swmnbc ( member #49344) posted at 7:18 PM on Thursday, March 9th, 2023
Oh Sigyn, I cringed when I read about the flowers and chocolates too. When I was 16, flowers and chocolate were the height of romance and sophistication. A grown man thinking that's how he can save a marriage that he consciously eviscerated is just beyond belief.
It's interesting that as a society we esteem the "golden rule" because it's about treating others how WE want to be treated. It's more meaningful to treat others how THEY want to be treated. That is truly loving another person . . . to be curious about their desires and by feeling joy when we do something for them. If it's about us, then we're missing the point.