Tacit, you use disparaging terms such as misogyny towards your son. Be very careful and remember, the woman who he thought of as most virtuous in the world, his mother, has just proven to him that she has none of the virtues that he would want to have in a woman, as a wife.
In his mind, if his mother, the woman he trusted above every other, is so untrustworthy and given to lust, then other women can only be worse especially women of his own generation who he sees engaging in very open and public sexual congress with very limited restrictions (moral core) as to with who and for what reason they would sleep with.
He sees this lustful behavior around him whenever he goes out for a night, but seems to be family orientated and looking for a woman who is (by his observations and to his mind) an exception to this lack of morality that has become the norm.
He has held his mother up as a model by which to compare women in order to find the characteristics he was looking for in a marriage. After all your happy marriage is the one that he would have wished for himself.
His role model for virtue has now defiled herself and smashed the marriage he thought was happy and like one he would want for himself, destroying both the visions of the kind of woman he would have wanted for himself and his faith in the institution of marriage. If the best in his life has fallen so low, how low are those who openly flaunt their lack of morals in his mind now?
If you don't understand that his dreams of the possibility of a faithful and happy marriage with a moral wife was crushed by your wife's actions and you defend women to him by calling him a misogynist (insulting both him and his pain) and disparaging him for acting the way he is in the light of his pain in terms of the possibility of a happy marriage with a faithful woman has just been torn asunder by the woman who was his role model as to what type of things to look at in a woman to one day have a happy marriage, like his parents, then you are creating a rift between yourself and your son that might never be able to heal.
He is not acting like a misogynist, he is acting like a man who has had his role-model as to what a virtuous woman is destroyed and now has understandable trust issues towards women as well as expressing anger, which is a natural part of the healing process after such trauma.
You now have a choice, you can further use the despicable, cultural-Marxist indoctrination that we all have been exposed to and keep following the narrative to file your son in that heinous and culturally-constructed box labeled misogynism, in the process loosing his love and respect or you can understand that his world views and dreams for the future has just been shattered and he is scared and angry because his example of what a good marriage and wife is, has been violently ground to dust and blown away in the wind while most women around him shows characteristics he would not want in a wife, understand him, support him and not condemn him by filing him in that make-belief, straw-man box, called misogynism.
At the moment he feels that if the best of the best women (the mother that raised him) is so morally bereft, lustful and apathetic to his father, that there is no hope for any better woman to exist.
Please, never file him in that despicable (and go to straw-man for intellectually lazy men haters) box called misogynism again. Life has just proven to him he can't trust the woman he trusted the most. Naturally he's angry, naturally he'll have an issue with woman as a larger group.
You can now lead him or loose him, but labeling him is definitely loosing him.
[This message edited by DictumVeritas at 2:13 AM, July 7th (Wednesday)]
