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My DS and DIL are pregnant with grandson #3. It was time for one of the ultrasounds, and found out that twins are on the way.

DIL has twins on her side, but we don't. They're identical, so one egg....

I'm within walking distance of their home, and am so glad to be involved in my grandchildren's lives. Don't worry, I'm not over there every day. Just available if they need me.

ETA: Dragn, have any tips or tricks for me?

[This message edited by leafields at 11:20 AM, Saturday, April 20th]

Congratulations! Twins, how much fun!

My brother/SIL had a set of girl identical twins that were born on my 16th birthday!

From what I can remember, double trouble! I took care of them on Saturdays when my SIL worked. Never a minute's rest!

So glad your you will be close by, your DIL is going to need all the help she can get.

[This message edited by annb at 11:50 AM, Saturday, April 20th]

I have twins! It’s wonderful but it’s also a roller coaster.

If you want to help, the best thing you could do is, whenever possible, go to their house and do the "night shift" so your son and DIL can get a full night of sleep.

"Sleep when the baby sleeps" is hardly ever possible with 1 kid but with twins it’s absurd to even suggest. Until their feeding and sleeping schedules are synced up, there will almost always be a screaming baby in need of attention.

[This message edited by BluerThanBlue at 2:14 PM, Saturday, April 20th]

Congratulations!!!!
So much fun in your future.
They will be thrilled to have help so close.

Multiple twinnings in my family tree, I have one piece of advice.

Help out a lot, twins are like 3 times as much work as one child. Parents get exhausted with one, with twins you never really get "unexhausted".

Thank goodness it was one of my brothers who had the twins in my generation! His wife made things easier by having an affair and leaving for the much older and wealthy AP when they were 4 years old, leaving him to be the "responsible", but not so financially flush, parent for most of their childhood.

Congratulations!!!

Aweee - how exciting! Congrats!!!!

My coworker's DS had twins so they ended up with 3 kiddos under 15 months. She said they are just exhausted.

That is great that you are taking the lead from them on what they need because I am sure it will change. Sometimes it is just to take the older ones so they get some time where everything is not about the twins. Sometimes it is preparing meals. I like the suggestion below of offering night help.

My friend's mom would keep her baby one night every two weeks for hers for her (outside of their own home). I told her she didn't realize how wonderful that was to know that once every other week, you could get a full night's sleep!!

I found it difficult when folks were inside of my house caring for my baby and said to me "just go lay down and take a nap". I just couldn't. Any cry, I felt I needed to go and help. Lol.

What blessed news!

Prayers for a healthy pregnancy and excitement filled times ahead.

My sister had a friend who had a single birth…10 months later twins, and a year later…wait for it…triplets!

6 under the age of under 2!

I wanted to add I have a Wonderful MIL.
When I had Dd kid #2 we lived 9.5 hours from home. She was the agreed.upon first to come when she was born.
My H called her when we arrived at the hospital and she arrived 1 hour after delivery. She stayed for a week. She was Wonderful!!!
She made me nap when my kids did. She did laundry and cooked meals. She made sure I.had time for a long shower every day. She also cooked a few meals to freeze.
I was dreading her coming but she made it easy. For that I am forever grateful.
I am really lucky she had been a wonderful friend and great support my entire M. Even when the things that can't be mentioned here happened.
So be that support person and make sure you can give her a break so thar she can sleep at least a few hours in a row. Day or night.
I hope you are blessed with healthy babies that sleep for several hours at a time and you get time to reset. But being a support will make all the difference.
Try to remember all you felt in those early days and double it. They will help make you the world's best mil.

My aunt, my Mom's sister - was double blessed. Her son and his wife had identical twin boys. Her daughter and her husband had identical twin girls. Even though they are grown now, it's still difficult to tell them apart. They all lived in the same small community, so everyone helped out.

Thank you for all the tips. I was planning on doing meals for them, and giving nap breaks. I'll make sure to do night shifts for them. And to do special things for the older grandsons that aren't about the twins.

They will appreciate the help! Congrats!

So excited for you!! Congratulations.