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Not your circus, not your baby.

Seriously, 36, take a look at this: your maybe menopausal WAYWARD wife had unprotected sex with some work Lothario who was banging every person in the workplace (bosses, inferiors, etc) and has potentially become pregnant (unlikely, but still).

So? Seriously. So what does that mean for you? Legally nothing. Not your child.

The real question here is why does she continue to employ your children to throw these things at you. "Why aren't you talking to mom?" They should know by now what has happened and the fallout of that situation is, naturally, divorce. Hasn't this happened to your son as well? What was the fallout from that? Am I remembering that he is also divorced due to a cheating spouse?

I am with all the previous posters who said to explain to your children that you do not want to hear about WW. If that is a part of the conversation, you will end it.

You are allowing yourself to be pulled into something that at this point has little to do with you and more to do with manipulating you.

If your WW is pregnant with OM's baby so what?

She really is the drama queen.

No remorse, still selfish.

Do tell your son what is going on and her A.

Do get the R order thru your attorney.

It will help to avoid her and any future claims of DV.

36,

She has to be in her 50s. Women struggle to get pregnant in their early 40s. It would be a medical miracle for a woman in her mid to late 50s to get pregnant.

Don't believe this crap.

More importantly than the pregnancy nonsense does your son know what she did? He’s old enough to be told by his dad that his mom had sex 20+ times in different places and positions with a man from work and that is a deal breaker for you.

I am going to call him tonight to impart that understanding.

He should understand, especially if he is the one that had the cheating wife.

This son does not have a cheating wife. Thankfully he is very happily married.

What is the next step in the divorce proceedings?

My lawyer says it is a minimum of 60 days before any actual court proceedings, but more likely 90-120 days. I assume that somewhere in this process she will get a lawyer. The negotiations could take some time, but this is so new to me I don't really know what to expect.

You’re doing well. Keep it up.

A trial by fire for sure, but I plan on coming through okay.

What’s really strange is that your adult son didn’t even question his mother, when he knows about your vasectomy and knows about the affair?

hi 36，

As others stressed, IMO no contact os the best contact.

regarding her pregnancy, if.not fake.

not yiur circus, not your monkeys.

and seems like OM must by the cow after drinking the milk.

good luck

She has to be in her 50s. Women struggle to get pregnant in their early 40s.

That depends entirely on the woman. Some are more fertile than others. It's not likely that she's pregnant but it doesn't necessarily mean that it would take a miracle for her to get pregnant either.

36, you're doing great. I hope everything goes well with telling your son.

I’ll send you a personal check for $10000 if she is pregnant with your child.

She is not pregnant with your child. When your lawyer calls you back you will see you have nothing to worry about.

She’s not pregnant at all. It is extremely rare that a woman in her 50’s could conceive naturally.

I just truly wonder how the adult son wouldn’t question all of this (vasectomy, affair, age) before passing the info on to 36?

White women are sluts. I mean, there's nothing else to say. At this point in time, the vast majority of White females are bad.

Between their astronomically high infidelity rates, their astronomically high promiscuity rates, how many of them are teachers banging students, etc.. they have no morals, values or dignity. They sleep with everyone, regardless of race, gender, martial status, age.

They are just flat out bad. Not relationship material. Certainly not marriage material. I bet 98% of the cheating females on this site are White. They are just a bad, bad demographic when it comes to anything good.

This is why marriage is a joke in the West now. The majority female demographic is horrible to be married to.

Let your son know what happened, and with who. I know in my world that kind of betrayal gets met with ostracization.

He's most likely going to be living the same reality in due time.

I’ll send you a personal check for $10000 if she is pregnant with your child.

She is not pregnant with your child. When your lawyer calls you back you will see you have nothing to worry about.

I kinda doubt I'll be seeing that check. Of course she's not pregnant with my child.

She’s not pregnant at all. It is extremely rare that a woman in her 50’s could conceive naturally.

I just truly wonder how the adult son wouldn’t question all of this (vasectomy, affair, age) before passing the info on to 36?

I agree that it is highly unlikely she is pregnant. But why she thinks she needs to make it up is beyond me.

I have no doubt my adult son is questioning this. He knows that if she's pregnant the baby is not mine. He also knows that if she is pregnant then the baby is the result of his mother's affair. He's just acting at a go between for his mother.

White women are sluts. I mean, there's nothing else to say. At this point in time, the vast majority of White females are bad.

I think that's not only sexist, but racist as well.

Between their astronomically high infidelity rates, their astronomically high promiscuity rates, how many of them are teachers banging students, etc.. they have no morals, values or dignity. They sleep with everyone, regardless of race, gender, martial status, age.

You can't use anecdotal evidence to disparage an entire group/class of people.

They are just flat out bad. Not relationship material. Certainly not marriage material. I bet 98% of the cheating females on this site are White. They are just a bad, bad demographic when it comes to anything good.

Please see my first comment above.

This is why marriage is a joke in the West now. The majority female demographic is horrible to be married to.

What study are you quoting from? Statistics? I don't know anyone who has been married to the majority female demographic, so to disparage women as a group is unhealthy, disrespectful and ridiculous.

Let your son know what happened, and with who. I know in my world that kind of betrayal gets met with ostracization.

My son knows what happened.

He's most likely going to be living the same reality in due time.

He has an excellent marriage to a wonderful wife.

Projecting your experiences on to others is not particularly helpful.

My eldest son contacted me and wanted to know why I refused to communicate with his mother.

And so, what did you say?

But what’s the go between?

Hey dad, mom seems to be miraculously impregnated with POSOM’s baby?

I just don’t get it. An adult son would question this from his mother.

Atemugs.....that is totally uncalled for and strictly against the rules of this site.

Please refrain from sweeping generalizations.

k9

My eldest son contacted me and wanted to know why I refused to communicate with his mother.

And so, what did you say?

I told him or reiterated, that his mother had an affair, that she appears to be unrepentant and that we are going through a divorce. I also said I have been advised not to speak with her.

He did ask about reconciliation and whether or not that was still an option. Then he wanted to know how we could ever reconcile if we weren't communicating with each other. I told him I don't really know the answer to that question.

Some of this conversation happened earlier this morning and some happened just a few minutes ago.

I did tell him that if his mother was truly pregnant she should get out in front of the issue and sue her KISA for child support.

Ate mugs,

You should really start your own thread with “your” beliefs about “white” women.

Don’t hijack someone else’s thread and espouse such absurdity.

Go for it. I double dare you.

Love,

A white woman

Greeneyesbluezy

Ate mugs,

You should really start your own thread with “your” beliefs about “white” women.

Don’t hijack someone else’s thread and espouse such absurdity.

Go for it. I double dare you.

Kudos to you Greeneyesbluezy.

White women are sluts. I mean, there's nothing else to say. At this point in time, the vast majority of White females are bad.

Between their astronomically high infidelity rates, their astronomically high promiscuity rates, how many of them are teachers banging students, etc.. they have no morals, values or dignity. They sleep with everyone, regardless of race, gender, martial status, age.

They are just flat out bad. Not relationship material. Certainly not marriage material. I bet 98% of the cheating females on this site are White. They are just a bad, bad demographic when it comes to anything good.

This is why marriage is a joke in the West now. The majority female demographic is horrible to be married to.

Let your son know what happened, and with who. I know in my world that kind of betrayal gets met with ostracization.

He's most likely going to be living the same reality in due time.

What the hell is this???

Mod Please.