Two years ago I was involved (online in a chatroom) with a clinical narcissist starting in Summer 0f 2019 and ending in Summer of 2020. Anyone who has been thru that type of emotional/verbal abuse knows the severity of it & thank God it was just ONLINE. We may have had a "bad" boyfriend or husband in life, but dealing with a clinical narcissist is a different animal. I've educated myself on these creatures in depth....so in depth I should have a Masters in psych by now, LOL. I went thru all the phases, the idealization, love bombing, devalue, discard and replace stages. All the while he was still trying to contact me daily, even during the discard and replace stages and continued to call well over a year after I went NC.
And the "flying monkey" he triangulated and replaced me with was a piece of work herself. The drama queen herself has admitted to being diagnosed a borderline. In summer of 2020, I messaged her on the chat program to ask if they were talking, she denied it, even though they were. Then I was nice enough to warn the poor girl about him. After she was sneaking around with him as well as saying things behind my back, the smartest chess move I could have made was going cold NC and letting her get a taste of the roller coaster ride that she supposedly wanted to experience so badly without me standing in the way. "Here ya go, he's all yours...have fun, lemme know how it goes." Har Har Har!
So, on this chat program, there is a toxic and negative "drama" chatroom called the Lion's Den where people bash and bully each other for pure fun. I don't go in that chatroom on my main screenname because I don't want anymore drama than I've already was thrown into 2 years ago, however I do go on a fake name to watch the OW get trashed by everyone. Men and women in that chatroom tell her personal business, call her ugly, call her a bad mom, call her a slut, basically everything she accused me of being.
I know what you are thinking, "I WISH I COULD WATCH THE OW GET THE CRAP KICKED OUT OF HER BY OTHERS ON A DAILY BASIS! LOL. However, it's getting to a point where it's just unproductive and taking time away from me trying to improve my life. It's almost like an addiction, waiting around for her to get in a fight and lose, which happens daily. And then once I feel like I got to witness a dose of her karma, which doesn't take long, I sign out. Talk about narcissistic! I'm being "narcissistic" myself, getting joy from someone else's pain, even though this girl DESERVES it times 10.
I already know she will continue to get trashed and exposed in that chatroom whether I'm there on a fake name or not, so WHY DO I KEEP GOING BACK TO WITNESS HER DAILY KARMA? Are there any tips you guys have to disconnect from this particular addiction. Is this a form of obsessive compulsive disorder?