Smokey15 (original poster new member #87112) posted at 6:59 PM on Wednesday, March 11th, 2026
Yes she is also married with children and it appears her husband has taken her back. I'm convinced if that hadn't happened then they would be continuing the affair right now. He is telling me he doesn't know what he wants in terms of continuing our marriage but does want to support me in my pregnancy and when baby is here (whatever that may mean to him). It's so hard and I am terrified for that as in less than 6 months I will be giving birth so feels like there is a time pressure as well on decisions to be made.
Bigger ( Attaché #8354) posted at 8:40 PM on Wednesday, March 11th, 2026
Go back to my post and what The1stWife is suggesting.
Instead of giving him the power of telling you that he’s not sure about the future of the marriage and then willy-wabbling around while there is no answer, then YOU tell him that you aren’t so sure about the future of the marriage, but YOU are getting out of infidelity. With or without him.
If he decides to tag along, then that’s totally HIS choice, but it’s also based on you accepting him along too. Make it clear that the further along you get out of infidelity, the less inclined you will be to wait for him to meet your requirements.
"If, therefore, any be unhappy, let him remember that he is unhappy by reason of himself alone." Epictetus
Cooley2here ( member #62939) posted at 9:28 PM on Wednesday, March 11th, 2026
Don’t be an option, be a priority. This is my opinion. See a lawyer. Have papers drawn up. Sit him down and tell him he has one chance to grow up or you are filing. A pregnancy is very hard on your body so this added stress is not good for your health. You are growing a baby….the only small one. The big baby you are dealing with knows right from wrong. He knows he is harming you. What gives him the right!!? This is your one life. You matter. Please remember that.
But you know him, and I don’t, so do what you can to protect yourself. He might become an adult. You never know.
When things go wrong, don’t go with them. Elvis
crazycatlady ( member #12849) posted at 9:35 PM on Wednesday, March 11th, 2026
Bigger is right, take control. Wouldn’t be a bad idea to talk to an attorney for advice on the upcoming birth. Having boundaries established will help after giving birth. Doing that will help you in long run and will show him you are being proactive.
I would still contact the other spouse. I bet he has no clue the depth of her betrayal.
Love all, trust a few. Do wrong to none.William Shakespeare "All's Well That Ends Well"D-Day: Nov 30, 2006"For I have sworn thee fair, and thought thee bright, who art as black as hell, as dark as night." William Shakespeare
