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The Simplified 180

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Phoenix1 posted 5/27/2017 12:42 PM


minusone posted 6/2/2017 18:05 PM


sisoon posted 6/8/2017 10:12 AM


sisoon posted 6/19/2017 10:22 AM

Again - this is so much better than the original 180, IMO

Faith12345 posted 6/19/2017 16:37 PM

I absolutely love this post.

I've been going through this for about 2 months
After doing a soft 180- husband came back & said he didn't want to lose me. Unfortunately I was SO desperate that I let him back in right away. I wanted him near me so I could sleep next to him at night.

That was wrong because he just ended up lying and he ended up leaving again because he was caught red handed. (He still lies about every single detail even though I have proof)

Now I've decided to do a hard 180 because I'm not quite ready to file divorce. I feel like it's just too much stress on me and I need to wait a little while. Until then, hard 180 will keep me from being manipulated by his lies. I plan to just basically fall off of the face of HIS earth. Bc being around him is toxic for me (arguing, lies, blame shifting, GAS LIGHTING)

I decided that I really have to let him go and say that I'm done and as far as I'm concerned we are over. He's made his decision based on his actions (living with OW.. although he lies about it)
& I have to make mine by removing myself from his life. From now on when he picks up our kid I might just say "hello" & not leave my front door. I usually walk her to the car & that is where the small talk begins. No more of that.
No more arguing or talking period.

minusone posted 6/23/2017 06:08 AM


minusone posted 7/17/2017 14:01 PM


MadOldBat posted 7/18/2017 04:28 AM

Lovingmyselfmore posted 8/5/2017 14:12 PM

Bumping for the weekend!

minusone posted 8/18/2017 06:24 AM


Jen posted 8/21/2017 06:35 AM

Jen posted 9/17/2017 17:09 PM

BearlyBreathing posted 9/22/2017 01:31 AM


Skan posted 9/23/2017 10:43 AM


MadOldBat posted 10/7/2017 05:41 AM

Just pushing this excellent post by Ser JR back up to the top.
I really think that this would be so helpful as part of the Healing Library.
Strength SI-friends

sisoon posted 10/25/2017 10:56 AM

Bumping - I think this is much clearer than the standard 180 document. We owe a lot to SerJr.

sisoon posted 11/19/2017 11:35 AM

and again....

sisoon posted 12/2/2017 11:30 AM


sisoon posted 12/7/2017 14:53 PM


Phoenix1 posted 12/10/2017 19:57 PM


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