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Nervous...why did I do this?

lilies21 posted 9/28/2018 10:23 AM

ETA: see? So nervous I couldn't get the title right. Obviously should be why did I do this.

I participated in a speed dating event for mom friends a couple of weeks ago. A Facebook group was created for all the attendees to keep in touch and plan other events. The only other meet ups so far have been stay-at-home-moms meeting at parks during the day but I'm hosting a get together tomorrow night . It was a moment of insanity and now I'm more nervous than I ever was for any date!

I just offered a simple night of wine, girl talk, and Cards Against Humanity for anyone who might like to come and so far SIX have said they're definitely coming. I've cleaned my place top to bottom, I have to go buy more wine glasses tonight because right now I have a grand total of four. Oh, I guess I have to buy more wine and other drinks too. I made it potluck so I didn't have to do a lot of cooking. I'm just still...nervous. Tips for an introvert attempting to be an extrovert for an evening?

[This message edited by lilies21 at 10:27 AM, September 28th (Friday)]

Catwoman posted 9/28/2018 10:32 AM

Relax and have fun!

Seriously, this sounds like a blast. I'd do it in a heartbeat.

Good for you.


nutmegkitty posted 9/28/2018 11:52 AM

I totally sounds like a fun night!

But, I also totally get your anxiety about it. From my experience (and YMMV of course), most times it's not as bad as we work it up in our heads to be.

Report back!!!

BearlyBreathing posted 9/28/2018 12:13 PM

That sounds like a blast! It will be great!!
Relax and enjoy! Everyone going is going to have fun— so you don’t need to “win over” this crowd— they want to be there and they are going to arrive ready to have a great evening.

Keep some spot cleaner on hand, though: red wine + Cards Against Humanity wine snorted out nose onto carpet!!

[This message edited by BearlyBreathing at 9:58 AM, September 29th, 2018 (Saturday)]

Vogel posted 9/29/2018 05:58 AM

What a great idea!! I’m sure you’ll have a fun night with lots of nice women. Wine, food and Cards Against Humanity - what could possibly go wrong? I’d love to come over but since that isn’t possible I might host an evening myself. My youngest daughter just started school and this would be a great way to get to know some of the other moms. Relax and enjoy and let us know how it went.

Twinsmom posted 9/29/2018 09:18 AM

This is a great idea!! Relax, have fun and enjoy new friends! Can't wait to hear how it goes!!

Chrysalis123 posted 9/29/2018 10:15 AM

Have fun at your party. What a great way to make some new friends. And yeah for you for stepping outside of your comfort zone.

little turtle posted 9/29/2018 11:51 AM

I'm so happy for you!!! Can't wait to hear all about it.

barcher144 posted 9/29/2018 14:51 PM

Tips for an introvert attempting to be an extrovert for an evening?

First, be yourself.

Second, that's what the wine is for, silly!

Marz posted 9/29/2018 15:26 PM

Low cut blouse

cancuncrushed posted 9/29/2018 15:58 PM

I wish I was there....

I went out last night...NOt out out...but out..

I got dressed up, makeup and went to a restaurant... had a couple beers, and Mexican...and enjoyed leaving this dark house...

It felt odd...IT was all couples, except me...very low key...I wanted to see what being single felt like...I have no idea what direction to take...I was married 35 fact, yesterday was 35 anniv...I refused to sit at home..I wasn't crazy...just refuse to do the same thing...

I did notice a couple of uncomfortable couples...their husbands looked...and the wives noticed and felt badly.. Its so common...I felt bad...Im so not ready to be single.

I would be glad to attend a party like yours, instead.

[This message edited by cancuncrushed at 4:00 PM, September 29th (Saturday)]

thatbpguy posted 9/30/2018 00:03 AM

Think, Dance Revolution...

better4me posted 9/30/2018 19:17 PM

What a great plan for a get together! How did it go lilies??

josiep posted 10/1/2018 09:17 AM

Yes, how did it go?

Plus I've been meaning to tell you, Lilies, that there's nothing wrong with being an introvert. I LOVE introverts cuz they let me do a lot of the talking. :)

lilies21 posted 10/2/2018 12:18 PM

Thanks, everyone! It was a lot of fun! It went really well and I won, of course. I'm kind of a master at that game . It was awkward for me at first (of course) but a little wine helped! They all thanked me for being the first to throw something together and we hope to do something similar at least once a month. I'm looking forward to it. Even if a deep friendship doesn't form with anyone, it will be nice to have a group of women to do something with on occasion.


You're braver than I am. I can shop and go to movies by myself, no problem, but I don't eat by myself. The closest I get is grabbing carry out by myself .

[This message edited by lilies21 at 12:19 PM, October 2nd (Tuesday)]

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