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J707 (original poster member #63778) posted at 7:00 PM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2019
So I've been a closet guitar player for about 20 years. The past year I've written songs from all the hurt my stbwxww put me through, a way of journaling my thoughts when I was down and out. Fast forward about 14 months and almost D later I took the leap. My first time performing at an open Mic was empowering and fun! I did a song I wrote about the struggle at the beginning, finding myself, how her words don't hurt me anymore and I'm pushing forward. I sang it straight from the heart and got so many compliments. I met a bunch of really good people, men and women, that talked about what my song meant to them. A few of the women were hitting on me (made me feel good as my self esteem took a major hit because of her A) and boosted my self confidence as not only for my performance but knowing I can talk and go out without talking about my past, other then the words in the song of course. I was nervous as hell but I can't remember the last time I felt that good! Just a rant as I see better days are ahead for me!
Hobbyist ( member #55532) posted at 7:14 PM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2019
Congrats man, that's great! I've been to a few open mic nights as well, though I only do covers so that limits where I can play. It's great to step outside of your comfort zone and put yourself out there. Good job!
BH, 30's with 3 beautiful kids. Divorced in 2017 - SO much happier!
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 11:40 AM on Tuesday, June 4th, 2019
Great Job!!! I hope you continue with your music.
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 12:51 PM on Tuesday, June 4th, 2019
I love this post!! Way to go, J707!!
I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural
WornDown ( member #37977) posted at 1:29 PM on Tuesday, June 4th, 2019
Me: BH (50); exW (49): Way too many guys to count. Three kids (D, D, S, all >20)Together 25 years, married 18; Divorced (July 2015)
I divorced a narc. Separate everything. NC as much as humanly possible and absolutely no phone calls. - Ch
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 8:45 PM on Tuesday, June 4th, 2019
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
LoveTKO ( member #54298) posted at 2:29 PM on Friday, June 7th, 2019
Good for you!! I started going to a local open mic after Dday and separation that I had gone to years ago. I knew friends who went regularly and I wanted to go out and do something I enjoyed with people I knew and not think about the A. I really think this changed my life. I met many new friends both male and female and it gave me back my self-esteem that was damaged from years of emotional abuse living with a passive aggressive narcissist. It was a healthy way to get out socially and do something that I love (I just listen to the music). I'm so happy that you found this outlet too! 
Me: BW
Him: FWH
LTA one year with local MOW
Dday: 12/4/15
Done - separated
demolishedinside ( member #47839) posted at 4:33 AM on Monday, June 10th, 2019
Congrats! I can hear the joy in your post.
BS - me/3 kids
DD - April 2015 / SA-Jan. 28, 2017
DD2- October 23, 2018
Divorced and happy
lettingo ( member #61631) posted at 7:57 PM on Monday, June 10th, 2019
Me: BS (49)
Married 16yrs
DD18 & DS15
DDay 8/16/16 LTA
False R for 10 months, Filed for D 6/2017
"Without courage we cannot practice any other virtue with consistency. We can’t be kind, true, merciful, generous, or honest." -M Angelou
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