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redfish ( member #71426) posted at 6:22 PM on Monday, September 27th, 2021

That's why I tried to tip him off that I know things this time, more than I did in the past, and I will not be put off again. I won't be made a fool of again

You are on the right track and along with others here have given me strength I did not have before.

Your conversation is similar to what I told my WW. Today I know more, used the word fool and ended the conversation. That very night we watched a show and a character who was fed up with her lover and with the same powerful look I had earlier said enough is enough and told the other character they won't be made a fool again and left the room. My WW uncomfortable shifted in her seat. It was classic.

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scaredwoman ( member #78680) posted at 7:54 PM on Monday, September 27th, 2021

I found this line humorous, almost:

Of course, he broke it off before taking up with OW. She would not accept being cheated on.

Sounds like she is wanting YOUR sympathy for how your WH treated her. Amazing to me.

Kudos for how you are handling this all. Sounds like you've taken good care of the situation, and now it's time to take care of you.

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Aletheia ( member #79172) posted at 5:15 AM on Wednesday, September 29th, 2021

DiD - {Kris Jenner voice} "You’re doing amazing sweetie" Seriously, I’m so sorry regarding the revelation of them having sex in your bed etc I’m sure you expected it but it’s one thing to hear from the devil’s mouth. This update was WILD. Your husband is something else. It’s amazing how cheaters lie so effortlessly. Fool. You can only push people so far. For a business man, he certainly doesn’t have great instincts, he should have felt you confronting him was different this time. What did he say when you called him out on his lie about not even having her OW number? And OW what a bird, helpful bird though lol. I wonder if she really threw a drink on him. I found it interesting he said he wasn’t leaving you and you weren’t leaving him. Little does he know, still can’t see it coming.

Your best must be just as glorious as your betrayal was destructive.

Don’t allow people to “Life is short” you to amend bad relationships. Forgiveness /= reconciliation. Leave them people where they are. Life was short when they did what they did.

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SnowToArmPits ( member #50943) posted at 5:58 AM on Wednesday, September 29th, 2021

You've become a hard ass. Good for you.

Stay frosty.

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wendygirl ( new member #79187) posted at 1:16 AM on Saturday, October 2nd, 2021

If I could give you a standing ovation, I would. My story has some similar elements to yours, giving up my life to move around, constantly waiting for him to come home from work, constant criticisms... I have to wait on my confrontation, and it is so frustrating and isolating. Your attitude and resolve are an inspiration!

Wendy

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Buster123 ( member #65551) posted at 7:20 PM on Saturday, October 2nd, 2021

Excellent job, he's a SERIAL CHEATER, he even told OW they could continue their A but that he will never leave you for her, what an entitled prick, has he been served D papers yet ?

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Cooley2here ( member #62939) posted at 1:15 AM on Sunday, October 3rd, 2021

For some reason I feel alarm for you. It sounds like he considers you an employee and very important to his business. It does not sound like he thinks of you as his wife although he uses that term. I’m concerned because if you are able to get half of his assets he might become really dangerous. The man you’ve described sounds very much like a sociopath. Those are scary people because they present themselves as being semi-decent humans but they are not. I want you to be prepared for things he might do harm you physically. If you stand your ground and take him to court you might see a very ugly side come out. Watch your back, keep a VAR on you, make sure your brakes worked on your car properly and never take a drink or food from him. That’s how much I worry about you

To thine own self be true. Shakespeare

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BeeBee64 ( member #54718) posted at 1:44 PM on Monday, October 4th, 2021

She also told me I was unable to have intimate relations due to a bicycle accident, and I would never again be able to have them. I was shocked and said, "WHAT? WHAT DO YOU MEAN?" Like, how is that possible? I slipped and shoved the handebars up my lady bits or what?

I’ve heard something similar! A good friend in my social group planted a rumor like this about his wife, that she had some kind of condition that prevented intercourse, vaguely implying that they had some kind of "understanding" about it. He died a few years later on a "business trip" with his female business partner. It took a few years for the truth to emerge, He was a serial cheater, and had been gaslighting wife, family and friends for years. He had everyone fooled with his mushy romantic talk to his poor unsuspecting wife. He was constantly spoiling her with romantic gifts.

Ironically, my WW once complained that we didn’t have such a loving relationship as this friend and his wife.

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