Wow. I have to reply that my WH decided that when I was upset or needed to talk about his LTA that I must have been on this site and getting riled up again by all the bad advice and bitter people here. He also feels the same way about the books, articles and therapist advice I have used to help me get through this nightmare.
I let him know he was clueless, and only a fool would think they knew better than a crowdsourced support group or multiple trained therapists online or in print. The real issue isn't that this site or anything we do to help ourselves riles us up or causes more problems, it is that they DO NOT want to discuss their A and they are using misguided anger toward our resources to make us stop.
I consider ANY attempt on his part to hinder my efforts to heal myself another act of betrayal and evidence of his lack of commitment to repair this broken marriage. I have made sure he understand that it is his refusal to join this site or any that might help him unpack his damage and find accountability the problem, not me being on here.
I tell him about the successes and failures I observe here and I use the resources in the healing library to try to help him understand the process and time required to try to find a path forward for us both.
Six months???? He is telling you to let it go at 6 months? The audacity. He needs a reality check. We are five years out from initial Discovery, four from the end of the affair and one from the last disclosure, so he doesn't get to use a timeline on me because he drug it out, he caused me further damage and he is the reason I still need this site so much.
Please, don't take this crap from him. We had a moment a month ago, when I was discussing another situation here and how it applied to my healing and he said every time you go on that site you dig all this up again. I laughed loudly at that and said I am on this site daily, so you are wrong. Are you saying I can't have my own thoughts or feelings without looking online to find out what they are? Don't you realize I would be this upset and outraged still if the internet never existed? How dumb do you think I am? Please, turn that crap right back at him. Let him know that if your broken marriage is still limping along at six years like mine is, it will be his lack of effort, his refusal to use any resource to help fix his damage and his attempts to rush your healing process or worse to hinder it that will have broken your marriage, not this site.
FWIW, I feel the lie detector test issue is a waste of time and resources, because they can be so unreliable, and some personalities, especially expert compartmentalizers, are able to control their bodies and responses to pass, just as others who are nervous by nature could appear to fail. I also think that as BS's we can never fully know the truth of the past, but we can watch like hawks and know the reality of our present. Your WH is trying to derail your efforts to heal. Unless he accepts any and all resources you use to help yourself and takes steps to show you how he is helping both you and your marriage, I don't see any point in worrying about the truth or your future together.
I wish you luck and healing and peace, but I know from experience that you have a master level denier and deflector who is doing further damage. I took anger from my WH out of play by making it clear that his anger frightened and threatened me and triggered panic attacks and meltdowns and depression that lasted for days and set us back to ground zero just like another lie did. I made it clear that the minimum requirement for me to stay and try to R was for him to find out why he was angry in the first place and keep it in check to make me feel safe. I will walk out the door for good if he ever yells at me again and he knows it. I have helped him understand this by using the same logic on myself, and working to understand the emotions behind my sorrow and my screaming at him and keeping myself under control as well. It was hard work but I can now calmly say the most upsetting things and if I can keep myself from raging, he can too. I had to remind him a lot at first that I am the aggrieved party here, not him, and that I am the one that needs to see effort to repair, not him seeing me rugsweep and forgive without compensation for all the damage he brought to our lives. Yours hasn't begun to own what he did. Call him on it, calmly, like a rock and watch how things go.
And almost everyone here will tell you that it is way too soon for MC. You both need individual help before you can start the MC stuff. We tried too soon, and my WH was as hostile and deflective with the therapist as he was with me because he hadn't begun to own his shit. I stopped that as soon as I realized what was really happening. He told the MC his goal was to help me get over his A and never thought a good goal might be to help me heal, or to help us reconnect or learn to communicate better or to strengthen our marriage. The problem wasn't his choices and the fallout, just my reaction to it all. Right. He was just taking up a cushion on the couch and putting a bandaid on a massive wound, and wasting all our time. Don't put yourself through that until you see some effort, progress and understanding on his part. The attitude he is showing you now is the attitude that enables lies and cheating and is the reason you can't feel safe moving forward. Good luck with therapy and finding your center again and good luck getting him to get it.