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StillLivin (original poster member #40229) posted at 8:05 PM on Wednesday, February 19th, 2020
A few years ago, about 2.5 (???), I posted about my cousin in an extremely physically abusive marriage. Her husband was also blatantly cheating, but that wasn't even close to the worst of her trauma. Unfortunately, she didn't leave until he choked her and left her for dead. That was finally her wake up call. She left, he did time for attempted murder, blag bekah blah.
Yesterday she called me upset. Her live in boyfriend that she was talking marriage with was cheating on her. Of course she was crushed. But you know what she wasn't,? She wasn't sticking around. Right now it's "only" an emotional affair (we all know emotional is just as hurtful), but she doesnt care. She has conviction and she knows that this shit isn't fucking acceptable. She went apartment shopping today. Man I'm so proud of this beast young lady. She's come so far. She called for my advice and support. During the conversation she thanked me for being real but not brutal. She also told me I am always right with my advice and that's why she comes to me. I won't sugarcoat a bunch of BS but I'll hold her hand while she's processing the truth.
I love this kid.
"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB: 7/2/2014
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 8:56 PM on Wednesday, February 19th, 2020
Awesome. Sorry she’s having to deal with it, but awesome that she is in fact dealing with it.
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
StillLivin (original poster member #40229) posted at 10:40 PM on Wednesday, February 19th, 2020
IKR. I feel so bad become she IS hurting, but she's also not taking any shit and truly knows her worth and that she deserves better. Doesnt make it hurt any less, though. And she is doing the roller coaster of emotions, we all know how that sucks. This is my baby cousin, more like niece because of the 20 year age difference. I love this kid so much, and wish I could take her pain for her. Sigh.
"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB: 7/2/2014
phmh ( member #34146) posted at 3:08 AM on Thursday, February 20th, 2020
Very proud of her for leaving both of these guys. I hope she takes your advice now that will help her have a NB that is even half as fabulous as yours has been! Thanks for being there for her and helping her out!!!
Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!
Married: 11 years, no kids
Character is destiny
StillLivin (original poster member #40229) posted at 6:53 PM on Thursday, February 20th, 2020
Thank you phmh, I hope she does too! I'm sure she's headed in the right direction!
"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB: 7/2/2014
deena04 ( member #41741) posted at 6:28 PM on Friday, March 6th, 2020
Sorry she is dealing with that again. Our bullshitt-o-meter lessens with each experience it seems. She rocks for getting out!
Me FBS 40s, Him XWS older than me (lovemywife4ever), D, He cheated before M, forgot to tell me. I’m free and loving life.
crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 4:50 PM on Saturday, March 7th, 2020
Wow that takes a lot of strength and perseverance to get out. She should be so proud of herself and to have you as support is priceless. You have helped me in many of my posts and ramblings 
fBS/fWS(me):51 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:53 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(21) DS(18)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Divorced 8/8/24
StillLivin (original poster member #40229) posted at 9:14 PM on Saturday, March 7th, 2020
Deena04, exactly. The life lessons suck but the knowledge we get is priceless.
CBS, you got this, you just sometimes can't see the forest for the trees. Having an outside voice/perspective from someone who finally made it out of the forest can be an assist. Ut ultimately, you got this...like I said. Ramble away. Lol and thanks.
"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB: 7/2/2014
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