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And don't stop until you blow up weasel's world.

He made damn sure he blew up yours!

[This message edited by MidnightRun at 3:02 PM, August 31st (Thursday)]

i agree.

tell her

wife, neither of us is happy. id be willing to work on the m but you arent. im not prepared to share my wife with another man. so, lease sign the papers. you wont have anything stopping you from going to om. in fact, wife i want you to. i jave your bags packed and right after you sign you can go be with him. go be happy.

then hand her the papers.

she will most likely shit her pants. there is a reason shes not there. want to bet he doesnt want her there?

take the initiative. dont evet let the ws set the tempo. you do it. gain control.

Have the VAR running! A witness wouldn't be a bad idea either,....just in case.

I don't know....

I have to work 16 hour night shifts Fri Sat Sun because its Labor Day weekend and the arrest rate will be crazy.

Personally, I'd want to wait until after a stressful 16 hours in a crazy job. I wouldn't want to give her that 16 hours alone at the house after telling her it's over. - to plan, to break things?, to lie to the kids, lie to others, to ...who knows what.

Coming home after a shift like that not knowing what you were walking into with no sleep.

Well, a new twist. She has a picture of her and the asshole on her phone as wall paper. She left her phone open and walked away and my son saw the fucking picture. NICE, heblllokrd down and went"ohhhhhhk" and quickly walked away. She's gone with my daughter to Girl Scouts and I'm just waiting for the questions to come....

Whatever you do don't lie to him. Also, don't leave it up to your wife to lie to him.

Oh hell no. I am gonna make that bitch sit right down and we both are going to tell them all about mommys new friend she has. then I am telling all of his friends , his parents, I can contact and all of hers.

Using picture as wall for you to see?

Sounds like high school!

Stay the 180 and do what's needed.

[This message edited by MidnightRun at 7:33 PM, August 31st (Thursday)]

sounds like a set up for you to see and how hard she can kick you in the guts

Please just fucking sign the papers

GW,

You need to take pictures of her phone with that wallpaper and forward them immediately to the military as part of your evidence.

The other thing that makes me wonder is, if she signs the papers now, will that have any impact on the investigation into the OM's actions. Can he still face consequences for historical actions, or will they view it that your wife is no longer a married woman, so he is no longer committing adultery? It could be that your wife is trying to provoke you into a quick divorce to change the situation in a way that will make the OM 'safer' (depending on what action the military are thinking of taking), and which will mean they cannot really enforce NC, if she is no longer married.

It's a horrible and confusing situation, but these thoughts occurred to me, and I thought it best to mention than rather than stay silent.

Sending you strength and sympathy as you get through this.

nothing makes the military crap like an elected federal official (your congressman) looking into things.

id escalate. call your congressman. call the army headquarters (not his THE dept of army) and push to speak to highest rank you can. that will run downhill fast, believe me, abd set off a panic.

Did you call the military yet? If you get stalling, tell then they've got 4 hours before you go to your Congressman and throw a shitstorm. Makes sure and ask for the names of the people you are talking to. Repeat it back to them. Have them spell it if necessary. That's makes people in govt very nervous.

[This message edited by twisted at 11:17 AM, September 1st (Friday)]

Twisted, getting correct spelling of contact names in the military was a tactic that I was thinking as well, but failed to include in my earlier post.

This should be done up and down the line.

At any rate, blow the shit up.

[This message edited by MidnightRun at 11:38 AM, September 1st (Friday)]

Midnight, yep, nobody wants to put their name on any document unless they have to, and nobody wants to be caught with the hot potato sitting on their desk when the music stops. So it just keep going up the chain of command, or off into limbo.

That's why nobody wants to have their name the last one on the list.

GW....just saw this on the news wire...might be interesting to print it out and leave it for your WW to see.....

http://www.msn.com/en-us/news/us/army-suspends-general-amid-racy-text-investigation/ar-AAr5UV3?li=BBnbfcL

GW,

Read article 134 of Uniform Code of Military Justice.

POSOM's ass is toast.

Yes the military is making very public examples nowadays at high levels. Loverboy is fucked especially with the proof of classified information as long as you move up the chain with carbon copied letters and emails. Visible written documentation will get their attention. :)

All that is very fun and satisfying, but is of secondary importance to you right now. They are the icing on the cake, not the cake.

When you get off of your long weekend shifts, your first priority is securing assets to make your position one of strength. Who will you trust with what you've worked for? The WW and her advisor?

What I meant by that is to get the damn papers signed!

Otherwise odds are good that WW and her lover can fuck you over financially as well as emotionally.

You've been fucked over once. Let's not do that again.

I would like to suggest you het a court order prohibiting your wife from taking the kids across state lines or moving them out of your house.

Though I'm in KY I don't know old kids have to be before they can decide who they want to live with. She needs to move out and pay you child support.

Pensions are also community property I think. You should be consulting an attorney.