice to have a group of women to do something with on occasion.
((cancuncrushed)))
You're braver than I am. I can shop and go to movies by myself, no problem, but I don't eat by myself. The closest I get is grabbing carry out by myself 
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Me: BS, 30s.
One son.
Many D-Days for excessive porn, Craigslist ads, and EAs/PAs.
Happily divorced since September 2015.
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