number4 ( Member #62204) posted at 10:25 PM on Sunday, September 12th, 2021
Vent here all you want. I can't even imagine having to deal with a parent who acts like a toddler having a tantrum. I can't believe social services will allow a discharge if she can't take care of herself and they can't have anyone to do it.
Is she still asking when she can get the vaccine?
Me: BW
Him: WH
Married - 30+ years
Two adult daughters
1st affair: 2005-2007
2nd-4th affairs: 2016-2017
Many assessments/polygraph: no sex addiction
Status: R
HFSSC (original poster Member #33338) posted at 10:58 PM on Sunday, September 12th, 2021
I can't believe social services will allow a discharge if she can't take care of herself and they can't have anyone to do it.
Yeah. Thing is, she decided to throw her fit on a Sunday. When SW coverage is bare bones. And this hospital, this unit specifically has been dealing with COVID non stop for 18 months. They are worn out and probably have 3 people sicker than her waiting for the bed. That’s why I’m glad they were able to put it off til tomorrow and I can at least talk to the social worker assigned to her.
Is she still asking when she can get the vaccine?
Haven’t heard any more about this. But I’ve only been able to talk to her on the phone and very short conversations.
And our last conversation was not pleasant, lol.
Me, 54
Him, 45 (JMSSC)
Married 24 years. Reconciled.
Tallgirl ( Member #64088) posted at 1:54 AM on Monday, September 13th, 2021
Sending you strength and calm vibes. 😊. Hugs.
Legally separated, one more step.
thatbpguy ( Member #58540) posted at 2:35 AM on Monday, September 13th, 2021
Get in her grill and lay the law down.
ME: BHHer: WWDDay 1, R; DDay 2, R; DDay 3, I leftDivorcedRemarried to a wonderful woman
"There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind." C.S. Lewis
As a dog returns to his vomit, so a fool repeats his folly...
time2Bstronger ( Member #34715) posted at 3:54 AM on Tuesday, September 14th, 2021
HFSSC,
I am praying for you and your family. I know what it is like to deal with a difficult mother. Exasperating! But, we love them and they need us. It seems that you are the responsible child in your nuclear family ( and your medical training is a huge benefit ). Do you have any siblings that could assist in the care of your parents?
You have been through so much during this pandemic. Please take care of yourself.
you are in my thoughts,
minusone ( Member #50175) posted at 12:01 AM on Wednesday, September 15th, 2021
Sending all good thoughts and prayers. (((HFSSC)))))
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
HFSSC (original poster Member #33338) posted at 3:30 AM on Wednesday, September 15th, 2021
Thank you again, everyone. Mom has done well since coming home yesterday. She gets a little short of breath but is overall doing well. The hospital is actually providing 20 hours of caregiver services for her. It’s a grant from the hospital’s foundation; I think to try to discharge patients sooner but provide some care to make the transition safer.
I have a brother and a sister, both older. My sister has a torn meniscus in her knee that needs surgery but she does not have insurance. So she has been limited for the past couple of months in what she can do. Then both of her sons who live with her had COVID as well, so she was taking care of them. I am pretty sure she has it now too— all the symptoms are checked off. My brother lives about 45 minutes away and works a lot of hours. He talks a lot about making time to visit and help with our parents but never really does anything. I told him the other day that I need help from him… weekends or evenings or something. We’ll see.
I have gotten rest over the last few days. Going back to work tomorrow. That’s a whole other rant, lol.
Me, 54
Him, 45 (JMSSC)
Married 24 years. Reconciled.
