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Just out of curiousity what % of your mind movies are sexual ?

I'll start.

About 50% is sexual.

My ex had affair with another man.

Last thing on earth I expected that my ex was/is bisexual.

The other 50% is that I was stunned to find out that my ex was/is bisexual.

About 90%. The other 10% was thinking of their text conversations where they bad mouthed me. I saw some of their texts where they did and know there were more.

You can check my bio for info on the AP.

The majority of my mind movies about WH and LTAP are sexual. Particularly since I have dozens of photos of them together, many quasi pornographic, many nudes and a series of shots of them cuddling in bed.

The small rest of them are of the messages they sent - I have dozens of screenshots of those too. Worse, I see the messages and him sending them telling me he was talking to someone else.

Maybe half. The sexual ones are the most disturbing, because they usually happen when we have sex.

Most of the rest are mind movies about specific events, like him talking to her or messaging her on our anniversary or another special date I planned, or them talking together about how to lie to me. Those also suck, but the sexual ones hit me in a more vulnerable way.

Thankfully mine are minimal now, but they are 90% sexual.

100%. Or at least 100% are related to something that is 100% sexual.

0%

What bothered me most were long phone conversations, walks in the park, texts and attending conventions together.

And him hanging out at her house!

I thought about those rooms so many times.

I'm 17 years out, but after D-Day probably 50%. The others were all about the fact that they chatted via email for two years having an EA and I was completely in the dark.

Absolutely 100% sexual in nature, particularly performing certain postions and variations that she rarely did with me saying she didn't like them, but eagerly embraced with her AP. This was 50 years ago but only discovered five months ago. Time doesn't help at all. On the positive side, if you could call it that, when the affair was over and her sexual opportunist doctor AP moved on to other willing nurses, she incorporated these previously taboo sexual gymnastics into our sex life, much to my surprise and delight. I just didn't know at the time, why, where or how she had decided oral and anal were fun additions to our sex life.

I haven’t had any mind movies for some time (probably close to a year) but 100% of mine were sexual. I got the graphic details so of course, this is what I dream of.

The worst was a couple years after dday. In my dream, I was an observer. My WW and her AP screwing and belittling me while doing it. When I woke up, I was a mess. Your own mind messes with you that’s for sure.

75% sexual, 25% them cohabitating, going out in public like a loving couple, like me or our marriage didnt exist.
On the weekends he came home and acted like he was married & I was clueless. 😡

90% sexual, 10% for the rest of the crap she did with him.

Thanks for the replies everyone.

The responses have been illuminating.

If I didn't ask this question, no one will know .