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Talking to a friend today and the discussion of morning sex came up to which I discussed how I personally haven’t done that myself but also wouldn’t want to kiss morning breath. I also find that I prefer for me and the person I’m having sex with to shower or at least clean up somehow prior to the act.

My friend said she had an ex that felt that way but she doesn’t actually feel like that herself - morning breath isn’t an issue, shower isn’t necessary (of course so long as it’s not like dirty) and a good swig of water in the morning to take the morning breath down is good enough for the makeout sesh (ick!😝).

Then I’m like well…I’m actually one of those people that even gets all eww when I see people making out on tv. I’ll see the saliva string going from one persons mouth to the others and I’m like gross!!! I don’t know why I’m just a super stickler for this stuff. I am exploring a lot of my own relationship with sex in therapy due to past abuse/rape/molestations and sometimes wonder if that’ll change my perspective but for now, this is me!

Am I alone? I thought I’d post this to see where others stand on this. No judgment of course. Just curious and interested.

[This message edited by maise at 6:43 PM, August 3rd (Tuesday)]

Im with you on the saliva stuff.

Once had a boyfriend who kissed me like he was an octopus sucking my face. It was nasty!

I dont like tongue...my abuser stuck his tongue down my throat and i was a child. Think 5-7. Ever since then i have had an over active gag reflex. Trying to take down pills is an ordeal.

I prefer a shower after sex. Before is good too but takes away the spontaneity of it. Wh and i were more into nooners lol.

DragnHeart,

I’m so sorry that happened to you! That makes me wonder if my own molestation(s) that involved disgusting kissing with tongue and slobber all over my face by an older person when I was 4 or 5 is the reason for my ick response to such things.

I can def see how stopping the moment to shower or clean up can ruin the spontaneity of it! That’s happened to me a few times and it does def suck but then I feel like not cleaning up or showering prior also ruins my own want to do as much as I would if we had done so. Late night sex is more my jam! Kids are in bed and I don’t have to have no interruptions! Lol.

[This message edited by maise at 7:02 PM, August 3rd (Tuesday)]

Night sex is great especially with those naked snuggles afterwards. But in our case wh usually falls asleep before we even get the bats and balls out, never mind hitting any bases lol

Sex is once in a blue moon now.

I do think that abuse set me up to dislike many things. Kissing, ie sucking face grosses me out

I was thinking that shower sex would solve the problem lol

Get clean then dirty and clean all at once lol

Although one must be very careful in this location, preferably using those hand rails or at the minimum the adhesive rubber mats for the tub floor.

Other things to consider; the shower curtain/rod do not offer any support and soap is NOT a lubricant

Usually no shower for morning sex. Since we are getting TMI here - if I took a shower the night before all is good. If it has been 24 hours since shower for either of us, no oral for either.

I have to brush my teeth first. So morning sex is usually either "let me go brush my teeth and pee" or just a quickie with no kissing or oral.

Not that I am having any sex at all at the moment lol.

99% of the time I take a shower before sex. Mostly because he almost always goes down on me, and I’m able to enjoy myself more if I’m not self conscious about what’s going on down there.

We do have morning sex about once a week but NO kissing. Those times I usually grab a toy and it’s purely a good ol fuck session.