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newlife03 (original poster member #56527) posted at 5:44 PM on Monday, March 23rd, 2020
I divorced xWH in 2009 and kept the married name for the sake of my kids being in school and thinking it would be "easier" for us to have the same last time. Fast forward 11 years later...two of my three are adults living on their own and my youngest will be a senior in high school this year. She's comfortable knowing that everyone who knows her knows that I am her mom and isn't concerned with the name change.
I did ask each of my kids how they felt about it, simply because it's still their name. My son said he didn't care and my older daughter said that since we're not married there's no need to hold onto it!
Took a while to remember how to write it again as I was married at age 19 and have spent the last 31 years with the married name.
Yay for me 
Me - 50
Kids 25, 22, 18
1st DDay in 2006, 2nd in 2007
D in 2009
Happily Committed to SO since 2011
AngelBetrayed ( member #28579) posted at 6:15 PM on Monday, March 23rd, 2020
I went back to my aiden name before my divorce was final. It really feels more like myself to be using my maiden name. Even if I were to remarry, I would probably keep it.
BW: Me 45 ( now 53 )
BH: Him 38. ( no longer relevant )
together 10 years, married 8 on DD
Reconciled for 6 years, Divorced
1 DD: 12
Confessed: February 26, 2010
PA 1.5 years with coworker MOW
Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 6:15 PM on Monday, March 23rd, 2020
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
hardtimesinlife ( member #10468) posted at 12:26 AM on Tuesday, March 24th, 2020
Ddays 2004 & 2007
I cut my losses mid 2013
Feeling happier every day :)
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 2:25 AM on Tuesday, March 24th, 2020
Yes! You sound so strong and powerful. Love it!
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
betrayed 35 ( member #22169) posted at 3:05 AM on Tuesday, March 24th, 2020
I will keep mine for the same reason. Can't wait to change it back to MY name... He comes from a family of cheaters... Not a proud name to have.
Congrats!!!!
dday 1 9-8-08 2nd 12-22-19
40 yrs old
two boys 14 and 16
working on divorce
I want off the roller coaster...
HalfTime2017 ( member #64366) posted at 4:26 AM on Tuesday, March 24th, 2020
Good for you. I wish my Ex would go back to her maiden name as well. It was in our Divorce decree that she would, but here we are and she's still keeping my name. Its annoying, but I'm not going to go thru the trouble of trying to enforce the decree and pay more to attorneys.
wildbananas ( member #10552) posted at 3:53 PM on Tuesday, March 24th, 2020
I went back to my aiden name before my divorce was final. It really feels more like myself to be using my maiden name. Even if I were to remarry, I would probably keep it.
Exactly the same here. I couldn't ditch my married name fast enough!
Congrats!
Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan
Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 4:36 PM on Tuesday, March 24th, 2020
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
foxglove ( member #21791) posted at 5:42 PM on Tuesday, March 24th, 2020
Good for you! This is one of the best decisions I made for myself when I divorced. I even remarried in 2018 and was very clear with my new husband that I would be sticking with my maiden name from now on.
Me (BS) 57
XH (WS)
Married 21 years
Divorced 2/19/07
Two grown sons
Remarried 9/18
thishurts123 ( member #58848) posted at 3:34 PM on Wednesday, March 25th, 2020
Good for you! I so wanted my maiden name back. Two of my kids were ok with it but one wasn't at all. She's special needs and did not handle the divorce well. My name being different from hers was too much to get her head around. I kept it for her but deep in my heart I wish I could have changed. Maybe someday.
newlife03 (original poster member #56527) posted at 7:08 PM on Thursday, March 26th, 2020
Thank you, it really felt good, and knowing that my kids were ok with it definitely helped. I may or may not remarry again, and may take on a new name, no plans for any of that today!
Me - 50
Kids 25, 22, 18
1st DDay in 2006, 2nd in 2007
D in 2009
Happily Committed to SO since 2011
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