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DragnHeart ( Member #32122) posted at 8:01 PM on Wednesday, October 7th, 2020

Anyone else have the thing where you post to threads and get completely ignored. I realize some threads move along at a fast pace but damn. So not a thread killer but just not being acknowledged within one. Kinda sucks.

Chili, I've done similar. Lol. Actually more for the kids than myself. Like they have something on their face and trying to wipe it clean only to realize it's a freckle lol.

Oh my bathroom counter. Omg its marbled. Once spent 15 minutes thing to clean a mark that ended up being apart of the design. duh lol

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 Chili (original poster Member #35503) posted at 10:08 PM on Wednesday, October 7th, 2020

Well as to your question DH: I posted this about a year or so ago, so you're not alone.

Do you also ever wonder if you are incapable of killing a thread because you have actually been blocked by most of the posters there?

I often wonder if me not getting any responses on a thread is because I'm literally not being seen. I'm quite certain my presence is actually INVISIBLE over in General threads because no one like *ever* seems to notice that I respond. I type and it goes into some super secret SI vault for bad actors. I'm pretty sure everyone posting there has blocked me.

2012 pretty much sucked.
Things no longer suck.
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DragnHeart ( Member #32122) posted at 10:28 PM on Wednesday, October 7th, 2020

Yep that's exactly how I feel which really brings up nasty memories of growing up and never being seen. Ever.

If I was it was always someone bullying me. otherwise I was invisible.

Hell my parents didnt even realize I was missing the time I took an OD of meds. It's a miracle that by the time they finally realized I wasnt where I was supposed to be that I wasnt dead.

This is exactly why I tend to read here but not post. I want to be more useful than just doing SPF but it feels like my views opinions experiences mean squat.

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Notthevictem ( Member #44389) posted at 2:18 PM on Thursday, October 8th, 2020

Yup had tons of responses totally ignored. In all fairness they were about farts, so...

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DragnHeart ( Member #32122) posted at 2:27 PM on Thursday, October 8th, 2020

Yup had tons of responses totally ignored. In all fairness they were about farts, so...

I try to reply to your farts and I always look for fart related SPF material.

I guess I was just overly sensitive yesterday. Usually that sort of shit rolls right off. Some threads I should know better than to post to or even read. I stayed out of one thread because a response had set me off and I wanted to reply in all caps lol. Someone else eventually replied and was nicer than I would have been. Then later theres a 'cant believe there's not a huge response here' and omg guilt set in. Felt bad for not posting, woujd have been in trouble if I had ..

I feel theres been a shift here since we lost DS. Alot more butting heads and arguements.

I need to just stick to OT and SPF

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Notthevictem ( Member #44389) posted at 11:21 PM on Thursday, October 8th, 2020

There's also been... let's call them aggressive debates... here. I remember when I first got here I thought it was funny to egg the most irate folks on.

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 Chili (original poster Member #35503) posted at 6:23 PM on Friday, October 16th, 2020

Well Drgn you done did it now. Figured out how to not be invisible. Found the magic pill. A topic in General about SEX. Good goin'! Can't believe no one has thought of this before now.

[This message edited by Chili at 12:24 PM, October 16th (Friday)]

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Notthevictem ( Member #44389) posted at 6:26 PM on Friday, October 16th, 2020

No!!! My 8 day streak has been thwarted!!

Darn you chili!!

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DragnHeart ( Member #32122) posted at 6:46 PM on Friday, October 16th, 2020

Well Drgn you done did it now. Figured out how to not be invisible. Found the magic pill. A topic in General about SEX. Good goin'! Can't believe no one has thought of this before now

Totally didn't expect it to go from a smolder to raging fire like it has lol. And not my intention.

But ya not invisible anymore. Just "judgemental" lmao

To funny.

Ntv saw a good fart one for SPF them lost it before I was able to post it. Darn.

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Notthevictem ( Member #44389) posted at 6:50 PM on Friday, October 16th, 2020

Don't tempt me!! Such wickedness, such evil...

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DragnHeart ( Member #32122) posted at 6:58 PM on Friday, October 16th, 2020

I'll make sure to post a few fart ones next week. I had over 50 pages open and went to close the ones I already posted and did that fart one by accident. I open up pics in separate windows through out the week when I see stuff for SPF. I dont even recall what page I saw that on.

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Notthevictem ( Member #44389) posted at 7:10 PM on Friday, October 16th, 2020

That's okay. Just knowing that you care about farts too is enough for me!

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 Chili (original poster Member #35503) posted at 10:54 PM on Monday, October 26th, 2020

It's cold and rainy and icky and I'm still killing threads (especially my own) all these pages later.

And I know people zip in and out of SI for long periods of time, but I have been wondering about the welfare of some members we haven't seen for a quick minute. Just needing to send out a little good mojo here today...

2012 pretty much sucked.
Things no longer suck.
Loving flying solo with the co-pilot chili dog.
"Life teaches you how to live it if you live long enough" - Tony Bennett

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pureheartkit ( Member #62345) posted at 4:33 PM on Tuesday, October 27th, 2020

Yes, I think about people too and I hope they are just taking a little break.

We have wind and two new fires. Yesterday ashes blew in the air and made a mess. Leaves all over and my big umbrella was tossed by the wind and broke. The orchid house blew over and the neighborhood has broken branches all over. It's a mess but nothing compared to the anxiety of people living next to wildfires. Outside the smell of smoke is strong. The moon was a dark color too.

WS bought his usual big purchase of Halloween treats but heard the governor is saying kids should not go house to house. Now hes starting to eat more of the candy than usual. He makes a big effort every Halloween for the kids.

We went to a drive through church trunk or treat. The cars looked great and people had wonderful costumes. At the end they gave out a bag of mixed candy. Kids seemed a bit down not getting to go car to car and play the games. I'm happy people still made the effort and didn't cancel it completely.

Thank you everyone for your wisdom and healing.

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pureheartkit ( Member #62345) posted at 4:33 PM on Tuesday, October 27th, 2020

Today I am cooking something fresh apples from the you pick farm. It has been so busy there and people wear masks and try to distance but the whole area is crowded with people who want to get out and have a break and eat bbq and hear some music. The heat finally went and for the first time it feels cool and nice up there. Besides the masks, it feels like old times.

[This message edited by pureheartkit at 10:40 AM, October 27th (Tuesday)]

Thank you everyone for your wisdom and healing.

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maise ( Member #69516) posted at 4:19 PM on Friday, October 30th, 2020

Came to see if it was dead yet after all this time, but nope! Looks like there’s no crown in sight! Lol. It’s still on page 1 in off topics!!

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 Chili (original poster Member #35503) posted at 11:42 PM on Friday, October 30th, 2020

Came to see if it was dead yet after all this time, but nope!

Hey maise - nope - not yet! It moves at its own pace which is pretty lovely. I've come to think of it as the "water cooler/random thoughts" thread.

phk: glad you could have a couple of autumn "outings."

2012 pretty much sucked.
Things no longer suck.
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"Life teaches you how to live it if you live long enough" - Tony Bennett

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pureheartkit ( Member #62345) posted at 4:57 AM on Sunday, November 1st, 2020

I think I killed a few recently. Some that I really like I only read so as to keep them going.

This Halloween came and went and didn't feel like Halloween at all. WS is working on a film and so didn't decorate. I worked at my html project and my animation project all day. Burned up my enchiladas in the oven while i was trying to get my animated man to dance. The cat laid down next to the pumpkins but that was all the Halloween there was to be had this year. Most years it's pretty lively but this year nada. I felt a little down remembering parties we had there years past.

I was not at my sister's, I was over at my home. My sister dressed up the piano all spooky for her son's zoom recital. He played wearing his costume. He was king Peter from the Narnia books. A little young for Peter but looks good with his fair skin and blonde hair in the knight costume. He's got some faint freckles still from summer. He played in the hall of the mountain king since it was Halloween.

Thank you everyone for your wisdom and healing.

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JS84 ( Member #48148) posted at 8:45 AM on Sunday, November 1st, 2020

I'm not sure what's worse. Spending 10 - 30 minutes making a post and killing the thread or just being ignored altogether lol. I think it's just that this is a very active forum, it's easy for posts to get lost in all the noise.

That is why I don't really bother posting here much anymore though. Feel like I've wasted hours of time making posts for pretty much nothing. I still enjoy the forum though and reading posts.

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steadychevy ( Member #42608) posted at 12:38 AM on Monday, November 2nd, 2020

Stocked up with my favorite mini chocolate bars. Once again, no trick or treaters. Too sparsely populated. Treated myself.

This thread will never die. We are failures. It's more like Chili said - water cooler small talk.

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