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skeetermooch ( member #72169) posted at 6:19 PM on Saturday, January 11th, 2020
When I look at photos before him I look so vibrant and youthful, a little ways into my marriage, I look ten years older. I can't wait to see my vibrancy return as I put this further in the rearview.
I love reading these!
Me: BS 56 on DDay 1 - 7/2019 DIVORCED - 1/2021
Shehawk (original poster member #68741) posted at 8:58 PM on Monday, January 20th, 2020
One thing I have noticed is that the people I have in my life now are honest to me. They care deeply about me and pour energy into me...rather than take.
I feel secure in my relationships with people in my life. I know they love the real me.
I have a beautiful life on the other side of infidelity.
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
Shehawk (original poster member #68741) posted at 8:56 PM on Sunday, February 16th, 2020
I could really use some beauty stories today... Had a double dose of hate thrown at me by my can't be ex ch soon enough.
Just a lot of character assasination. And really hurting today.
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
CaliforniaNative ( member #60149) posted at 12:12 AM on Tuesday, February 18th, 2020
Shehawk,
I am so sorry you ex came at you. Just do yourself a favor and don’t talk to him or engage unless you absolutely have to. Toxic people are simply are not worth it. I have given up on my ex and I ever being friends.
So I live a couple of miles from the coast in Southern Ca and decided to go for a run. It was a beautiful hazy/foggy morning, peaceful and serine. Lots of cute surfers smiling as I ran by, little girls laughing at their dogs, seabirds looking for crabs and elderly couples walking hand in hand. As corny as it sounds, I so appreciate all of this. I am so glad I am out of the drama of “The Affair” and at the start of a beautiful new beginning. Life is good.
The Phoenix must burn to emerge
Shehawk (original poster member #68741) posted at 12:46 AM on Tuesday, February 18th, 2020
Thanks for the amazing visual California! I need some beach in my life!
Contact with him is unavoidable because he refuses to come to a financial agreement.
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
fareast ( Moderator #61555) posted at 1:21 AM on Tuesday, February 18th, 2020
Shehawk:
You have started a wonderful new life after coming out of the darkness. Your STBXWH is lashing out. His anger is a secondary emotion for jealousy of your new life among other things. You have moved on. Sticks and stones. He is deliberately trying to hurt you. Don’t let him. Have your attorney deal with him. If he gets nasty don’t engage. Good luck.
Never bother with things in your rearview mirror. Your best days are on the road in front of you.
Shehawk (original poster member #68741) posted at 2:27 AM on Tuesday, February 18th, 2020
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 12:38 PM on Tuesday, February 18th, 2020
Hang in there Shehawk. You are not alone. I get waves of hate from stbx regularly. You would think by now we would be used to it, but we can't always detach the way we want to. And some things just sting.
Sending huge hugs to you, and a sisterly fist bump. Keep moving forward. Do not respond no matter what.
I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural
Shehawk (original poster member #68741) posted at 3:37 PM on Wednesday, February 19th, 2020
Although dealing with him is currently unavoidable, I am blessed with people in my life who show me every single day that they love me. He continues to try to destroy me in every way he knows how to do. And after 3 decades he knows me well.
I know I do not deserve the abuse of infidelity. More importantly I know I deserve to be loved. And like a friend said about my ch's behavior, "that's not love".
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
Newbeginnings24 ( member #71510) posted at 10:41 PM on Wednesday, February 19th, 2020
Shehawk- he doesn’t know the new you. You may feel wounded and violated by his behaviour but try your best to respond and not react. Water off a ducks back. You will have blips, but you will learn from these. I’m there too. Keep going and stay focused.
Sending hugs 🤗
DDay....it doesn’t matter, it’s in the past!
Having a soft heart in a cruel world is courage, not weakness - Katherine Henson.
Walk out of that door and don’t look back!
Shehawk (original poster member #68741) posted at 7:01 PM on Monday, February 24th, 2020
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
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