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Saw a great video of a British woman who’d started a daily health check for Covid. Since you lose your taste & smell, keep sipping wine. If you enjoy it, you know you’re ok. If you wake the next day feeling sweaty & achy, best to keep testing

We got hubs test results yesterday morning. Negative!!! We were able to enjoy Thanksgiving with his mom.

Great news little turtle!!!

Whew!

One thing I've lost in this pandemic is the ability to do volunteer work. I worked in schools, reading to kids, at a cat rescue in a petstore, at the airport greeting and tending to military families.

It's been hard, seeing the financial, emotional and physical suffering around me and only helping by increasing my monetary donations.

Well, I found 2 new opportunities! I'm working at rhe local Restore, a division of Habitat for Humanity. They take donations of household goods and furniture and sell it at amazing prices. If you need anything, I suggest you check it out. They often get a load of new, sometimes floor model, rugs and furniture, leftover tile and paint, etc. I'm great at organizing stuff, I've cleaned a few rooms and it's really gratifying. It's a large store, rarely more than 10 people at a time and social distancing is very doable.

I'm uncomfortable working at the Petsmart. The cat room is small and poorly ventilated. BUT I found another organization called KitKat playroom. It's a private home with 2 rooms dedicated to fostering KITTENS! Volunteers do some minimal cleaning and then-CUDDLE AND PLAY WITH KITTENS!

So much fun!

Lionne...you are AMAZING!

I’m worrying about getting my Christmas tree up, and you are volunteering all over!

But I do know what you mean about missing out on some of those things. I taught ESL at my church for several years until this past spring. Even though the schools opened up, with also an option to learn online, our church did not choose to offer the classes this fall. And I really miss it.

OK people…

It’s December 1 today. One month left in this bizarre year.

I’m trying to be hopeful that 2021 will be much better… It almost has to be, right?

I am a big believer that “thought is energy“. I’m really trying my best to have positive thoughts so that there will be positive energy.

So, y’all check in. How are you doing?

OK people…

It’s December 1 today. One month left in this bizarre year.

I’m trying to be hopeful that 2021 will be much better… It almost has to be, right?

I am a big believer that “thought is energy“. I’m really trying my best to have positive thoughts so that there will be positive energy.

So, y’all check in. How are you doing?

December 1st and here comes the snow. Figures today is Little M's hearing test so i have to go out in it. Yuck!

As much as I'd like to believe the end of 2020 will be the end of all this craziness, i fear with rising numbers and more and more people refusing to abide by public health measures, this is going to continue well into 2021.

I can handle wearing a mask and being extra diligent in cleaning, washing hands, distancing and staying home. What is really getting me down is constant "stop being a sheep", you're letting fear control you", "its all fake", the flu is worse blah blah blah. I haven't been on FB a lot because of it. I've unfriended people because its non stop, every post from them.

Physically I've had a few instances of dizziness. A few nights of my hands itching amd swelling up. Skin peeling. Every joint aching. Ringing in my left ear and my left eye will not focus sometimes. I feel like I'm suddenly coming apart at the seams.

Despite all that i wanted to join the old and new goat houses into one large one. Cut the wall to the old house but there was about a 4 inch gap. So i crawled back up onto the new house roof with a tarp and staple gun to lay it from one roof to the next, covering the gap. I'll put up the new roof trusses for the left side (old house) in the spring.

My kids all wrote letters to Santa and yesterday received standard letters back. They were thrilled. And each one was personalized to each kid at the bottom. That made it even more exciting for them.

How is everyone doing today???

So... my husband started getting “pain counseling“ yesterday. He spoke with a counselor about ways to engage a different part of his brain to offer distraction from focusing on pain. Playing challenging games on his tablet, or being with people, or watching certain TV programs… Ones that do not stress you out and that force your mind to engage.

He was initially “meh” about it. But afterwards, we went to the store to get a charging cable for his tablet that has been lost for some time. We have been having some trouble with the wheelchair lift on our van, but it did fine getting to the appt and leaving it. But, when we got out of the store, it was as if it was dead as 4 o’clock. So there we are, stranded at Walmart, and no way to get him in the van.

So we went inside and ate at the subway there. I called every supposedly wheelchair accessible taxi/transportation service in town, and - nothing. Even called my church to see if they had an accessible van that they could come and get us in. No.

But the very cool thing about this whole situation was that I kept making comments throughout every setback… “Well, this is a distraction!“, Referring to the suggestions that the pain counselor had made.I think my reaction to the whole situation… Not freaking out like I sometimes do… Was encouraging to him.

So we had nothing left to do but walk home with me pushing his wheelchair… Due to the fact that his brand new wheelchair that can go on its own with a small motor attached to it, has not been functioning properly. So I buy a coat at Walmart since I did not have one on, and we head out the door to start walking home. Not very far at all… Maybe a mile and a half to 2 miles.

My husband says, “Do you want to try it one last time?“. So I did, and low and behold it worked perfectly. I asked him if he wanted to trust it, because I was horrified at the thought that he might get halfway up the lift and it stop. It would have DEFINITELY been a distraction for us and for people seeing us on the road, for me to drive him home with him perched on the lift hanging out of the van halfway up! 🤣

Anyway, it all worked out fine… AND when we got home, he stayed up. 😳. I’m talking “up“ as in out of the bed. (He is in the bed 99% of the time now“) My sister came over and we made sausage balls, and I was cleaning house, and he was just up. Talking to us and watching TV with us. When he finally went to bed last night, he had been up for 14 hours. 🤗. He was in pain, but not so much that he asked to go to bed.

It will be a tough request, but I’m going to try my best to get him up today. If I can get him up every day for a week until he goes back to the pain counselor, maybe we will be over the “hump” of him being up more. In the morning, his pain was it a “5” out of 10. In the early afternoon it was up to a “six”, and up to a “7” by the time he went to bed. But most days he says it’s around and “8” all day long, so maybe this is going to help. 🤞🏽

Really hoping to hear from some of you about how you’re dealing with health and life and holidays. Hope everyone is doing as well as is possible.

Wow, Whats! That is awesome news! I've been reading a bit about how the pain cycle takes on a life of its own. This is very promising!

And your adventure...sounds like you made the best of it, and THAT is a wonderful way to approach setbacks!

We are all still okay, a close friend was diagnosed last week. He's quite sick but is on the mend. I had my 2nd pneumonia shot yesterday, man, was my arm sore! It's better, but still somewhat painful. Especially when my 20 lb cat decided he just HAD to snuggle under that arm!

Wait, you have pneumonia? How did I miss this?

Was this a preventative shot? Or a curative one?

Yes, I think it is quite possible that my reaction to difficult situations negatively impacts him..so I’m working on that!!!

Whats, it's a vaccine, guards against several things, I forget which now.

It was probably more painful than any other inoculation I've had but it's much better today. I suspect it was the administration as opposed to the vaccine itself. Never quite happy that a pharmacist does this and not a nurse...

Yes, I think it is quite possible that my reaction to difficult situations negatively impacts him..so I’m working on that!!!

This was my situation in reverse. I learned through IC that my responses to things were formed by xpos's treatment of me. If that is indeed what has been happening in your M, I'm glad you are taking it to heart and are working on it. Good on you.