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J707 ( member #63778) posted at 5:40 AM on Wednesday, February 26th, 2020
When I fall into the pits of despair, I let it ride. Getting out of it, I'm still working on. You've been through a lot! Try to put into prospective on what you have now. Gratitude. Gratitude goes a long way. I write down 3 things I'm grateful for every morning. Some are the same as yesterday, some not. Finding yourself, what interests you? Maybe a walk in this beautiful weather when you're down? I get in my funks and have to tell myself no! I'm not avoiding my emotions but I try and not let them control me. Our lives are what we make of them now, these funks come but you are stronger than you'll ever know. Sending you all the hugs (((((BB))))
ShesNotMine ( new member #60829) posted at 9:35 PM on Wednesday, February 26th, 2020
Really don’t have anything to add that hasn’t already been discussed. But you have a virtual hug coming your way. ((bearlybreathing))
[This message edited by ShesNotMine at 3:39 PM, February 26th (Wednesday)]
Me 38 at time of her EA/PA.
EXWW 30.
DDay #1 March 2016
Baby born August 2016
DDay #2 (paternity results) October 2016
D final Nov 2017
BearlyBreathing (original poster member #55075) posted at 2:52 AM on Thursday, February 27th, 2020
Thanks all. I truly appreciate the support.
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
Maudlin ( member #70107) posted at 2:11 PM on Thursday, February 27th, 2020
A little plug for the wonders of modern medicine. My marraige fell apart, my kids fell apart from that, my dad died, I had to move somewhere I hate...the pit done got me. I was going days without showering and leaving the house. I stared at the walls. I was making it, but barely...barely.
I started antidepressants a few weeks ago. 2 weeks ago I saw that “broom challenge” thing on Facebook, and I jumped up and did it much to my daughters delight. FYI it works all the time, it isn’t gravity. BUT- I never would have had the energy or curiousity before meds. It was my first sign I was getting better. Writing papers goes so much faster. I found myself singing to the radio and driving fast yesterday, that would never have happened.
Please talk to your dr. They exist for a reason. I am slowly starting to find joy and interest in this life again, thanks to medicine.
wildbananas ( member #10552) posted at 3:44 PM on Thursday, February 27th, 2020
Just sending hugs... I've been on the edge of the pit for a few years now. Hard things with two of the bananas, lost my mother, lost my sister (my last family member), surgery, work stuff... gah.
I don't quite know how to get away from the pit myself, but I do know reaching out is step one. And that's what you're doing. <3
Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan
EllieKMAS ( member #68900) posted at 4:58 PM on Thursday, February 27th, 2020
Are the weighted blankets hot tho? I have three dogs in the bed with me and at least one cat, sometimes two and I sleep like a furnace myself anyways... That's my only hesitation with getting a weighted blanket.
(((BB))) Some days it just ain't worth chewing through the restraints. But it gets better. This too shall pass! And I will second the meds suggestion - antidepressants have helped me immensely.
"No, it's you mothafucka, here's a list of reasons why." – Iliza Schlesinger
"The love that you lost isn't worth what it cost and in time you'll be glad that it's gone." – Linkin Park
CaliforniaNative ( member #60149) posted at 8:42 PM on Thursday, February 27th, 2020
Divorce and infidelity is a trip isn’t it? My life literally imploded 2.5 years ago. Found out my WH, who I was with for 17 years was cheating on me with someone 20 years younger. Then I kicked him out because I caught him texting her again.Then my dog dies of cancer, my home catches on fire, I become hospitalized with second degree burns to my hands. All this happened from August 2017 - January 2018.
I had to pick myself up, heal my life and do it without the liar, cheater thief. I did it.... built a new home that gave me over 600k in equity, healed my hands (minimal scars), promoted at work with a raise, reconnected with old friends and found myself again. Fell in ❤️ again with a handsome, kind man, if I can do this anyone can! You got this... keep moving forward.
ShatteredSakura ( member #70885) posted at 8:54 PM on Thursday, February 27th, 2020
Are the weighted blankets hot tho? I have three dogs in the bed with me and at least one cat, sometimes two and I sleep like a furnace myself anyways... That's my only hesitation with getting a weighted blanket.
Even ones that breath I'd expect they would. I'm the type that eventually throws my blankets off of me or is half in half out.
The bright side of being by myself though is I can have the thermostat set low 
. WW would be cold at 75 inside...
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