well buckle up folks , this will be quite a read .
so my partner of 27 years manipulated a situation to end our relationship ,
we are currently and at the time it happened in a touring caravan as we have airbnb our house to raise some money.
right opposite her sister and our niece who is doing the same.
They are as thick as thieves aswell.
this happened 3 weeks ago.
she was never the discipline part of our relationship, that was always down to meet do, so fast forward one morning where our slightly autistic daughter refuses to get out of bed which would cause my other daughter to be late for school as they are 2 different drops,
so I fetch the daughter out of her bed (age 9) and put her on the lower bunk which is vacant, she then throws herself on the floor in a tantrum, to which my partner accuses me of throwing her on the floor, and shuffles off, I then have to take my other daughter to school, leaving my niece to have to take the other one.
upon her returning from school the niece informed my partner that she had gone into school upset, which my daughter denies,
massive row ensues and our airbnb guests checked out early so I went back home to let her cool off, when I came back she said that its over and need to find somewhere else to live now, as im not allowed in our caravan, I immediately found a used day van , that I have parked up behind the touring van ,so I can be there for the kids in this nuclear fallout, all hell broke loose when I told the kids what's happening and tears were shed by all.
she happened to buy herself a new phone about a month ago ,same number etc,
so the one day whilst she was out my spider senses told me this is all a bit odd that she would blow up 27 years over this , and dug out her old phone which was still connected to her messenger account, so I hooked up a portable hotspot and opened up messenger.
to my shock and gut wrenching horror she had been messaging a local who is 27, she is 48,it was as to be expecteds love heart eyes and all the other gubbins, saying she missed him and can't wait to see him, I kept switching it off every day and then only logging back in every now and again to remain covert, she then out of the blue tells the kids and me she has a job interview which her niece is taking her too, as she has severe anxiety (citalopram and valium. )and can't drive any longer.
so I log back into messenger and its no interview but a secret meeting with the other boy, all hearts and im nervous etc and I may kiss you if you like,.and talking about a new homes I log out shellshocked.
roll forward a few days I was trying to talk to her and asked why she was ending it all after all this time with 2 kids of 12 and 9 and a Beautifull lifestyle and house and she said she was just sick of me now, that's all.
I said no one blows all this up like that, she said im telling you the truth and would never lie to you , which is where I lost my composure and told her I knew where she had been, i had the photographic proof, the kids unfortunately happened to hear all this and asked her why she was lying, and she walked off and dismissed them.
now my eldest has been 100% staying with me in the day van, whilst the 9yr old just flouts in and out , some nights she will sleep here other nights with her mom, then on this night the 9yr old decided she was stopping with me aswell which would leave her alone.
we get to about 9.15pm and my partner and niece leave in her car and upon returning , my partner was missing ,so my kids asked their aunt, where she was and she said had decided to go the boys house for the night as no one wanted her.
The sheer fallout and heartbreak my kids showed crushed me ,
they were inconsolable for hours and hours., their aunt tried calling her to come back and help calm them down ,but she turned her phone off,
when she returned the following morning I confronted her about what she had done to the kids was horrific, and asked her straight out have you kissed or had sex with that boy and she swore on the kids lives that she had not.
ive told her I am willing for the sake of the children and our 27 year history , willing to look past this and put our family first,
she insists its over between us and , and wants to keep the house.
which she cannot afford .
ive explained that even if she could afford it , it has to be sold to someone else she is not getting to keep the house I worked on solidly for 2 years , that will provide her with an income and let her keep the lifestyle she has been accustomed to,
ive told her that in 3 weeks when the last tenant leaves I am moving back into the house with my eldest, and she can aswell until its sold, I have even text her this to back up my offer.
what's my next move as I really don't want to break up my family