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Boundaries and Consequences 101 for all new BS

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bufffalo ( Member #21854) posted at 7:05 AM on Friday, December 23rd, 2011

DDay 9/25/2008

BH-me

posts: 6172   ·   registered: Dec. 1st, 2008   ·   location: Texas
id 5599355
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 lordhasaplan? (original poster Member #30079) posted at 3:24 AM on Friday, January 6th, 2012

BS- Me (45)
D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
Currently in R.
Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.

posts: 2104   ·   registered: Nov. 10th, 2010
id 5621692
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Fighting2Survive ( Member #28410) posted at 12:01 AM on Tuesday, January 10th, 2012

bump

Me: BW, 40.......Him: FWH, 40
D-day: 3-22-10
DS1: 11, DS2: crawling
Status: R going well

"When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed." - Iyanla Vanzant, Broken Pieces

posts: 7279   ·   registered: Apr. 30th, 2010   ·   location: NC
id 5628337
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bufffalo ( Member #21854) posted at 6:27 AM on Sunday, January 15th, 2012

DDay 9/25/2008

BH-me

posts: 6172   ·   registered: Dec. 1st, 2008   ·   location: Texas
id 5638185
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2_4giving4_2long ( Member #34008) posted at 10:24 PM on Sunday, January 15th, 2012

oooooooooh. I just asked about boundaries on another forum. This makes so much sense to me now. Thank you.

Me 52
He 49
DDay 11/06/11
Married 23 years
2 adult children.

posts: 159   ·   registered: Nov. 25th, 2011
id 5639059
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numbandnauseous ( Member #34525) posted at 10:40 PM on Sunday, January 15th, 2012

thanks - really helpful for us newbies!

BS (me) - 50
WH - 58, EA with HS GF x 2, now deceased
M: 15 years, T: 20, divorced
2 teenage children
DDay#1 - Christmas 2011 (OW#1)
Confronted - 4/6/12
DDay#2 - July 9, 2012 (OW#2)
He is an SA (Oct 2012)

posts: 828   ·   registered: Jan. 13th, 2012   ·   location: the other side
id 5639097
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AttemptStrength ( Member #27947) posted at 6:06 AM on Monday, January 23rd, 2012

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BS me
WS him x2 A's
1 autistic DS

I'd never have spent the money on a wedding dress if I knew I was just going to a costume party.

posts: 1992   ·   registered: Mar. 16th, 2010   ·   location: Wisconsin
id 5651830
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 lordhasaplan? (original poster Member #30079) posted at 4:31 PM on Tuesday, January 24th, 2012

bump

BS- Me (45)
D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
Currently in R.
Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.

posts: 2104   ·   registered: Nov. 10th, 2010
id 5654437
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 lordhasaplan? (original poster Member #30079) posted at 1:53 AM on Wednesday, January 25th, 2012

Bump for Emily's

BS- Me (45)
D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
Currently in R.
Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.

posts: 2104   ·   registered: Nov. 10th, 2010
id 5655594
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OnAnIsland ( Member #34319) posted at 4:12 PM on Wednesday, January 25th, 2012

Thank you.

D-day: Christmas 2011
D-day 2: 3/28/2013

Married for over 15 years
2 beautiful sons

You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. Maya Angelou

posts: 1486   ·   registered: Dec. 28th, 2011
id 5656460
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unarmbears ( Member #7480) posted at 3:37 PM on Sunday, January 29th, 2012

FBS-Me, 67
FWH-Him, 62
2 Sons 33 and 38
2 Daughters 36 & 31 And 5 darling grandchildren!
"Love is an impulsive act, it's free. It's the story we tell about it afterward that's our poverty." Byron Katie

posts: 4904   ·   registered: Jun. 27th, 2005   ·   location: From where the trees lean east...
id 5663408
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annb ( Member #22386) posted at 6:47 PM on Tuesday, February 7th, 2012

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posts: 11257   ·   registered: Jan. 10th, 2009   ·   location: Northeast
id 5678758
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wonderingbull ( Member #14833) posted at 7:04 PM on Friday, February 10th, 2012

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The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time...

James Taylor

posts: 6054   ·   registered: Jun. 1st, 2007   ·   location: A better place
id 5685250
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LisaP ( Member #15088) posted at 1:18 AM on Monday, February 13th, 2012

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Me BS

Divorced!

~Feel your emotions, but control your behavior~ Unknown

posts: 2200   ·   registered: Jun. 23rd, 2007   ·   location: Oregon
id 5689018
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 lordhasaplan? (original poster Member #30079) posted at 1:04 AM on Thursday, February 16th, 2012

BS- Me (45)
D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
Currently in R.
Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.

posts: 2104   ·   registered: Nov. 10th, 2010
id 5695243
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nowiknow23 ( Member #33226) posted at 2:32 PM on Saturday, February 18th, 2012

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

posts: 40250   ·   registered: Aug. 29th, 2011
id 5699716
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al35118 ( Member #33649) posted at 4:50 PM on Thursday, March 1st, 2012

bump

Bh 48
FWW 31
Married Jan 24th 2012
D-Day June 17 2011
Then TT until Oct 19,2011

posts: 79   ·   registered: Oct. 17th, 2011   ·   location: Bama
id 5720361
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bufffalo ( Member #21854) posted at 5:12 PM on Saturday, March 3rd, 2012

DDay 9/25/2008

BH-me

posts: 6172   ·   registered: Dec. 1st, 2008   ·   location: Texas
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DixieDiamondfly ( Member #34830) posted at 9:07 PM on Wednesday, March 7th, 2012

Thank you so much for this post. I struggle with setting boundaries, so this really underscores the importance of it. I've just go to figure out what the boundaries should be.

BS: Me, 56 yrs. young
XWS: Him, 60 yo
KIDS: 33 yo son, 31 yo son, 25 yo daughter...and three wonderful grandsons and a beautiful granddaughter.
Married 34 yrs.
D-Day #1: 2/8/12
D-Day #2: 7/16/2012
D-Day #3: 3/29/2015
Divorced!

posts: 182   ·   registered: Feb. 15th, 2012   ·   location: Gulf Coast
id 5730958
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SuperDuperWonderboy ( Member #34716) posted at 3:39 AM on Friday, March 9th, 2012

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My Friends call me Wonderboy--That's Mr. SuperduperWonderboy to you Tred.

posts: 1356   ·   registered: Feb. 2nd, 2012   ·   location: Everett
id 5733771
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