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havequestions (original poster member #69759) posted at 2:52 AM on Thursday, August 1st, 2019
I had sex with a very attractive women for the first time since I split with my ww.
While I was nervous and probably didn’t perform as well as I wanted to, she was passionate, excited and very much into it.
My ww, who told me she only had sex with me out of obligation, made sex miserable and only cared about herself. Many times leaving the room when she finished and I wasn’t.
I can’t believe how good it felt to have someone want me again!!!!
Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 3:16 AM on Thursday, August 1st, 2019
Kinda makes you feel all warm and tingly inside knowing your still alive in that department after all, doesn't it? 
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
havequestions (original poster member #69759) posted at 4:17 AM on Thursday, August 1st, 2019
Makes me feel human again
Want2BHappyAgain ( member #45088) posted at 11:38 AM on Thursday, August 1st, 2019
Yep !!! I never had an O with my 1stH...didn't even know what it felt like. OH MY GOSH...I can't imagine NOW ever going through life without one...but you don't know what you don't know...you know???!!!
A "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.
With God ALL things are possible (Matthew 19:26)
I AM happy again...It CAN happen!!!
From respect comes great love...sassylee
WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 3:05 PM on Thursday, August 1st, 2019
Amazing how good sex can be when you're not being simultaneously abused by your partner, right?
Enjoy yourself, havequestions! You're back!
I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural
WornDown ( member #37977) posted at 3:35 PM on Thursday, August 1st, 2019
Congrats and good for you!
Me: BH (50); exW (49): Way too many guys to count. Three kids (D, D, S, all >20)Together 25 years, married 18; Divorced (July 2015)
I divorced a narc. Separate everything. NC as much as humanly possible and absolutely no phone calls. - Ch
Maudlin ( member #70107) posted at 7:35 PM on Saturday, August 3rd, 2019
Good for you!!
Since I found out about the hookers I’ve been online dating, and it’s been amazing. I felt old, unattractive, rejected. I gave up my youth (22 years!) for that loser, I thought. Well, it turns out there is a whole world of attractive, interesting men out there who actually want to make ME happy in bed rather than just themselves. It’s mind blowing really.
Our WS are narcissists and users, so it adds up they are selfish and lousy in bed but it’s quite another thing to really realize that.
I dont have the desire or emotional head space for a serious relationship, but I am thoroughly enjoying being a great big slut😂
havequestions (original poster member #69759) posted at 11:27 PM on Saturday, August 3rd, 2019
I hope this isn’t tmi, but she even asked what I like and proceeded to doing it! I can’t remember when my ww did that for me!
Braveyogi ( member #51596) posted at 5:34 PM on Friday, August 9th, 2019
this is such an inspiring post! thanks for sharing havequestions! I appreciate your (and the other poster's) honesty on this very important topic!
Me: BW
Him: XWH
Married 19 years, together 22 years
2 kids, 8 and 15
DDay #1 May 2010, OC born 2011
DDay #2 March 2016; moved 1500 miles away with OW#2 and her kids for a job.
Divorced May 2017
Not my circus, not my mon
JanaGreen ( member #29341) posted at 9:16 PM on Friday, August 9th, 2019
Oh it's amazing isn't it?? Happy for you havequestions!!!
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