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What % of your mind movies are sexual ?

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 Dorothy123 (original poster member #53116) posted at 2:41 PM on Saturday, November 19th, 2022

Just out of curiousity what % of your mind movies are sexual ?

I'll start.

About 50% is sexual.

My ex had affair with another man.

Last thing on earth I expected that my ex was/is bisexual.

The other 50% is that I was stunned to find out that my ex was/is bisexual.

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leafields ( member #63517) posted at 10:34 PM on Saturday, November 19th, 2022

About 90%. The other 10% was thinking of their text conversations where they bad mouthed me. I saw some of their texts where they did and know there were more.

You can check my bio for info on the AP.

BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21

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Chaos ( member #61031) posted at 8:01 PM on Sunday, November 20th, 2022

The majority of my mind movies about WH and LTAP are sexual. Particularly since I have dozens of photos of them together, many quasi pornographic, many nudes and a series of shots of them cuddling in bed.

The small rest of them are of the messages they sent - I have dozens of screenshots of those too. Worse, I see the messages and him sending them telling me he was talking to someone else.

BS-me/WH-4.5yrLTA Married 2+ decades - Children (1 still at home) Multiple DDays w/same AP until I told OBS 2018 Cease & Desist sent spring 2021"Hello–My name is Chaos–You f***ed my husband-Prepare to Die!"

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Grieving ( member #79540) posted at 11:41 PM on Sunday, November 20th, 2022

Maybe half. The sexual ones are the most disturbing, because they usually happen when we have sex.

Most of the rest are mind movies about specific events, like him talking to her or messaging her on our anniversary or another special date I planned, or them talking together about how to lie to me. Those also suck, but the sexual ones hit me in a more vulnerable way.

Married for 20 years with two kids when my husband had a six month affair with a coworker. DD1: 6/2020. DD2: 7/3/2020. Reconciling

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Tanner ( member #72235) posted at 1:29 AM on Monday, November 21st, 2022

Thankfully mine are minimal now, but they are 90% sexual.

Dday Sept 7 2019 doing well in R
BH M 31 years

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Reece ( member #52975) posted at 3:43 PM on Monday, November 21st, 2022

100%. Or at least 100% are related to something that is 100% sexual.

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pureheartkit ( member #62345) posted at 3:26 AM on Tuesday, November 22nd, 2022

0%

What bothered me most were long phone conversations, walks in the park, texts and attending conventions together.

Thank you everyone for your wisdom and healing.

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pureheartkit ( member #62345) posted at 3:28 AM on Tuesday, November 22nd, 2022

And him hanging out at her house!

I thought about those rooms so many times.

Thank you everyone for your wisdom and healing.

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annb ( member #22386) posted at 1:24 PM on Tuesday, November 22nd, 2022

I'm 17 years out, but after D-Day probably 50%. The others were all about the fact that they chatted via email for two years having an EA and I was completely in the dark. mad

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OldBeachOwl ( new member #81048) posted at 1:42 PM on Tuesday, November 22nd, 2022

Absolutely 100% sexual in nature, particularly performing certain postions and variations that she rarely did with me saying she didn't like them, but eagerly embraced with her AP. This was 50 years ago but only discovered five months ago. Time doesn't help at all. On the positive side, if you could call it that, when the affair was over and her sexual opportunist doctor AP moved on to other willing nurses, she incorporated these previously taboo sexual gymnastics into our sex life, much to my surprise and delight. I just didn't know at the time, why, where or how she had decided oral and anal were fun additions to our sex life.

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Jameson1977 ( member #54177) posted at 10:09 PM on Tuesday, November 22nd, 2022

I haven’t had any mind movies for some time (probably close to a year) but 100% of mine were sexual. I got the graphic details so of course, this is what I dream of.

The worst was a couple years after dday. In my dream, I was an observer. My WW and her AP screwing and belittling me while doing it. When I woke up, I was a mess. Your own mind messes with you that’s for sure.

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1girlsmom ( member #63541) posted at 10:20 PM on Tuesday, November 22nd, 2022

75% sexual, 25% them cohabitating, going out in public like a loving couple, like me or our marriage didnt exist.
On the weekends he came home and acted like he was married & I was clueless. 😡

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78monte ( member #72572) posted at 10:36 PM on Tuesday, November 22nd, 2022

90% sexual, 10% for the rest of the crap she did with him.

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 Dorothy123 (original poster member #53116) posted at 1:48 PM on Wednesday, November 23rd, 2022

Thanks for the replies everyone.

The responses have been illuminating.

If I didn't ask this question, no one will know .

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