newlife03 posted 3/23/2020 11:44 AM

I divorced xWH in 2009 and kept the married name for the sake of my kids being in school and thinking it would be "easier" for us to have the same last time. Fast forward 11 years later...two of my three are adults living on their own and my youngest will be a senior in high school this year. She's comfortable knowing that everyone who knows her knows that I am her mom and isn't concerned with the name change.

I did ask each of my kids how they felt about it, simply because it's still their name. My son said he didn't care and my older daughter said that since we're not married there's no need to hold onto it!

Took a while to remember how to write it again as I was married at age 19 and have spent the last 31 years with the married name.

Yay for me

AngelBetrayed posted 3/23/2020 12:15 PM

I went back to my aiden name before my divorce was final. It really feels more like myself to be using my maiden name. Even if I were to remarry, I would probably keep it.

Phoenix1 posted 3/23/2020 12:15 PM

Congrats!

hardtimesinlife posted 3/23/2020 18:26 PM

Nice! Congratulations

BearlyBreathing posted 3/23/2020 20:25 PM

Yes! You sound so strong and powerful. Love it!

betrayed 35 posted 3/23/2020 21:05 PM

I will keep mine for the same reason. Can't wait to change it back to MY name... He comes from a family of cheaters... Not a proud name to have.

Congrats!!!!

HalfTime2017 posted 3/23/2020 22:26 PM

Good for you. I wish my Ex would go back to her maiden name as well. It was in our Divorce decree that she would, but here we are and she's still keeping my name. Its annoying, but I'm not going to go thru the trouble of trying to enforce the decree and pay more to attorneys.

wildbananas posted 3/24/2020 09:53 AM

I went back to my aiden name before my divorce was final. It really feels more like myself to be using my maiden name. Even if I were to remarry, I would probably keep it.

Exactly the same here. I couldn't ditch my married name fast enough!

Congrats!

Williesmom posted 3/24/2020 10:36 AM

Woot!

foxglove posted 3/24/2020 11:42 AM

Good for you! This is one of the best decisions I made for myself when I divorced. I even remarried in 2018 and was very clear with my new husband that I would be sticking with my maiden name from now on.

thishurts123 posted 3/25/2020 09:34 AM

Good for you! I so wanted my maiden name back. Two of my kids were ok with it but one wasn't at all. She's special needs and did not handle the divorce well. My name being different from hers was too much to get her head around. I kept it for her but deep in my heart I wish I could have changed. Maybe someday.

newlife03 posted 3/26/2020 13:08 PM

Thank you, it really felt good, and knowing that my kids were ok with it definitely helped. I may or may not remarry again, and may take on a new name, no plans for any of that today!